She recently split from her husband of 4 years.divorce is not final.She owns a bar and it totally consumes her time.she had texted me one evening "what r u doing?"I replied "nothing why?' she said"just wondering that's all"I took this as she was into me.Boy was I wrong.She totally cut off contact with me.after 2 weeks of me trying to talk to her she started to contact me again.We met at her work for about 2 hrs.we talked drank she was kinda touchy feely nothing serious happend.the 2nd time we had coffee she asked me what made me think we were more than friends.I told her about the texts.She says she talks to all her friends that way.So were just friends.she says she does not trust men.3rd time we went out she bought dinner.On xmas day she texted me I was at the movies she asked if i was on a hot date making out?2 days later she called me. went out for drinks she actually gave me a hug !.she had to bolt said she'd call me the next day,but hasn't.she does that every time we go out.
2007-12-29 16:35:22 · 17 answers · asked by peterg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to add we always have great conversations,and enjoy each others company.I so want to have a relationship with this woman.the last time we went out she had called me before we met she said she could not stay long because something came up her bar.she was only going to stay for 30mins she stayed an hour.also until this point we had never hugged or kissed or anything close.I feel maybe she is starting to trust me a little.I just hate the days after we go out.She becomes stand offish she won't return my texts.She'll answer my calls but she's very cordial.Than she'll call a few days later and she's nice again.Any advice any ideas what I should do?
2007-12-29 16:45:58 · update #1
She's a nutcase. If you get into a relationship with her, you are going to be absolutely miserable.
She will love you one day and hate you the next.
She will be extremely possessive and accuse you constantly of things you don't do.
She will be completely illogical and start fights with you all the time over nothing.
She won't believe you when you say you haven't done anything wrong.
She will screw around on you to "get back at you" even when you haven't done anything wrong.
She's a nutcase. Stay far, far, far away from her. These are the types of things women like that do, it's a way of life for them. She's extremely dysfunctional. You seem like a really nice guy, so don't get sucked in by her emotionally, physically, or sexually. Just say NO.
2007-12-29 17:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE DOES NOT TRUST MEN.
That is one sentence you MUST pay attention to.
Obviously she doesn't want to get hurt and she is going through a divorce! She probably does like you, but she is trying to protect herself. If you really care and like her a lot, all she needs to know is how much you WONT hurt her. Actions speak louder than words. And I'm not talking about FLOWERS and chocolate, I'm talking about doing sweet kind things that will genuinely make you trust her. And lastly do not get angry with her! This will make her steer away from you. Be calm and collective and know what you want, and tell her that you want her. Women are complicated, I know this, but it is all about the emotional connection you have with a woman and not just about the sex.
2007-12-30 00:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Idealist Dreamer Realist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where are you from??
Sounds so mysteriously resembling......
Just take this from a guy who gave up everything to be with a woman I LOVED very, very much......and gave it my best shot too....in more ways than I can even describe on here!!!
GET the heck out NOW!!!!!
It will not get better.....she needs to heal first before getting involved with a man....PERIOD!
If you do not listen......you WILL regret the decision....because I had the very same thing happen to me...and to others I knew as well.....and it was deadly for me! You will NOT be able to help her either.....just leave her alone! Let her heal.....move ON!!!!
peace to you
2007-12-30 00:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Dukie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, many bar owners are SHADY! I know this from personal experience. They make a living out of flirting with patrons and it doesn't even occur to them they are crossing the line with people's feelings. Ditch this chic. Good luck.
2007-12-30 00:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by grace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on is right. Women don't like it when we do crap like that and you shouldn't put up with it neither. She'll use that bar eveytime as an excuse not to be around.
2007-12-30 02:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by crankydad_9999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds emotional, agree? Before you/she understand each other more. You need to ride this type of waves. But, when it changes, you know you 2 are getting closer. GL
2007-12-30 01:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She likes you, although she has SOME issues. It is up to you if you want to pursue her and deal with it. When she says she will call, don't leave it up to her, take control.
2007-12-30 00:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like Katie said - move on. She's got issues, why waste your time.
2007-12-30 01:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by chaba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is just looking for someone to help her get through her lonely times and just call you when she is lonely.
2007-12-30 00:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For me;she is very clear and you are confused.For her,you are friends only and she enjoys your conversations.No more than that.
be careful about that relationship;be clear.
2007-12-30 00:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋