why things that happen are always opposite from what I expected?

Question

I'm not saying if it is big things like, which college i shall go, or what kind of job I'll do and who I'll get marry with ----- etc.. but it's all about petty things which are small, but when it happens, it could just give a big effect to my next action in a day....and, it frequently happens. whenever i feel something as '"it's ok" or "this is fine", it's actually not, and there would be something coming up later on, which i should've just taken an action on it. but, whenever i already made a thorough plan on something, took the effort, do this and that, with all the stuffs as a preparation...in the end, there's nothing. as if it would still don't make any difference even if i didn't took any effort ---in fact,better if i actually did nothing. i know this is all fate, and i can never fight God, but i still dun understand....why this always happen, EVERYDAY???? i just, want to know, why and how can i handle situation like this? there must be some other answers than "patience"

Answer 1

I'm flummoxed here, because general expectations tend to be based upon repeated past examples, e.g. you see a grey sky, you expect rain, because that generally seems to occur. If you see every day that things always oppose your actions, you should do the opposite to what you usually do.
Expectation on the whole, is fed by belief. If your beliefs are too difficult to reconcile with general reality, they're never likely to correlate.

Answer 2

I have been a Born-Again Christian for 37 years. If I say or think that I am going to do something, the opposite occurs. If I tell someone that I do this or that on a regular basis,or I will do this or that, something will cause it to stop and I look like a liar! I started to do what you said and think and say the opposite, but that is not biblical. The only thing that has kept me from feeling like that I am crazy or cursed is by quoting scriptures that say that I am blessed, favored, etc. I started to realize that I am in warfare with the unseen world. Therefore, I am determined to fight! Since my outcome according the bible is victory, I will keep fighting by meditating on God's promises for me. Meanwhile, I keep crying out to God for clarity and understanding! I started telling people and myself what I "plan" to do instead of what I am "going" to do. I have begun to notice now that whenever I think about many things that I want, it's only a matter of time before I have them. You must get up early before spiritual activity (between 4-6 am) and speak out into the atmosphere what you want to happen for your day and in your life. Do not tell anyone close to you what you are doing. After 30 days you will notice a difference. It is best to keep this to yourself unless you are trying to help someone else get free from it.

Answer 3

Well when I was younger it seemed that way, but now I am almost 40 and what I expect usually happens. I figure this is because life experience gives you the wisdom to recognize statistical inevitability. In other words, you mind learns to think very realistically about near future events based on both past experience and intellectual knowledge. Since these both increase as you get older you get better at seeing what will happen. Well, at least until senility kicks in LOL.

Answer 4

this happens to me as well, and I will start to ask myself how come the people around me get their guesses correct.
I would play little mini games on my mind and start guessing this and that, and for 95% of them, it always happen exact opposite to what I thought or rather(choose to think or want).

But, on the other hand, I am adept at estimating the costs of a meal after service charges.

A good way to get more 'reign' over what happens to you is to, lean closer to God in order to be more true North in your heart, and with the right frame of mindset, you will be able to start to logically figure things out.

And life, is practically a surprise every day, even though it is routine. Because we do not for sure know what's going to unfold next.

Never assume.

Answer 5

It's because you haven't had enough experience. What some of us have learned over the years is that, when you plan something, you should always plan for every outcome you can imagine. If you just plan for one certain result, when things turn out differently you'll be lost in disappointment.

Answer 6

You get below an emotional tone level where life goes against you to impede your survival. Life wants you happy and healthy. When you get tired or unhealthy, life trys to eliminate you, sorta like Hilter and the Nazis who called retards bread cobblers and wanted to take them out first. Hilter was just representing negative forces in life in human form.

Answer 7

Try finding answers to''Why do I think always opposite to what way the things are usually expected to happen '. The day, you find the answers , you will reach a sublime state".

Alternatively, think " things have happened , I cannot undo them , how do I use this knowledge to improve things to happen in future ?"

Answer 8

Don't sweat the small stuff. If the only problems you have to complain about in life are petty things, consider yourself luck.

Answer 9

isnt the phrase, Murphy's Laws?

Answer 10

To throw you off guard.