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At this time last year, I was partying with friends, I even fell asleep at the red light during new years because I was soooo wasted. I woke up and drove to the club and had a good time. I had a very nice apartment in southern california, a great job, lots of friends, good income and a normal life. Then I decided to marry my boyfriend of 1 year and then we moved to Japan. After I got here in august, I got pregnant in sept and now I am 17 wks pregnant. I miss good ole america so much and I am homesick. I dont work anymore... I am now a housewife and I sit on the internet all day or watch TV. I do love him, but I feel on some days that I made a mistake. Is this normal or will I come around and accept my new life? Drastic change, huh?
2007-12-29 19:22:45 · 8 answers · asked by Lovely 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 28 going on 29, I am not a kid LOL
2007-12-29 19:49:46 · update #1
Let me get this straight. The dog is following you all the time. You saw a ghost the other day. Your husband is a doctor in the military, and you are now living in Japan, pregnant, missing the single life, missing friends and familly. and bored. I think you are a bit immature and you need to adjust away from the good things of your former life, to the good things of your future life. You have a husband and a child on the way who you have to love - that will be great. If you are bored then forget about how you had fun when single, you are in a foriegn country Japan. Take the opportunity to explore and discover. Why not try and get a part time job to make friends and fill your mind.
I just read yr question about yr husband reading yr e mails. You are coming across to me as nice but self centred and you are starting to frustrate him - yr feet were cold in bed so you put them on him to warm up - that is self centred. You are e mailing all sorts of crap across the world - I really dont blame him for checking. I think you are living in a fantasy world and heading for a big fall, so please, WAKE UP and contribute to the welfare of yr husband, coming child, and even the dingle dangle dog. They all sound lovelly really. Dont blow it - love other people besides yourself.
2007-12-29 21:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very drastic, but since you love him I think you'll be fine.
Maybe you need to talk to him about moving. Maybe you need to be around family and friends. That can be depressing anyway especially because your pregnant.
Japan is a big jump. It might help to find a hobby or something since that's your residents now. You and him need to go out and maybe met some new friends, their are great people every where. Cheer up your somewhere most people will never get to and you're bringing a life in this world soon, so stop stressing and enjoy him and your stay there. Good Luck and Congratulations!!!
2007-12-29 19:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Love Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, moving to a new place takes time to adjust. Being married takes time too. Being pg also does a number on your hormones. Just hang in there and love your husband and your unborn child. Concentrate on the things you are grateful for, not the things you want that you don't have. You need God in your life. Spend some time reading the Holy Bible. It will be well worth it for you. I suggest a New Living Translation it is written in plain modern English.
2007-12-29 19:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you are pregnant you go through a lot of things. i went through something simalar when i was pregnant with my first child. my advice to you is to wait at least 6 mo after you have the baby to make any decisions. talk to you husband about how you are feeling in the mean time, but i would bet that your feelings are either exagerated by or caused by the hormones due to pregnancy. you may feel very different once you can think clearly. depresion and mood swings are a very common thing during pregnancy. really. you will be okay.
2007-12-29 20:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by X 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too late. You did what you did now you have to live with it. Marriage is not a game, it is a huge responsibility, that's why they don't let children marry, only adults. Grow up. Find a solution that is acceptable to you and your husband. If you can't remember you started this, now finish it. Good luck
2007-12-29 19:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be thanking god thank you are pregnant. I am also married for less thana year, I got married & a week later I had to leave everything behind to settle for a place much much worse than Japan. This is your life now, you have to adapt to it, you have chosen this path so? You knew about this before getting married? I have been trying to concieve for 7 months & no luck, be thankful that you have something else to focus on. you are married now, you have chosen to follow your husbands dreams, so my complain now
2007-12-29 20:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Cute 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move back to the US
2007-12-29 19:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi62 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not happy? You need to talk to him and address this. You're are miserable and if you moved for him then he needs to recognize this and resolve it with you. He should be able to do the same for you.
2007-12-29 19:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋