could i have been prevented and denied the things in life that others have, that others take for granted ?

Question

im 30 have borderline personality disorder,i live alone in a one bedroom flat on benifits.

because of my extremely hard, traumatic unfortunate life ive never : had a girlfriend or been in a relationship ever : never been employed or gained qualifications : never made any friends ever :
never lived or had any fun ever. suffered traumatic experience after traumatic experience...sexual abuse...bullying. etc.

now im a prematurly aged, bald, 30 year old and i want to know:

could it have been a conspiracy where ive been prevented and denied the things in life others have ?

i.e playing the field with girls...being in relationships....job oppurtunities...a purpous...direction...success...friends...regular sex...freedom to do what i want.

say if it was a conspiracy and ive been purpousfully denied all that by a big group of people with power and influence.?

what should/ could i do about it ?

because i feel extremely bitter, angry, jealous & gutted & resentfull ive never had those things

im not sure.....maybe by others interveining, interfearing with my life....preventing me from having those things.....its my main paranoid idea that ive had for years.

Answer 1

You have been dealt a lousy hand of cards in the game called Life.

But the best thing about a card game is that you can throw in your hand and try again or discard a card and pick up another.

Get your medications sorted. Accept what your therapist is saying to you instead of fighting it and if you haven't got a therapist and you cannot afford one then keep on asking questions on here and we will all help you.

Look out of the window and marvel at the clouds, the shadows cast by the sunlight, even the fact that someone designed the ugliest thing you can see and begin to allow a little wonder into your life.

Work the baldness. Shave you head and oil your scalp. Do facial exercises and give yourself a cragged , worldly lived in sort of look.

No girlfriend? Stop looking and go out , find a group you can join be it choir, cookery classes etc. Start to make friendships without pressuring yourself to find a mate and from friendship something more will grow.

Allow it time. 30 isn't the end of the world. You are coming into your prime trust me!

Answer 2

We all have experiences that are awful in life, that's what makes life; if it were all good it would be so boring. Your attitude to misfortune ultimately colours your life. We have all suffered deprivation at some time or another, it's how you personally respond to these situations that make the difference. Learn from mistakes, don't get into bad situations and if it's your childhood that was so bad, there is nothing you can do to change it. Move on and don't spend the rest of your life wishing you had had something when there is bugger all you can do about it. How you move forward is the key thing, don't live in the past. Good luck. XXX
Don't blame someone now for your life not being what you want, you can change things. Only you can do it, otherwise life will pass you by and all you will do is sit in a chair and stare out the window wishing it could have been different. You have to get up off your behind!!!! X

Answer 3

I dont have self assurance there's a conspiracy against you. you haven't any longer been denied something. Having a character sickness isn't an hassle-free element to handle in existence. confirm you proceed counseling. whilst you're actually not getting counseling now you need to start, it will make a distinction. Then bypass out a sprint at a time. start up with one element and then upload to it. many people have issues going out on my own, yet you will get use to it, purely takes time.

Answer 4

I think you're your own worst enemy. I know people probably have some things to do with it but i saw you.. you dont look bad to me. You look like an intense person. You seem like you would be an interesting conversationalist. What's stopping you?

Everyone else's life isnt as great as you think it is. You can experience the best of the best and still have horrible lows. We all get dealt a certain hand and have to deal with things. What was done to you was wrong, what was done to me is wrong.. we just have to try to live with it or improve somehow.

Answer 5

Conspiracy by who, you're saying?

Your number one enemy is yourself, dear. Look at yourself differently, and - VOILA - you're a different person!
Good things in life must be worked for - that is one solid fact for you.

Answer 6

well you have a computer start making friends you are not the only one to have a **** life we all have to get on and go forward try it