Well i told my husband i know he has a girlfriend i showed him the texts he has been sending he is angry at me says i was going through his stuff
i was
and i found condoms i asked why do you have condoms anyway a world war has started i think he has been planning stuff anyway
2007-12-29 21:38:09 · 18 answers · asked by esteem 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With kids, I'd go to counseling. Without, I'd leave him like a stalled taxi.
2007-12-29 21:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've read the answers to your question and everyone is telling u right u need to drop him i know u married him for the right reasons and u thought he was a good mate, and u got married in front of the whole church, but don't stay in a marriage because of your pride and what u think others might say, he broke the union u had w/ him once he cheated and committed adultery so the bonds are broken and he will cheat again either w/ the same woman or others, he's basically telling u that he doesn't love u he said "he doesn't feel like there is as much love between us as there was" which means he doesn't love u anymore or in my opinion maybe he never loved u in the 1st place! Don't invest anymore of your time in this marriage, the simple fact that his ex knows u know means he doesn't even respect u!!! Get out before your kids grow even more attached to this JERK!
2016-04-02 01:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids or no kids, how happy are you at the moment? like anyone who that would be happening to, i believe that your probably heart broken. you must love him for even coming onto answers sweetheart and my heart really goes out to you. the thing that works best 'in my opinion', is a 'short, sharp, shock!'
but this will need you to be very brave sweetheart. LEAVE HIM, it doesn't have to be forever just a couple of weeks to show him how much he depends on you, loves you, misses you when your not there. dont tell him where your going, let him know how it feels not to know where your other half is, or what they're doing or who with. im my opinion this will either make or break you, if he really loves you it will make you. as will if you can forgive him. however, if you cant forgive him then there is no point prolonging the agony. and remember babe, if he has done it once, he may do it again. when you go back do it on the basis that you will only return if you go to a marriage guidance councilor. good luck babe x x x x x x x x x x
2007-12-29 21:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by sparklel21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I am so sorry. I have been there and it is so hard to try and understand why someone could do that to another human being. I can't sit here and tell you to NOT try and save your marriage., but you know fully well there is no way you are going to ever stop his cheating. Just how much can you take, with him being unfaithful to you. Condom or no condom, you could still contract some sort of STD. It is not fair to you, for you to have to worry about such things. . .I know fully well what it is to love someone that doesn't love you back. It hurts so damn bad. Really the best thing you could do for yourself is to find you someone that is going to love and appreciate you. Someone that will be faithful, and I promise you, there are men out there that will do just that. Take care, I know you are going thru a hard time right now but things will get better, when you make them better. . .
2007-12-29 21:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
luv luv luv, he is cheating on you hello are you not worth more than this?? You say that you love him, um do you really think that while he is banging another woman that he is going oh my god i love my wife??? This is a time for you to stand up for you, and hell yes world war has started because you have caught him out and he feels guilty. I know what i would be doing, pls take care of yourself and know that no woman or man deserves to be cheated on. On the upside karma has away of working things out and ppl like that get there just deserves :-)
2007-12-29 21:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by lilmiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sort your finances out first,then you have some choices to make will he go for counseling with you and see if that helps,to be honest honey I really feel for you,if you think he has been planning stuff you need to make a plan for you ,its not the way you treat someone you love the way he is acting towards you
2007-12-29 22:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater. You choice to do what you should do. The only way guys cheat is that the woman doesn't satisfy him anymore so he's going some were Else.
Try counseling before a divorce. You will be happier with that choice if he's willing to go.
2007-12-29 21:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are financially stuck , stay with him.
Dont leave., he can get you for abandoning the marriage.
Get a lawyer fast. Talk to him, negotiate a fair seperation , with money attached of course. to survive.
He is angry cause he screwed up at leaveing evidence around and you found it. He is angry at himself. Now things
are going to beome exspensive for him.
Dec.30.2007.
2007-12-29 21:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by gracb2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad..... I think it isn't worth saving.. it appears he doesn't love you anymore.
I'm sorry this has happened to you, but as a wife, if you have suspicions, you have a right to go through his stuff.
Glad you found out! The ultimate decision is up to you, but that's one thing I wouldn't tolerate: Cheating.
good luck
2007-12-29 21:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some cultures take it as a norm but not all except such?
talk to him and see if it would affect your marriage,family and future? if it does...have to put a stop and solve everything and divorce should be the last option.
as they say, once the heart changes it done....do your best and if a break have to be...so be it....
life is not all about romance but making wise choices and decisions.
2007-12-29 21:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by constructor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋