I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and he keeps promising we will get married but we never have. He says he wants to marry me, and can give no reason not too. He is such a prcratinator and don't feel he ever will, which discourages me. Can anyone help me and tell me why?
2007-12-30 01:26:54 · 17 answers · asked by luckygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the thing about guys...the more you bug them about something...the more they wont do it. Dont make him propose to you, because he'll do it so you dont get mad...he should do it because he loves you. dont get discouraged, if its meant to be then it will be. My friends dated her man for 15 years before they even got engaged.People are doing things later in life nowadays....Getting married in their late 20's, having kids in their mid 30's...its perfectly normal
2007-12-30 01:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Leannamick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a previous post to your question - he has no need to marry you if you already live with him and therefore act as his wife anyway. He has the best of all worlds - sex on tap, someone to come home to at night and no commitment! Plus, he can keep his options open so that if he ever meets a woman he really is besotted with then he can just pack his bags and go. Why do women waste so much precious time on men like this? Try reading He's Just Not That Into You for more help.
2007-12-30 10:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by colgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just not ready to be married. Just because you have been with someone a couple years doesnt mean that you have to get married. Many people have been in relationshis more than 10 years but still arent married. You should sit down and talk with him about the situation. He might feel that you are rushing him into marriage and just isnt prepared yet.
2007-12-30 09:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready! Ask yourself this, if you get married and have the big wedding and the perfect ring, what happens when he starts to resent you for forcing him to get married? Just wait it out, work on building trust and communication. When he wants to hang out with friends, let him. You know that he's coming home to you. When he tells you something that you may not agree with, don't voice your opinion in a condeming manner. Allow him to be who he is, and know that he's coming home to you. Best of luck.
2007-12-30 09:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next step would be to get him to propose to you. If he won't even do that... he may not be ready. He may not want to be tied down for the rest of his life. He may be waiting for the right time. If you really feel that you are in a dead end relationship then end it, and find someone that you can have a future with.
2007-12-30 09:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Azz hole here giving females advice on men...
Two years and he has not even given you a ring.
He is not ready for a lifetime commitment yet. I am not saying he is cheating, but some men are afraid of the word marriage...
Lay it on him - marry me or loose me. If thats how you feel. If you are afraid of wasting time of your life on a maybe then either sh*t or get off the pot.
2007-12-30 09:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by azz hole 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think he is telling you he needs more time , two years is a long time , but it always adds up in the end , if you really love him and want to get married , then sit down and tell him you want it to happen , not to put it off till the end . tell him you love him , and you are wanting love before anything else . :]
No Worries
-Savanna
2007-12-30 09:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by Savannabanana. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a choice, continue the way he wants or start looking for another man. You must decide what you want. How long do you want to wait to see if he will really marry you??????????
2007-12-30 09:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years isn't a long time, and if this is Mr. Right, he'll still be Mr. Right in a few more years. Relax and enjoy this time in your life. You're young, free, and in love. Ride it out.
2007-12-30 11:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by judy y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're giving him everything a married woman would give her husband, he sees no reason to get married. Otherwise, I'd let him go to find some other woman to use.
2007-12-30 10:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sassie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋