What do you do about nieghbor kids who are constantly stalkingyour house & your kids?

Question

I have a large family. I can't let my kids out front. We have about 15 kids hanging out right outside my door, they talk filthy, they are prejudice. They cuss my kids, beat em up on the way to school & call em whiteys.
We don't want to talk to the parents because, the kids cuss in front of the parents. The stereos are always full blast. The few white neighbors, NEVER, come out. My husband feels like it's because our kids are white. Most people on our street are mostly hispanic, a few black. We are a blended cultured family. My husband is hispanic, 5 of our kids are white. Our youngest is mixed. He grew up in a large hispanic family, who is prejudice. they were alot like these kids. So, he feels like he , recognizes this treatment. Because, he & his family treated. white people the same way.
My question is, What can we do? We are buying this house, we just want to relax in our own home. We can't leave the front door open. These kids are out front ALL DAY except school hour

Just for the record. My husband, obviously, fell in love with a white women & he's a very protective loving person. He is not a prejudice, jerk. Not since we.ve been together, anyway.
I have transferred my kids to a school where the population is majority white. The school by our house is all hispanic, a couple of blacks, a couple of whites.
I am afraid to start calling the cops. I feel like the cops around here, will make an *** out of me & my family, If we are the only ones up against all these kids & thier parents. When we moved in, we had no idea, we were in the neighborhood we were in. It is El Mirage, Az. Alot of illegals, here.
I live in a very nice housing addition, that is brand new. The front yards are no bigger than a living room, the back yards are humongous. We have considered selling the house, but, We can't right now! This just isn't right. We have a beutiful 2 story home. But, I understand, we have a choice. Live with it or leave it. Thx. for advice!

P.S.
I did welcome these kids around & treat them good. But, immediatley, It was obvious they were going to be a bad influence, the girls were crazy about 2 of my boys & that was another reason, I had to seperate them. I knew my 12 yr old son, would go the distance, If given the oppurtunity. I found out he tried weed on the way to school, with this group. I transferred my kids, to another school, so they would not walk to school & have all the free time on thier hands.

I would NEVER allow these kids to freely hurt mine. I stopped it immediately! I did contact teachers & principals. But, It has consumed our lives me protecting them. now that they go to another school. I don't have to worry, about anyone touching them, but, these kids sit outside my door directly across from my house, in an old womens driveway! & Hang there! 24 hrs, except for school hours. If we run out to the car or the mailbox, thse kids just say stupid white people, "F******S" We act like we don't hear it. But, we do. We just don't want to deal with it. We just want to live our lives. I take my kids to the park twice a week, along ways from our house. So, they can play outside & play with other kids.
The only reason, I am talking about this is because, I found this website tonight. & this was the topic, that came to mind. My husband & I try to pretend, these kids are invisable. We keep our kids in doors, out back or somewhere other than home. My only point in all this

Is, It really hurts, to have to be forced into this diversity. Not by the adults, but, by kids! Little ones as young as 5 & 6 yrs. all the way up to the high schoolers. All we want is to live our lives. to relax in the front yard. To get along! Why does race, rule, the damn world. Why don't the goodhearted people, of all races, rule the world?

Answer 1

call the local police and explain what's happening so they can talk to the parents and arrest for "assault" because what they are doing is physical harm and that's against the law. You make sure that you have a witness of them beating up your kids or the kid showing his/her bruise.

If that doesn't work, I suggest moving out of that neighborhood , it doesn't even have to be in another town. And before moving into a new home look at the neighborhood and ask people living on the neighborhood about it. It doesn't matter if you're shy (if you are) you have to look around and if the people you ask are rude than you already know you aren't going to get well with them. (And don't ask the person selling the house, it's more than likely that they'll lie to you about bad stuff in that goes in that neighborhood if there is because they just want to sell you the house)

ADDITIONAL INFO: I understand your scared of the police for whatever reason but you have to try. Know that if they don't help or bother that it just adds more to the reason to MOVE. You're fighting to keep a beautiful house but you can't stop your family from getting harassed. I know it saddens you to be harassed by people you were nice to and the fact you guys can't get along because of racial differences and I think your doing a pretty good to help your family get around them and still enjoy yourselves but is it worth living there? A beautiful home yet a bad city?

You need to get help to stop them and if that doesn't help just move, there's plenty of other beautiful homes with nicer neighbors. If you don't those people's taunts will eventually get to you and start causing problems in your family out of stress.

Answer 2

call the police about the problems and let them know the names now call the school and tell the pricipals and now heres the thing get the names of the kids that are doing the assaults and go down and put in letters from the courts to the parents asking to be left alone and if they dont stop swear warrants on them also heres another idea taske the kids tothe buoys clubs or the YMCA and enroll them in boxing or martial arts classes ive seen a lot of street fights most dont know any system of fighting and so two trained boxers could knock out the crowd also if your husband doesnt tell those folkes tomove on he has no street cred and the next move could be breakins vandalism and rapes then worse

Answer 3

Yeah you sound like a real loving parent letting your kids get beat up and cussed out by other people and don't do damn thing about, you are just as fault in this in my opinion. If you don't call the police or the authorities then you are a sad axcuse for a parent, What the hell is wrong with you .

Answer 4

Well, there isn't much I can say and your question is probably going to get pulled as "racist". However, you have every right to assert yourself and the rights of your family as a property owner. Also, teach your kids self defense or enroll them in a class that will teach them. What are you going to do when they are involved in a school shooting -- keep them home? You need to prepare your kids for the world they will have to live in some day.

You might have to take a lawn chair outside and sit while your kids play. Maybe even play with your kids and invite the other hooligans to join in. Crank up a Christian music station really loud with the windows open to scare away the really bad guys. Consider inviting all your neighbors over for a cookout (and consider having a block party).

I did have one set of fairly annoying kids that like to sit outside our fence and smoke. I finally started running the sprinklers on the weekends over night and that solved that problem.

We have a wonderfully blended neighborhood and I think one of the things that really sets us a part is the fact we get together ever May and every August (begin/end school) and have cookouts outside -- you might have to file permit with city to block off the street or something.

All I can say, is someone in your neighborhood is going to have to take the first step...it might as well be you!

Answer 5

talk to the kids you never know theses kid might have gone throught alot and talk to them about the issue treat them like adults when you talk not like kids and be a influnce on them when they find they can trust you then start inviting them over to hang with your kids but set the rules these kids probly have been trough alot and different cultures have different was to had it but influecing is the best way to go your kids hear bad words at school all the time there not angles it you the adult can get through to these kids they might start to turn around and understand how they feel once they see you as a cool adult they can talk to they well do what it takes to keep that and if that deosn't work get out of the area but try to get through to the problems and they well start respecting you your kids and your house

Answer 6

Well... Since thier parents wont do anything, You have a responsibility to do right for your kids. Ask yourself why you are allowing those mean kids to take over your property?
Why can't your kids go out in thier front yard to play? It's thier house and it's thier yard. My advice is to move or call the law.
If you let people run over you then that is what they will do.
Your kids should come first and the parents of those mean kids will have to be responsible for thier own kids. Stand up and do the right thing here.

Answer 7

Talk to the local authorities in your area if they can do something to address your concerns about your kids safety from other kids in your community. If nobody there can help you, then its time to find a safer environment for your family. Before something worse may happen, try to move to a safer place. Better be sure of your safety and your kids than feel sorry if something bad happens in the future.

Answer 8

There is a huge varied world out there with lots and lots of welcoming corners for you and your kids. I agree with the other poster - get out of there. As your kids get older they will be surrounded by bad influences, and yes, could even be the victims of violence. Accept any financial sacrifices, get out and start again.

THAT IS A GREAT IDEA BY ANOTHER POSTER. SET UP SPEAKERS TO LOUDLY PLAY VERY UNCOOL MUSIC (EG PERRY COMO) INTO THE FRONT YARD. THEY WILL SUDDENLY SEEM RIDICULOUS INSTEAD OF COOL AND HOPEFULLY MOVED ON - THIS HAS WORKED BEFORE.

Answer 9

Sounds like Karma has hit your husband's children.
Anyway..... move. Find a home more suitable for your situation. A neighborhood safer for your children. There is no reason to stay there.... Homes are for sale all over the place. Tell me this: if YOU were being attacked when you were in fron of you house, what would you do?

Move. Get out of there. Before something really bad happens.

Answer 10

i would call the police and if they does not help you i would try and get a restraining order so they stay away from your home and kids. and if all falls take the parents to small claims court for money for the pain there kids are making your kids feel i bet they will stop there kids