I am a sophomore in college and I am good friends with this one girl...we have known each other since the beginning of freshman year and we consider each other pretty good freinds. I developed a crush on her around christmas time and told her.....she was very mature about it and said she basically didnt feel the same way. Even after that we are still very good friends.
She told me last summer that I should come visit her but I never did. And when we left 2 weeks ago for winter break she mentioned it a few times that I should come visit her during the winter break.
So, what I am wondering is, could this be some sort of test? I am not trying to look too far into it because she didnt reciprocate my advances last year, but I cannot help but wonder. What I mean is, could it be that she wants to see if I like her enough as a "friend" to come visit her, and then if I do maybe be more? Women would you or have you ever done something like this?
2007-12-29 19:44:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she might see diffrently now GO FOR IT
2007-12-29 19:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit her. Women like the chase. Be a friend and look deeply into her signals. And tell her how you feel about her again, this time if nothing has changed then know this is a good friendship and nothing else. She wants you to visit to probably see if she still has a chance with you. Try it and good luck. The harder the guy works, the more invested he is and it shows. We like that cause if men get "in" so easily then what makes her so special. You have to prove you want her and remember to keep doing all these wonderful things throughout! Please dont be like most men and change once you have her. This is what attracted her to you so why stop? dont! GL :)
2007-12-29 19:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by mistista07 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if it's some kind of test as it really doesn't impose any sort of hardship on you unless you are poor and it would cost you an excessive amount of money to see her and she's aware of that fact.
I would take it at face value unless there are clear indications to the contrarary the operative word here being "clear". In the meantime, you should look more into developing other friendships and interests. Not only will this make her of less importance in your own life, but it will also make you more attractive in general. That might make you more attractive to her - if you are still interested in her by then.
2007-12-29 19:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were to test someone like that, i would tell them.
I have, however, been tested like this. This guy i swore up and down i was in love with, after he moved, told me if i loved him i would visit him all the time. I was 15 years old, just started learning how to drive, and focusing on school. I'm in nebraska and he's in north dakota. Again i was 15 years old.
If you care about her, and if you want to go visit her, then do it for you, not for her. That sounds selfish, but don't put yourself in a situation you might not be ready for. And if you are going, go into it with no expectations, thats the best way to do it.
Hope i was of assistance.
God bless
2007-12-29 19:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she likes you as a friend and enjoys your company...maybe more but you should keep your distances...i mean by that do not show your interested in more than friends since you have already revealed your feelings in the past and she was not there with you. So a woman will always fall for a man that she appreciates a lot but who is not sooo into her that he'll do anything. it is her turn to make the move on you if she is interested.
2007-12-29 19:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by alisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not female, but I have 17 years of dating experience that tells me she is not testing you. She wants to be your friend, that's it. Your heart wants to believe that she is wanting you to prove yourself, but that's just not the case. If you continue to pursue her you'll just get hurt and likely lose her as a friend because she won't want that baggage that comes with hanging out with you.
Young girls may tell you different, but they'll probably be wrong. If you fear a man's advice then accept only the advice of 30+ year old women.
Good luck. I've been there and know how it hurts.
2007-12-29 19:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by ExperienceD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah... Girls are testy but they can also be mean and play games with they guys head. Think back to how she treated you last year, and compare it to how she treats you now... If she's more friendly and maybe goes out of her way to see you or to hang out with you then she probably likes you.
2007-12-29 19:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that it is kind of hard for you to go visit her due to your deeper feelings for her. To let you work it out and then things should be fine. Take care.
2007-12-29 19:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by txdollaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i also have a good friend. I call him over or invite him to do things with me to get closer to him.
so maybe she wants to get closer to you or keep in contact so you two will stay the good friends that you are.
hope it helps =]
and good luck!
2007-12-29 19:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Candace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you guys have been pretty good friends, maybe she just wants to see you?
2007-12-29 19:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by kittykat_017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a test... i thinkshe is testing u... id do teh same to se if a guy liked my that much as a "friend" =P
2007-12-29 19:48:45 · answer #11 · answered by Jackz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋