2007-12-29 23:23:28 · 23 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, of course it is. There is no reason why partners cannot spend some time apart and pursue interests they don't share in common...a lot of guys I've known who have been joined at the hip end up resenting each other...part of being a 'couple' is not loss of each other's identity, but in being able to foster and support each other, and that includes private time apart.
Of course, to do that you have to actually HAVE a partner...as imaginary ones are really hard to explain to the neighbours! LOL
2007-12-29 23:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be. Everyone and every situation is different.
My partner and I have been together for 3 years and have lived together for the past 2 years. For the first year we only saw each other on the weekends because we lived over an hour apart but we had the same days off. We've talked every single day since the day we met.
We took a Vegas vacation together after six months of dating and remodeled a bathroom after ten months together. We survived that without any major insult or injury, so I invited him to move in with me!
Two years later, we bought a house where we now live very comfortably together and we work the same shift at the same company but in different positions and departments. We still have the same days off and spend almost all our time together.
Co-dependent? Maybe, but I never imagined I would find the one person who I'd enjoy so much I just can't get enough! I know our situation is odd by comparison but it works for us, and I really wouldn't want it any other way. We have the same friends and our families are close. We have it very good and I know how lucky I've been to find and share my life with my 'soul-mate'. =o)
I wish everyone out there the same great fortune I've had.
2007-12-30 07:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by bzyboi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely. My first partner and I were together all of the time for 5 1/2 years. I'm surprised we were together for so long, because we were always getting on each other's nerves. My current partner and I spend time when we are off work together, but he works a different shift than I do to allow us ample time apart.
2007-12-30 07:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both at work all week then it is a good thing to be together as you could grow apart. If you are likely to be together 24/7 then you should have your own free time or the opposite could happen and you get in each others way and get on each others nerves. We all need our own space and time alone or with other friends. Men that retire and are suddenly at home all day find that their relationship suffers with their wives.
2007-12-30 07:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by ANF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you eventually start stepping on each others' toes and start nit picking. My partner and I were unemployeed for about a month together and we pretty much got in each others' way. Now we both work full time and we are sometimes on different shifts and we really enjoy spending our free time together. But we still aren't always with each other if we have the time off. I like going shopping alone. He always runs through the store. I like to take my time.
2007-12-30 07:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Most couples that do so break up within 3 years.
For the simple reason that the extremely important 'longing' has no time to build up again.
Same applies by the way to all those having to cell phone-e-mail-msn each other all day long - not giving their relation any time to breathe.
2007-12-30 07:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatley, everybody needs their own space from time to time and to do their own thing.
each partner should be able to understand the need for each one to be alone or with their own friends and trust the other. At the end of the day what is the basis for any relationship Trust.
2007-12-30 07:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by borderscot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both work in the same place but in different jobs in the plant. We dont see much of each other there except to meet up for lunch. But outside of work we are rarely separated. We both enjoy being together and when separated he will call just to tell me he loves me and misses meand I do the same. We have been together over 18 years. It may not work for all couples but it works for us.
2007-12-30 10:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a sense it is. each person requires a degree fo individuality and time out to enjoy activities they like that their partner may not. You each need to maintain a certain sense of independence. To be all wrapped up in each other makes you so dependent on each other you may well not maintain a healthy social life, not have a good circle of friends, and may not maintain who you are as a person.
2007-12-30 08:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about unhealthy, but it is good to have individual experiences. If for no other reason than it makes conversations better when you can share unique personal experiences in the times when you and your partner are together.
2007-12-30 07:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Eunice C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋