I am in a sexless marriage.Before we got married the sex was great sometimes 5 times a night.I need help.?

Question

I love him but I miss the intimacy with him. He just acts like he has no interest. I know there are other ways to be intimate I just need to get him interested again

Answer 1

Might be best to discuss your circumstances with a marriage counselor. Good luck and hope you find happiness.

Answer 2

Girl you better get the fire going again. Put on some sexy lingerie, have a candle lit dinner, or whatever it takes to get things back on the right track. i can imagine that it might not be 5 times a night as it was before marriage. When we are new into a relationship it seems like sex is so awesome that it's more interesting than it is when we become married, and start living together and doing things together as a husband and wife. It is up to the individuals to keep the spark in the marriage. I had a similar situation but it was because of the conflicting schedules my husband and i had, which left us exhausted and without having time for intimacy.


We sat down, talked, made adjustments to our schedules and now things are back to normal.

Answer 3

This may sound like a standard answer but, when was he last at the doctor's for a complete physical including telling the doctor he has lost interest in sex? The second thing is, during his football game or baseball or basketball or whatever, pause it and give him a BJ. If he stops you, ask him if he is gay or is having an affair!!! If he says no, then ask him why he stopped you. If he says he is just not interested, then you have to give him an ultimatum and be prepared to follow through. He puts out or gets out or lets you have a discreet lover. Have a happy divorce or orgasm. But he does need to be confronted with this problem now or you will definitely end up with a divorce later.

Answer 4

He either might be
A.) Gay
B.) Lost his confidence
C.) Erectile dsyfunction
D.) Is not attracted to you no more and has found love else where.
or
E.) Truly tired of sex

I really don't know which of these it could be but to be honest with you, you should just be frank and ask how come you two do not do it 5 or even 2 times a night like you used too. You will be able to tell if he is fibbing or not. Also, how long have you two been married, you must understand that people do get older :)

Answer 5

Well, once we get married we have alot going on. in the beginning everything is new, sex is new! But then after we've been together for a while things get blah. I like to set up a date with my husband. I get dressed up (like I used to, when we were dating) away from him, meet him after a workday (to get that can't-wait-to-see-you-again feeling) and enjoy a few drinks and a random conversation (NOT the bills, the kids, the evrday stuff), just a lite fun sort of getting-to-know you type. It gets us into a mood that there is still more to each other than we will ever know. It is v. good for paving the way to the bedroom :)

Answer 6

I don't know what your husband's problem is, but my only advice would be to greet him in the nude, wearing high heels, eye-catching but subtle make-up, and a super sexy hair do when he gets home from work. How long have you two been married? My husband is much older than I am, so I knew from the start that sooner or later I'd have to resort to all the tricks in the book to get him excited. Interested and aroused he is, but in order for us to have our love-making sessions as often and as long-lasting as I like them to be, I need to do my part. I undress him when he gets home and give him some time to unwind before I start giving him a slow, gentle, and very wet BJ... he loves that. Try it with your husband. Hope it works.

Answer 7

You need to talk to him. If sex has dropped off that much, then there is something other than just the sex not going on. What else has changed in your marriage? Less communication, less time together, pulling away? The lack of sex is a symptom of something else...you need to find out what that is before the sex issue can be resolved.

Answer 8

Rather than asking on here, talk to him, find out what is going on. If there is actually a problem consult a doctor or a marriage counselor. There are things that happen in a person's life that can affect their ability to preform. First get the communication lines open and honest, and take it from there.

Answer 9

I have found out, that couples get into "routines', kids, work, ya yada.....sex goes without a night, week weeks, months...the all of a sudden it no is there. I do not believe that a woman has to do it all, but bring it to his attention and see wh at he says.
A sexless marriage results is a non- affectectiate marriage. Even down to the hand holding. It takes two.
Sure you can dress sexy, but how sexy is that gutt hanging over those tighty=whiteies. Its not all up to you.
Hey, give him a choice....put out or get out.

Answer 10

First, how old is he? Is he under stress? Find out if there is anything that you can do to help him. Even if it is just listening.
Lots of times men get bogged down at work or a friend is in trouble... and it preys upon their mind and then it prevents them from performing.
If you can't figure out one of those, then it may be that he is just tired or it could be a medical problem.

Blessings n luck

Answer 11

Talk dirty, buy some clothes (lingerie or costume), and change your daily habits. Run around topless or nude more, and maybe go outside without your top or do something really wild that will blow his mind.

If he is under a lot stress, yall might need a long vacation. Go to one of those adult resorts where you can strut around naked if you want, flirt with other couples. Men are funny creatures. They will get real dis-interested in sex, until they see another man flirt or make advances to their woman. Then something kicks in, tells them to get with it.