First he was like we need to buy a house then we will...
then he was like we need a lot of money saved up
now its like later becuz bla bla bla
and we have done all that stuff but he still doesnt an i feel like sometimes he rubs it in my face
2007-12-29 19:14:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
maybe you should reevaluate your relationship before you get married to this guy. some people don't want children and are ashamed to come right out and say it because there is a lot of pressure. you may love him but if he doesn't want the same things as you in life and having a family is important to you, you have to find out if he wants kids.
2007-12-29 19:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stef_rok 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him to weather he see kids in your future and what is stoping him now. Im having a similar problem. I would love to have a baby but my partner just is not ready. He says we can try next Christmas and have discused this at lenght. The ast thing you want is to force him. Pregnancy can be hard (i miscarried after 8 weeks last christmas so only have limited experience) You will really need him to surport you and then once your baby is born you will need him more. The last thing you want is for him to turn against you or throw it back in your face. Im sure if you talk about it with him you can come to some sort of arangement. Why not work on your dream wedding first have your special day together and then bring a new life. Im not preaching to you that that is the way you should do it . I hope you work it out.
2007-12-29 21:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really isn't into it. The thing I would say is that having a baby won't "bring you closer together" as the saying goes. It puts so much strain on the best of relationships. It's a wonderful wonderful thing having a child together and your other half will probably love you more for the pain you go through to get your bundle here but it's bloomin hard going and you need to have back up.
2007-12-29 21:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you even get married you should talk about this. For one, i'm sure that if you want kids in the future that you would like to be married to someone that has the same wishes for their future. If he wants kids in the future then talk with him later on after you get married about when to have a child. Having a baby needs to be something that the both of you agree on, as far as if and when. But you really need to sit down and make sure that he wants a child before you ever get married, thats if you really want a child.
2007-12-29 19:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rape him...
lol nah im kidding. But wait until hes ready, that way he will not feel like he doesnt have a say and hes pressured. Bring him around babies more and their daddies. That made my husband want a baby of his own.
2007-12-29 19:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Elijah's Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an issue you have to discuss with him. listen carefully to what he says. If he utters the words 'I don't want children' don't hang on hoping he will change his mind, or think you can trick him into wanting one. Maybe he feels neither of your are ready for a child.
2007-12-29 19:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is all about compromise.
If he wants to buy a house, say well when we have bought it and waited a year or whatever THEN we will start trying for a baby.
2007-12-29 19:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer, and so should he. You do need to have a serious heart to heart talk about this and other issues. Know all the answers before answering "I do".
2007-12-29 19:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T Listen to juan c.
If you want one & he doesn't your marriage will not work. If you do get knocked up...he will resent you. If he never submits you will resent him. So one of you has to 'give in' & accept the out come...or move on & find a more compatible partner :(
2007-12-29 19:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by PeachJello 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First get married then act on decisions.
2007-12-29 19:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by jun c 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋