My friend is deployed in Japan and I wanna ask him questions that will bring him to vent his anger ,loneliness and frustrations!Especially because hes there alone ...working with guys he doesn't know that much of .
THANK YOU!
2007-12-29 15:27:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Im now trying to STIR up anything.just curious of what should I DO when he brings it up or whatnot.
2007-12-29 15:58:32 · update #1
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If you're gonna put what other people said already.Don't even bother please.
2007-12-29 16:03:06 · update #2
I was deployed to Okinawa Japan myself. There isn't to much there that I personaly hated. The cost of most things was a little higher.. Coffee machines dispensed hot and cold cans of coffee out of the same machine ??Didn't ever figure that one out. No one spoke english even the waiter's. You have to point at plastic food in a display case to order...Hope that may help you with your friend....
2007-12-29 15:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by Matt M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have good intentions, however there might be another way to accomplish your goal. Reassure him that you are there to listen, talk, email, write, etc.; whatever is most comfortable for him. Encourage him to seek out a support system where he is located - they may not be his best friends, but they are having similar experiences and feelings.
There are also "safe" people who are probably professionals as well; such as the chaplain, the medics, maybe even someone in leadership role. These would be his very best resource. If for some reason he really needed help - they would be available almost immediately. What would you do if he "lost it" while he was venting to you??
You are obviously a good friend. Help guide him in the right direction. Good Luck to both of you.
2007-12-29 15:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Relationship Coach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask him questions to stir any anger or loneliness as that'll make his stay tougher and lonelier. I would try to lift his spirits and get him to tell you about the people he's met, the things he's seen/experienced, and keep it more positive so that he won't feel so down, if in fact he is feeling down at all.
2007-12-29 15:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He knows more about those guys than he knows about you, unless he got to Okinanwa on Tuesday of last week. What you're doing is probably the stupidest thing that you could do. You're asking him questions that upset him, soon he'll only equate talking with you on the phone with being upset. I smell a breakup.
2007-12-29 16:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by Paul C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What gives you the right to upset his mental balance?
Do you want him to come home? If so just tell him that.
As you say he is alone, don't you think it would be cruel to make him feel even more alienated and unable to change the situation?
2007-12-29 15:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to upset him? Just let him know you are there if he needs to talk but dont push him. He is in a stressful enough situation. How do you know he is even upset?
2007-12-29 15:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Shell 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only easier deployment would be Hawaii. Give the guy a break, he's on vacation.
2007-12-29 15:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by IplayadoconTV 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to add to his frustrations? What makes you think he is angry? Don't make his situation any worse.
2007-12-29 15:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him how he feels about things, but don't force it. He may not be interested.
2007-12-29 15:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by clayinspiration 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just ask "How are you doing?"
2007-12-29 15:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tumpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋