i am 17yrs and i want to have a baby but my boyfren say no what should i do any suggestion?

Question

when i found my true love we have sex alot of tyme and now i want a baby but he dnt he told me alot of tyme he want a baby but not now but i want the baby a lot tell me wat to do ppl

Answer 1

Why would you want to bring a child into a relationship where they are not wanted? Obviously you are still too selfish to become a mom because mothers put their children before themselves at all times. Wait until you are stable enough for a baby. 17 is way too young to be a parent. Live it up and go to college.

Answer 2

Thank God you have a semi responsible boyfriend. A baby is a huge responsibility and an even bigger expense. Do you know that a new baby's needs cost almost $10,000 the first year? Go to the local Walmart and start pricing things that the baby would need. Diapers, a crib a dresser full of clothes, medicine and doctor visits, toys , a stroller, tons of formula, more clothes and diapers because they are going to grow very fast etc. If you want to become a parent, wait until you have an education so that you can provide those things. Babies cry and get sick and poop and scream. When you become a mother, you should be willing and able to provide all the things that baby needs. At 17 you can't possibly have the knowlege , patience and assets to do that. A child is a lifetime responsibility. That means that you and your babies daddy take on that responsibility. Not your mama, his mother your granny his auntie or the government. You! He has told you that he isn't ready and every kid needs two parents who love and cherish and will provide for him. When you have a child, you don't get to be the child anymore. The babies needs have to come first and that can be very confining. Do your self, your future and the world a favor and grow up and become the responsible two parent committed couple that every child wants and deserves. Life is hard enough.

Answer 3

Goodness..I'm 17 and I don't type nearly as bad as you do...no offense or what ever...but ANYWAY..DO NOT HAVE A BABY!! Im 3 months pregnant and yeah it was my choice but my husband also agreed on this with me. Having a baby is a complete life change and I doubt are not ready for it. The way you talk about having sex a lot also doesn't sound too good either. But well are you still in school? Are you working? How do you know if your bf isn't going to leave once you are pregnant? Babies are countless nights of crying and diapers and missing out on hanging out and all that fun stuff. These are the best years of your life and you have so much growing to do. Yes I'm 17 and you're probably wondering why I'm not taking my own advice..but see I've already finished school and I AM going to college which my job will help pay for so I can get a higher position..and I don't live with my parents. Hey..maybe I am a little young but I'm doing what I have to do and I'm ready to give up my life...are you?

Answer 4

ok First of all, your still a teenager you should enjoy it, cause once 20 hits its time to grow up. If you have a child now you are going to miss out on alot. Trips you and your man could take together, special evenings just the 2 of you. That undisturbed imtimate time you now share, when a child is brought in to the home its hard to find time to be with your loved one when your both not tired and worn out from the midnight feedings, diapers, laundry and other parent duties. Think about this, how long have you been together? Wait a few more years when you both are in your 20's and see if you still want the same things and most importantly still together, remember the one you think is your soul mate could turn out to be your worst nightmare and if you have a child with this person would there be issues. Theres alot to think about here, but belive me at your age your not ready to be a parent yet, but belive me your not. Try this find a friend with a new born and babysit them for 1 night see how you do if you do good you survived but try a whole weekend then see if you still want a baby.

Answer 5

I really think you should consider some things first. Like have you finished high school? Are you going to go to college? Do you have a good paying job that is stable? Do you own your own house and own car? Do you have enough money for food, bills, and anything that might come up? If you answered no to any of these then Id highly suggest waiting to have a baby. I know how you fell I really want a baby also and I'm about to be 20 in January but I know I'm not financially ready so I'm going to wait. I think you should listen to your bf. Good luck.

Answer 6

Why exactly do you want a baby? Your boyfriend knows that when the baby comes, the sex goes. You don't say anything about having a job and being able to support and raise a child on your own. Are you even supporting yourself or are you living at home with your parents? What little you posted tells me that you are still a child and not ready to be a mother.

Answer 7

first...learn how to spell..I do think that you shouldn't have a baby right now, first because you can't spell for sh!t, which doesn't mean you'll be a bad mom, but it tells a lot of us that you're not mature enough to handle raising a kid. Second of all,,I DO NOT agree with all of the people on here saying that you should be married before you have a kid. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years, we have 3 kids, and I have no intentions on marrying him. It's fine the way it is. Third, raising kids is a lot of hard work, do you understand how YOUR life changes once you become knocked up??? They'll be no more late nights out with the girls, no more sleeping in, you're life becomes all about the kid. Wait, your man is right, Wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait.wait

Answer 8

He said no. What are you questioning? If you said no and he was the one who wanted the child and strangers on Yahoo suggested he tell you he was using condoms and to not use one on the day you were ovulating, and you became pregnant against your will, you would be stuck in the horrible position of having to decide if you were going to have to go through an abortion, keep a child you weren't ready for, or give a child you carried for 9 months up for adoption or, if he still wnted a child, to the man who tricked you into becoming pregnant. But as a woman, those decisions would be yours and yours alone. No man can make you have and keep a baby and raise it yourself if you don't want to. On the other hand, if you tricked him into getting you pregnant, by poking holes in condoms, telling him you are on birth control when you really aren't, or any other way, not only will he become a father against his will, but he won't have any say in it. He can't make you get an abortion, he can't make you put the child up for adoption, and he will be forced to pay child support even if he would rather be going to college, or working for himself and not for a child, or maybe he still feels immature and would rather be sitting around his parents' house playing video games. It's his life. If he said no, assume he means no. If you trick him, he'll resent you for it, not love you more for having his child.

Answer 9

Sweetie, you need to wait. 17 is *very* young.

Kids deserve two parents who are committed to each other for life. Marriage is a good first step. If your man won't marry you, you can't trust him to be around until your child is grown.

And *you* deserve a chance to live a little. Get an education, find a job that you love and that pays the bills.

When it's time, you'll know. And hey, your guy MIGHT the guy and in a few years, you'll both be ready.

Answer 10

Please take my advice. I was 17 years old when I got pregnant with my first. Although I love my baby girl to death who is now 4 years old, everything is so much harder. I graduated high school 6 months pregnant and have lost so many jobs because of having a sick child or no daycare. Her real father never stuck around. I tried college, I was working full time during the day, and going to school full time at night, and trying to take care of my children. I came down with pneumonia and realized I couldn't do everything I was trying to do. I was trying to make a better life for my children, but I was killing myself doing it. I had to leave college and am still trying to get back in. Although this man may be the love of your life, please wait. He is right when he says not right now. Please just wait until you have done everything you want to do first. Finish school and get a career.