Always putting work before your wife?

Question

how do you feel when your husband does this, as no time to even take a second of his busy schduele to say hi when you call!

I just called him now, just to say hi but got "I chat to you later, busy now" & I know he will not call back. I hurts so much

Answer 1

Sometimes it can be annoying for someone, anyone, even your spouse to call and just say hi...my advice is, give him time to miss you and find something to occupy your free time. you are bored that is why you call him. It appears needy. And unfortunately our very common warped human behaviors usually make us pull away from the needy, and try to get close to the uninterested.. I truly hope I have not offended you. This is just one opinion. Mine. But you can't go wrong by filling your time with something productive and interesting!

Answer 2

I really don't understand why guys do this. I understand if they are busy but they could be be considerate enough to return the call. Makes me think they just don't want to talk to us. I just imagine, you will be just like me,you won't give up because you love him. . .A woman will stand by her man, no matter what...I think death is the only way you can truly stop loving someone and even then, I think they part of you with them to the grave. Maybe you can talk to him when he gets home and tell him how it makes you feel, maybe...just maybe ....he will listen, if he brushes you off, I really don't know what you should do,. This is exactly the reason people have affairs, they don't get the attention at home, they find it somewhere else. I don't know why couples don't get this. . .

Answer 3

Im going to give you the flip side of the coin here.Some employers frown on personal phone calls.I work in an ICU,and believe me,if I'm on a call and a patient codes,my head would roll.I guess what I'm saying,don't take it personally,especially if you get most of his attention when he is off work.

Answer 4

My husband works many many hours per week. There are weeks that we dont even see each other until the weekends due to our schedules. Lots of nights that we dont talk on the phone because he is not able to talk at work. Its no big deal to me. I know he loves me and this is just how life is at this time. I do not whine about it at all.

Answer 5

I would not take it personally. He is at work to work and some places frown on personal calls. He could be doing something or working with other people and cannot chat. I do not have time for calls on my job. I would not call him at work.

Answer 6

I would feel neglected.
You need to sit your husband down when you get a chance and tell him how you feel. Explain to him how important it is for him to make time for both his wife and his job. If he loves you he will truly work on spending more time with you.

Answer 7

Well work is work and maybe he is a good worker who really puts a lot of effort into his job. Do you really expect him to drop his work and chat to you? Does he say the same to you at home? You shouild let him do his job and "chat" when he gets home.

Answer 8

i am in the SAME situation - and we have only been married 6 months...........he doesn't have time to even hug or kiss me when i get home.........he's too damn consumed with work...........too busy for marriage counseling too - so guess what - i'm look for my own place - i can't take it anymore.........if you have talked to him about it and he is not willing to change..........either get used to it or leave.........sorry, but i have realized they don't change.......

Answer 9

My husband doesn't do that. He makes time for me and I make time for him.