i have been talking to an egyptian man that my mom and her husband knew when they was there in egypt i been talking to him for over 13 months well in october i flew too egypt and marry him,and while i was there he put me down by calling me fat a nd stupid and **** american women.he also gave me a bloody nose,beat my head in the floor while saying to me he will kill me,broke my right elbow,locked me in the apartment and cut the phone live,and then had me turn in to muslium.and now he wants me too come back to him.he has ask me too forgive him many of times which i have.but i cant never forget what he has done too me.and what if it will happen again.i amm scared too death of him.i am his first marriage.im just soo confused i still have some love for him.please any good suggestions i live in florida. thanks too all who read and answer with suggestions..
2007-12-29 18:06:36 · 19 answers · asked by womenof age 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are wise - you will never speak to this guy again. You will never allow him to be any part of your life, in any way.
Do you want more of the same bad treatment which he gave you before? The way he treated you will not get better .. it will get worse, and worse, and worse.
WHY .. would you want to even consider being with someone who you say the following .. " he also gave me a bloody nose,beat my head in the floor while saying to me he will kill me,broke my right elbow,locked me in the apartment and cut the phone live,and then had me turn in to muslium ".
RUN! FAST !!!! Get away from this guy. You have choices. If you chose to go back with him ... then you are chosing the above type of life.
It is your choice.
2007-12-29 18:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're scared of him. That's enough reason to divorce this man. So do it - and get your mother to understand the reason why. You need some emotional support in this because you are confused and yet abused at the same time. Not a good combination! You still have love for him, you say, but talking to someone for a long time, going through all of this and having your physical well-being threatened and attacked is not a good enough reason to stay with someone. Get the help of your parent - she should want to protect you. Your own life may be at stake if you return to this guy.
2007-12-30 02:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once an abuser, always an abuser. If you are scared of this man, I suggest you stay away from him. You may say you have love for him but it may be pitty for him that you are feeling and not love. Think about your future and what is best for you. Believe me, if he has done all these terrible things you say he has done, he will, slowly but surely, do it again. This is how abusers are known to be. They will be nice and loving at first to make you fall into the trap to then pull you back down and beat you with a bat.
Hope this encourages you to make the right decision and always remember that you deserve better than a scum who hits woman. Life is not over as we humans tend to see it when it comes to emotions (people we love). You will eventaully find better and grander things that will bring happiness and doubt would not be something to consider. If you doubt, it is better to leave it alone than to go through the pain of having to scrape crap off of you.
Good Luck!
2007-12-30 02:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Leyanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a glutten of punishment? Why in the world would you consider going back there? Stay in Florida at least here in the United States women have protection. Is this an arranged marriage? Re-read your question maybe after reading what you've posted some of this will sink in and you'll make the right choice of having self respect.
2007-12-30 02:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Joelanda P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you ever met him. I was married to a muslim once also there terrible sweetie. And yes they will say sorry and they apologize and buy you things but he will do it again.
Just leave you dont have to think about this. if you wait it will get worse and he will keep pressuring you to have kids and want to make sure your not taking birth control pills and then you have to hide things from him . He will want you pregnant asap so he will feel your stuck.
And he will continue to hit you and treat you as a camel or apiece of property. they treat there women bad. don't listen to them that there women are treated like queens over there an there mothers thats a bunch of bull.
It will only get worse as time goes by with him TRUST ME.. so you must leave and not go back to him since your already out Stay out.
If you go back and he beats you again or you have children with him he will use them against you and will take them from you and you will be in a worse situation as you pine for them and can't ever see them.
count your blessings i know its a bad situation but it will get worse if you continue.
Forget that you love this jerk he doesn't know what love is. he want a slave. GET OUT
2007-12-30 03:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you what he said you are or are you a woman? Do you think you were born to be beaten by an Egyptian or by anyone for that matter? He has no respect for you and has no idea that your beauty as a woman will bring him happiness. You were made to be love, to make love to, to protect, to astonish him with the miracle of birth, to be the crown of his marriage. This fool does' t know that. Why do you want to go back?. You don't need a man be a woman. You have all you need to please any man. Use it wisely and be happy. Good luck
2007-12-30 03:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay right where you are. He will not change and if you go back he really might lock you away so you cannot get out. You say that he has asked you to forgive him too many times, never give anyone that many times to beat you up. If you forgive and stay do it once but no more. I would not do it once. Sooner or later he will kill you if you go back to him.
2007-12-30 02:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you completely lost your mind or are you just stupid! Get real. The next time you will most likely end up dead and it will be your own fault for knowingly going back into the relationship. Stay away from him and do not talk to him. Move someplace where he can't find you.
2007-12-30 02:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by hoppykit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider going back, if he did all that to you once, he WILL do it again, only maybe the next time he will kill you. No woman should take that kind of abuse. BUT....I did go through some scary relationships and my man went through Marriage counseling and family abuse classes. He tried hard and became a different man so, if your guy does that and only shows and improvement then, you might consider seeing him. Get proof!
2007-12-30 02:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you go back to him...you may never return...the next hit may KILL you...you really need counseling if you're thinking about going back to this coward...your family doesn't want to plan your funeral ...there are so many good men..that don't abuse...and give yourself a chance to find the one man that will love you and treat you right...please take the time..and follow these links...this man will not change...don't feed into his lies and don't believe him when he says sorry...and for sure...don't leave the country...every time he says he wants you back...just remember the fear and pain he caused you...the hits you took from him...by his hands...he's only sorry that you left and may not have a punching bag right now...save your life...and ignore this creep...tell everyone you know...what he did to you...so you have people that will help protect you...
2007-12-30 02:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jenny~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋