Does your marriage still have it's 'spark'?

Question

My husband and I have been married just over 11 years. We've got 4 children and 2 foster children at a time. All things considered, we've kept our romance alive pretty well. But do you ever miss that initial spark you have at the beginning of a marriage, or how 'new' it felt to be a wife, or a husband?

Answer 1

Of course I miss the innocence, but I don't need it anymore. While our relationship currently doesn't have the steam it used to, that doesn't mean we're going down an unknown path to divorce. We have an infant and a toddler--sometimes that's just the way it goes.

That being said, I'm excited as to where our relationship will go. We don't have the initial innocence anymore, but we are still madly in love.

Answer 2

January 3rd we celebrate our 6th anniversary. We got married when I was 18 and he was 21. Couple of kids as most would say. I do miss that and even though we are 24 and 27 now and not all that much older we have much busier lives that sometimes don't lend to having much of a spark. We are both full time college students, and he also works full time. I maintain the house (just bought our first home back in April), do all the errands stuff etc... and will soon start doing externships and preparing to start nursing school. I do miss that first fire and passion we had. I cant say the spark is gone because when we aren't exhausted we do keep it up. Expecially when school is out, like it is right now.

Answer 3

Welcome to marriage hell and reality. Once you both said
"I do" your loving relationship was over. Some people realize this in weeks and get divorced other people lie to themselves for years!!! You know the married couples I'm talking about that say they are so happy and in love and divorced soon after LOL Well you just realized that it is over. Marriage destroys even soul mates. Take an honest look at all the married couples you know are any of them still truly in love?!? You don't have to answer we all already know the answer. You either settle for the kids sake or you find someone else. If you ever do find someone else don't destroy it by getting married.

Answer 4

I'm not married but I have been dating the same guy for 7 years. The spark was alive and well until after 5 years, we started arguing. If it wasn't for the arguing, I'd still be head over heels for him and feel that spark for sure. And, if he had proposed that would have even been better for the spark. It's dead now. Luckily I won't have to ask for a divorce. Ha!

Answer 5

I think everybody misses that initial spark in their relationship...but we all grow into different ppl...my hubby and I have been married for 11 yrs...there have been times i coulda walked away and never looked back...and im sure he feels the same...but at the end of the day we both realized we love each other...and thats what has kept us together all these yrs!!!

Answer 6

Yes!!! I realize that marriages go through various phases. I've been married 28 years and I really MISS the romance. So no we have no "spark" much left in our marriage. I'm thinking of counseling to try to find out how best to handle it. So, to answer your question I miss the spark AND the newness!

Answer 7

My husband and I have been together for 25 years. I don't really remember what the spark felt like. But I wouldn't trade the secure, blessed, peaceful feelings I get from my marriage for any amount of "spark".

Answer 8

We don't even have an ember. After 6 years and 2 children, my marraige is about to come to a screeching halt due to husband is verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive, I'm about to be gone.

Answer 9

My roaring fire became a barely-hot ember after about 5 years. Now, with 3 young kids, I have to work hard NOT to think about how nice it was to have less responsibility.

Answer 10

Unfortunately, nothing lasts forever.