I just had my son on dec. 23rd we have been home from the hospital since wednesday and everyone is trying to help (which is a great thing) since i had a c-section and can't move as well .. but my hubby's sister said something today that brought me to tears she said "i don't see alex(my son) look at anyone the way he looks at you" that really made me feel like crap and everytime i think about it i cry because i feel like he does because when it's time for a feeding no1 lets me do it i say i got it but they just say its okay sit down and relax it just really hurts me because i know feeding time is bonding time and i don't feel like i get any bonding time and my hubby don't understand and says i blow everything out of proportion. maybe it's just post partum depression and will go away? i don't know i need some advice
2007-12-29 13:51:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
He will always love you best, let him bond with daddy too.
2007-12-29 14:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by shipwreck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your husband's sister. She is an unfeeling troublemaker. Next, tear up all the book youhave about "bonding time" , "post partum depression", and all this other crap the phychologist dream up. Legions of babies have been born who have been bottle-fed. Of course, your husband doesn't understand, after all, he didn't have morning sickness, a fat belly, and get the s**t kicked out of him for months like you did. But on the other hand, you wanted little precious, you got him, warts and all. Take a few more days to heal, and then swing into the mommy thing. If you still feel depressed, see a shrink, they apparently still need the business.
2007-12-29 22:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blow everything out of proportion or your husband is being insensitive.
Why are you asking for permission to feed YOUR child? How old are you? I would not be asking anyone to feed my own child. Your husband maybe trying to help you but in the wrong way. If someone has your child, gently take Alex away from them. You need to bond with your child and help is one thing but they need to not keep you away from your baby. That's crazy. There's no reason why you both cannot share time feeding the baby.
2007-12-29 22:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, sweetie. You just gave birth and hormones are not your friend right now. That will change.
Enjoy the extra help while you have it. That baby will bond with you like no other, because you will be caring for him in every way very soon. There will be plenty of time to cuddle and bond.
Your family sounds helpful and happy for you. Be grateful.
2007-12-29 22:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ohno 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like ur a little emotional but i do understand where ur coming from....just insist on doing it some times
2007-12-29 21:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by sammi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋