Ok, so we have a family friend who is having a Birthday party for their baby who turns 1yo on the 5th of January.
We had an invitation emailed to us this morning. It stated there is a cover charge of $5 per person (That is $20 for my family $40 for my eldest sister in-law!!!).
But to make matters worse it actually states on the invitation some people are free, and has a list of all her family!!
Now I do like these people (sometimes), but find this really rude.
Who has a fee on a 1yo's birthday party???
The fee goes to fireworks, but it isn't the point. If you can't afford to do a big party, don't. And plus some kids that young are scared of loud noises!!
My kids have Birthday Parties at home with a simple barbecue and they are happy.
Maybe I am just being cheap. I don't know. I thought it was rude!!
Your thoughts???
2007-12-29 14:54:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I agree completely. If I have a birthday party for my child, I pay the costs of the guests or else I wouldn't have the party!!
I always have a party that suits my finances and would be too embarrassed to charge anyone to come!!
2007-12-29 17:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by soxy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fireworks for a 1yr old birthday party? A little extreme and so is the fee. I think that it sounds very rude and take the other advise and maybe send a card or a gift if you feel like it. I don't expect gifts from people especially family if they can't make it or even if they do come. That is not what it is about. It is about celebrating a life!
2007-12-29 16:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jolene M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since when does asking people to go out to dinner means that you are paying for them? You're not going on a date, just asking people to join you. We always go out to dinner to celebrate all my friends birthdays and we pay our share and split the bill of the birthday girl/boy. If the birthday boy/girl wants to go somewhere fancy that I can't afford, I decline the invitation, simple as that. Sometimes I would really like to go but can't because of my work schedule. For a milestone b-day that person would most likely host a party at home, but b-days come every year and having dinner at a restaurant is a nice way to celebrate without anyone having to go through too much trouble.
2016-05-27 22:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completely rude. If you invite someone to a party they shouldn't have to pay to attend.If you can't afford fireworks, then don't have them. I also find it awful that the list of who doesn't pay was in the invitation. I hate when bars have a cover charge, let alone a birthday party. and for a one year old? thats just rediculous. I wouldn't go if i were you and i would encourage your sister in law to do the same.
2007-12-29 15:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by jaywhitsell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HOW RIDICULOUS! I think I would be "busy" that day. This baby will never remember this. We had a chili supper with all the trimmings and invited everyone that was important in our baby's life. We didn't ask for a cent to pay for the food, the electricity, my time for cleaning both before and after, decorations, beverages, etc. If we couldn't have afforded to do it that way - we would have had a quiet evening at home with just our kids and us.
I think you are WELL within the bounds of reason to decline this "invitation" to spend your money.
2007-12-29 15:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by giraffegal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That sounds rude, a cover charge like it's going to be fun for you, I mean lets be real, 1 year old birthday parties aren't "where it's at" cover charges are for clubs not baby parties. That is kinda funny though, I never heard of anyone doing that. 1 year old babies don't give a sh!t about the party, they just stick their hands/feet in the cake and hang out with everyone, they don't even remember it.
I think you are right, it's rude.
2007-12-29 14:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by liv t 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that is kinda stupid that they are charging you to come to the party. just like you said if they cant afford to buy the fireworks themselves then they shouldnt do it. And yes kids that young are either scared of the fireworks or just dont care about them. When my son was 1 he didn't care for them, and when he turned 2 he was scared very scared that he wouldnt let go of me and we had to go in the house cus he was so scared. Just tell them you dont have any money. I know i spent a lot of money on my sons first birthday but i never asked for others to help out if we couldnt afford it we didnt do it.
2007-12-29 15:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree... it is rude.
We do super cheap park or house parties... so far we've been blessed w/ good weather on the days we've had our daughter's parties... we grill hot dogs, have a fruit platter and bags of chips, a cooler full of water and juice boxes, home made cupcakes and small goodie bags for the kids. I have not gone above $100 in 4 parties!! though this year she's claiming she wants a bowling party like her cousin... so I might be up a creek this time!
2007-12-29 15:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Tanya 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. If that were me I would go but not buy a present. For me I couldn't afford to even go because of my finances and then to buy a gift? I don't know about all that. That is definately the most uncalled for thing I have ever heard of. Maybe you should just send them a gift and leave it at that and not go. That sucks a** sorry to hear that. I wish I could give you some advise but the way I would handle it is probably out of your league. I just wouldn't go and would send them the gift. But good luck.
2007-12-29 14:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's horrible! Especially since they clearly stated who gets in free.(Nothing like causing tension at a kids party, huh?) I would certainly NOT go, and find out what they are really using the money for! LOL!!
2007-12-29 15:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by fredsredhead66 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋