Maybe both of you were unhappy in the relationships you were in when the two of you met...What if you then eventually married that person, only to be cheated on by them or you cheat on them? Can cheating be a vicious cycle?
2007-12-29 13:14:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Though there are certain circumstances. I think cheating can be a cycle. Thus labeling people once a cheater always a cheater. There are some people that are just not monogamous.
2007-12-29 13:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by lavendergoddess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can be a vicious cycle and it destroys trust with everyone involved. I have never cheated on anyone I have been in a relationship with. Whether I am unhappy or not.
It is wrong. If you marry the person you cheated with. It is only right for you to know, "once a cheater, always a cheater"
2007-12-29 21:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never cheated, was cheated on and thought about doing it to get even, but couldn't. I'm not sure if it's a vicious cycle or something that some people just don't put in high regard. To me? Trust and loyalty is everything....I'm guessing for those who cheat, it means very little so they keep doing it because they see nothing wrong with it, or can justify their actions in some weird and twisted way.
2007-12-29 21:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes cheating is a vicious cycle that can go in just about every direction.
you could be married and cheat, then your spouse cheats as revenge. or your spouse divorces you for the cheating, you end up with the person you cheated with, they start getting paranoid that they'll be cheated on by you just like your ex spouse was, so they beat you to the punch and cheat, or you fulfill their paranoia and cheat.
it's best to not even go there in the first place. take responsibility for your actions, thoughts and behaviors. if something is THAT tempting, then be mature and honest enough to end the first relationship before acting on the temptation. and hope to god that it is worth all the pain and hurt you'll be inflicting!
2007-12-29 21:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never have. Cheating is just not acceptable. The one time I was tempted, and the relationship I was in was horrible, I broke up with my boyfriend before considering exploring things with the other guy.
And it is a vicious cycle. Very often people wind up cheating on the person they cheated with.
2007-12-29 21:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe we always stay in the "search" for that perfect someone until we find them (if we are lucky). We cheat, finding something (we may not even be able to pinpoint what) we are lacking in our relationship, in someone else. A need begins to be filled we may not even recognize at first. I cheated on my husband, with my best friend's husband. We weren't "happy" but we were content with the reality we were going to live mediocre lives with our spouses. We realized undeniably we are meant to be together. We actually have a perfect marriage. No, we are not perfect individuals, we have what everyone else is looking for in a marriage. It was a tough decision, a long road to get where we are, and we will have exes to deal with for MANY years as we both have pretty small kids. But it was a decision we made so we could be complete. LOVE (real, deep, true love) is worth it. The risks are nothing when you face living without that other person. We found our soul mates. We know how lucky we are to be able to live our blissful life together, in a relationship lacking nothing.
2007-12-29 21:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think it's necessarily a cycle. Every situation is different, although I think there are some people who are chronic cheaters because they are insecure. Sometimes people fall in love with the wrong person at the wrong time, I would say most "cheaters" don't set out to do the wrong thing or hurt someone intentionally. I disagree with the previous poster, it's not the lowest thing you can do, it's low, don't get me wrong, but don't be so judgemental or dramatic. It's a bad thing, but people are human and humans make mistakes.
2007-12-29 22:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by pumbakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have cheated with another married person. We all seem to do one of two things. We either look for something better than what we have ...............or we settle for what we have and just get by from day to day. One woman who answered noted that few men have responded to your question. I see her point and may be able to offer a reason for that which she has observed. Men seem proud of their reputations as problem solvers and women seem just as proud of their own label as communicators. In the end it appears that women communicate better with other women than they do men......specifically their own husbands. What too many women communicate to their own husbands is their anger and disappointment. Men, being the problem solvers they are, gravitate toward other women, perhaps other married women who are nicer to them. Women who are not yet disappointed in them. They are only disappointed and angry with their own husband. Now these men aren't really solving any problem. Not in the long run anyway. And these nagging women aren't really very good at communicating. So we all think we're justified and we're victims. Except for the woman who noted a lack of responses from men. That woman is simply superior to men, (her husband included). Cheating is very often the act of a man searching for a woman to be nice to him. Or of a woman in search of a man who recognizes her worth. I don't cheat anymore and I don't lie. I've paid the penalties and worn the cheater label. I find that I take more pleasure in telling a woman the truth these days. Funny thing. The look on a woman's face when she hears the truth instead of an excuse. I find that I don't want to cheat when I can speak honestly without fear of punishment. I find that a woman can't punish as easily without that commitment they crow about. I find that women are nicer when they don't have leverage over me. When it becomes necessary, ending a relationship with a woman with a clean break is not cheating. Problem solved
2007-12-29 22:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who cheats has no self-respecet nor respect for anybody else. That is the lowest thing you could do. If you're in a relationship and want to see someone else use some balls and get out before you get into another....and if you are w/ someone who is cheating then you have no respect for that persons family. You are contributing to the break-up of a family. Kids, everyone. (not your fault the other chose to do it but why would you want to be part of that????!!!!)
2007-12-29 21:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kaybay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never cheated on anyone that i have been in a relationship with
When i am in a relationship i am with that person and no one else
Yes it can be a vicious cycle and it destroys trust
2007-12-29 21:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋