Can I spoil my 2 month old ?

Question

Mother of a 7 year old and I a 2 month old, my 2 month old crys when his not in my arms, he gets realy upset and starts screaming. I have tried to stand by him so he sees me or hears me but still he gets realy mad. I feel so confused since all my family says that I am spoiling him and that when he starts daycare (nursery) they will not care for a crying baby and even may become frustrated and hurt him so what should I do?

Answer 1

You cannot spoil an infant. Keep holding on to him. He will be as big as your 7-year old before you have time to blink.

At my daycare, the caregivers always have a baby in their arms. Do your homework and check references. You should not be worried that your baby will get hurt.

Answer 2

Hello,

I am a mother of a 14 y/o teenager and a 7 weeks old baby boy. My first son was an angel when it comes about crying and these kind of things. My second child however behaves just like yours. I totally understand how you feel because I have myself worried about the same issue.

First of all, a 2 months old baby can not get spoiled as he still does not understand the concept of cause and effect, so that means that the idea of him crying to manipulate you is absurd. Actually right now he is building his self confidence and learning to trust so don't let him down and just keep on loving him.

However, I know, it is uncomfortable to have a child on your arms all day long. What we do is use a sling, I carry him with me all the time, he is so happy feeling me next to him, smelling me and hearing my heartbeat.

He also takes naps on my chest... when he wakes up I lay him on my bed and talk to him and show him books and play together, this also does the trick.

It is hard to have your family trying to advise you, as they want the best for you, but remember this is your child and he needs you right now.

For me there is nothing better than glancing over the sling and see my baby' sweet eyes full of trust and love.

Later when your child grows a bit more he will look for his own independence (to explore around).

Good luck!

Answer 3

I have a degree in Early Childhood education and have worked for years in preschools and learning centers.

First, you can not spoil a 2 month old baby. At this age they do not understand that they are a seperate person from you. They need smell and touch to feel secure more than sight. You might try a sling to free up your hands and to help your baby get through this period of development.

Second and most importantly!!!! If you have any indication AT ALL that your child care giver is getting frustrated with your childs crying PULL OUT of that care ASAP! A professional is used to a variety of behaviors from babies and crying is one of them. They are many ways to sooth a baby that can be used that are both helpful to the baby's development. It is often the case that a baby will cry when it senses it's mothers presence near by but will be more alert curious once the baby is in a different child care setting.

I would concentrate on making sure the baby is getting the most sleep that he needs at this age and give him all the attention you can. This is where a sling of some kind can really come in handy.

Trust your instincts. You are the best judge of your baby. He is expressing himself in a normal way and be very cautious of the type of care you put him in. Look to see if they have any type of certification and make sure they are sticking to the state mandated child-teacher ratios. That can make a big difference in the care.

Answer 4

First of all you are a wonderful mom for being this concerned and second you can never spoil an infant. At this point they really have no memory except for who is around them all the time so spoil away. Never listen to anyone (including family) about the way YOU raise your baby. I know it sounds difficult but mothers always know best.......do what you feel is the right thing. I am sure there are some days you will spoil your baby rotten and others you won't and you are the first to know this since you have done this before. Good luck mama and everything will workout just fine.

Answer 5

Yes you can spoil a baby this age. He may be frustrated or have a gassy tummy and mommy holding him makes it all better. My daughter cries for daddy to hold her. She knows when it is time for him to come home, its like clock work. Give him the attention he needs and let him know you are there. I think it is aweful that people just allow their babies to cry. But you also need to make time for yourself have you husband or you mom keep the baby for an hour or two so that you can run errands or take a much needed relaxing bath.:) (those are always nice)
Good Luck he'll grow out of it soon enough. My oldest is five and he does his own thing now. And if you don't spoil him your daycare will, those people always are carrying babies around.

Try putting him in a swing. My daughter loves her and shes 7 weeks. Calms her down.

Answer 6

You can't spoil a two-month-old. If he is screaming, he has a problem. He might have reflux, and it may hurt when he lays down and feel better when he is held upright. He may have colic, which would be somewhat relieved with the warmth and pressure of being held and the movement of being in your arms. He might have had a neck injury during delivery, and have pain when lying down. He might have an ear infection or a sinus infection, and the pressure and pain may be relieved with being held upright or the pressure might equalize with nursing, or the simple fact of being help by a loving parent may be comforting even if the pain or discomfort is not relieved. Talk to your pediatrician to help rule out or diagnose any of the above problems. Know that one thing your child is learning now is whether he can trust you to care for him when he needs you. Answering his calls and holding him now will result in a LESS demanding, MORE secure child later.

If he wants to be held all the time, consider getting a "baby sling" - it leaves your hands free and keeps your baby close and happy. It worked great for us, and our son would have been "high maintainence" without it - he had reflux, and needed to be held upright more than most babies.

Good luck.

Answer 7

No you can't spoil a 2 month old baby. Whoever told you that needs to go back to baby school. Babies that age need the nearness that you provide. Like the other said. The baby was in your tummy for 9 months. He wants to hear the heartbeat. Feel it too sometimes.

When you are not holding him, you should put him in a bouncy seat or a swing and try singing to him while you are standing up in front of him. He will watch you and calm right down. And then he will follow your voice with his eyes. Watch him move his head side to side as you are singing.

Try it. It works.

Good Luck

Answer 8

YOU CANNOT SPOIL A BABY. I am a nurse and have seen too many people start at an early age to "wean" their babies from mom.
Put yourself in his place. He was warm, secure and didn't have to pee, eat, and it wasn't bright. He just got forced into a world that is strange and different to him- in every way possible. The only thing that is familiar to him is you. Your smell, your feel, your voice- you are his security. A baby is a baby only for a very small part of time. He wants to bond to you, he wants love, security. He himself will separate from you soon enough. Enjoy holding and loving him. If you try and remove him from you too early, he may have some real problems.
People tell new moms this sort of thing because they are uninformed, or they are just jealous.
Enjoy your baby. You will find that if you hold and love him more that the screaming fits will stop and being away from you wont be that traumatic.

Answer 9

Your baby was inside of you for 9 whole months so for her to be separated from you after being so close to you for so long causes separation anxiety and can be extremely upsetting for a new baby.
When she needs is to be held by you and reassured as much as possible that you and her will always be together forever and when you leave you'll always return.
In your baby's mind when you leave she thinks your never coming back because she's a baby and doesn't know any better.
With time it will fade as she becomes more secure and independent just hang in there and it'll get better.
So no your not spoiling her your just being a good mother and there's nothing wrong with that!

Answer 10

Going to be quite a while until daycare. God gave us these babies to spoil so if you think yours is a bit, it's OK. I don't think you can spoil one really. He simply knows what he wants and that happens to be you. Maybe you can lay down with him. Across the bed and still touch him. He just wants to feel secure.He was safe in your stomach since he can remember, this is a scary place for him.Give him a kiss on the cheek for me.He won't be going anywhere for at least 4 years will he?

Answer 11

Nope, there is no such thing as spoiling such a young baby. He's crying because he needs something, even if it's just a need to feel you holding him. Babies are needy, and you are doing the right thing by being there for him. There are ways later in life to build his confidence so that he's ready for daycare, etc. Do not deny your mothering instincts. They're almost always what's right for your child.