Ok, our son is 19 months. i am 37, my hubby is 34..it is that time we have to think about having anohter baby..i love my son soooooooo much, i cant imagine sharing my love with another. i dont want our son to be wihtout a sibling, but can i do it again?? the endless feedings, etc?????? any advice would be soo helpful!
2007-12-29 14:58:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I have two. Amazingly, you feel just as much love for each additional one as you do for the first. And having two isn't twice as much work--don't get me wrong its more work, just not twice as much. You do what you can handle, and sleepless nights and endless feedings don't last forever.
2007-12-29 15:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm 21 and have two kids. A mom has so much love to give. In fact it's an amount of you you thought was impossible. whether you have one, five, or ten you will always have love for another child. Your love just keeps growing. The feedings are bearable because you love this little person so much that it just doesn't bother you. In the end it's all worth it. I have a two year old daughter and was afraid we couldn't handle more, but now I have a 2 week old son and couldn't imagine life without him and it seems he's been here forever. I say a sibling would be great and think about it you did the feeding with your son and you made it through and when you look at him isn't all worth it? You will feel the same way with however many kids you decide to have in the future.
2007-12-29 15:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have 2 and I am currently trying to have a 3rd. Having 2 kids is not as hard as it seems. You think that you don't know if you could love another like you love the first, but you love each child in a different way so you have endless love to give and no one will do without.
2007-12-29 15:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by shihtz4u 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what you and your hubby want. Having two is great. Sometimes I get a little bit of peace and quiet because they do play so well together. They are twenty mo apart in age. It is harder to go to the store or anywhere with two compared to having just one so it does tend to save me money because I do not want to take them out by myself so less opportunity to spend! They are great and are always there for each other when one or the other gets hurt. Very fun to watch them interact with each other! I am glad I have two.
2007-12-29 16:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jolene M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI, i felt the same until i have baby no 2, 3 months ago. I have a boy 2.5 and now a little girl. You have enough love to share dont worry. The best thing is that they both are different. So you love then each differently but your love itself is whole to both. Hope this makes sense.
You have you days though you wish you had one! lol when the oldest is driving you crazy!! lol
2007-12-29 15:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I just had #'s 6 and 7 two weeks ago. (twins). My other kids are 19, 9, 5, 3 and 1. Listen to your heart. If you are financially and emotionally ready, I say go for it! There is always enough love to go around.
2007-12-29 16:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have 4...........17, 10, 2,and 1 When I had my 1st daughter it was good with just her and the gap between her and her sister gave me time for myself but when I had my 2 boys back to back it is a challenge Hardly no alone time because it is mostly all spent with the boys.I f you enjoy staying home I would go for it but if you are a person who enjoys doing things I would wait. Because the babies really need their mother to nuture them!!!
2007-12-29 15:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by kelli t 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not really the way you think, you aren't "sharing" your love, it in fact expands your love. I have 3 and I thought I couldn't love any more than I did with my first but I did, twice over. So yeah you can do it, you have plenty of love, you aren't maxed out. I got 3 children under 4 years so if I can do it with 3 you can with 2.
2007-12-29 15:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by liv t 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I plan on having at least one more (have one now).
the love thing is silly... parents with 10 kids love #1 as much as #10.... the later kids just don't get as much one on one parent time, but they're just as loved!!
most parents have doubts about being able to handle it again... but they all do!!
I agree w/ wanting siblings for our daughter... my husband and I are both the oldest of 3, we'd like that for our daughter as well... I love coming from a big family, my parents are both one of half a dozen or so and the cousins are awesome...
don't you want to have big cousin sleepovers at grandma's house??? lol - I do!!
2007-12-29 15:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tanya 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Watching your two children play together will MELT YOUR HEART.
Love is not a pie: there's not only so much of it. Your heart and capacity to love grows with each child.
2007-12-29 15:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by maegs33 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋