I have a friend who had a baby today and she had a girl. Yay! The only thing that is a little sad for me is that I'm having a baby in a couple of weeks and it's going to be a boy. I thought it would be really fun for us to have babies together so they could be friends. I realize boys and girls can be friends, but it's not the same thing. I feel more sad because I have many friends, coworkers and family members with kids but literally, they all have girls. I'm feeling a little down about having a second son this time around. How can I get more excited about having another boy? I know that what matters is a healthy baby, I know that many people can't even have babies, I know all those things. Nonetheless, I still feel bummed right now. Any nice thoughts for me?
2007-12-29 12:29:32 · 11 answers · asked by ad 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks for the kind words so far. I really appreciate it.
2007-12-29 12:39:26 · update #1
I know what you mean... I just had my fourth baby boy. No girls. I felt depressed when I found out that it was a boy... I really wanted a girl, I even prayed to God, to change his gender while he was still inside... But as soon as I held him in the hospital I was happy!!
And boys are less expensive and low maintenance... My older boys go to school without me having to fix their hair. They don't need accessories. It's a lot easier to shop for them!
So now I still want a little girl, but until I have her, I'm happy with my little basketball team...
Plus when I do have her, she'll have a lot of brothers to look out after her! =)
2007-12-29 12:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brothers are great!
Brothers are fun playmates. They teach each other about potty training! They are rough and tumble, but still kiss each other's boo-boos. Brothers can be lifelong confidants, longterm best friends, play sports side by side and share the same toys. Heck, if they are close in age, your boys may even eventually share clothes (they don't care... if the shirt was in the drawer, it's fair game for whoever got there first, LOL).
I have 5 boys, and two girls. I'm expecting again, and I have no idea which this one will be. I've had 3 boys in the last 6 years, and a girl would change everything! I already have boxes of boy stuff! My daughter will be 7 on Tuesday, and I'll have to start from scratch if she's getting a little sister. LOL
With another boy, you've already sweat-ed out the circumcision question. You've thought about nursery colors and toy guns or not and all those other things... so ENJOY this baby! What if it is your last? You never know...
hugs to you, mommy to brothers!
2007-12-29 12:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsarahnade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you'll feel very differently once you are holding that little boy in your arms. Don't worry! Second, I always felt that it would be best to have two little boys because they seem easier to raise than girls. Girls worry about clothing, appearance, get in fights that last and last with friends, are very emotional, etc. Boys seem to get upset and then figure it out. They also don't seem to be as caught up in all of the material things that girls think they need or want. I'm one of two girls in my family and I always thought my parents would have had it a bit easier if we were boys. Besides, boys absolutely adore their mothers and continue to do so when they are adults. You will be their vision of what a woman should be.
2007-12-29 12:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Momma Mia! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel, i have a boy and with my second one i really wanted a girl i mean i just didnt want another rough tough boy!!! But (and this is the part where you cuss me) i got really lucky and had my little girl! You will feel better when its all said and done, now a year later i dont know what would have been better my little girl SCREAMS something aweful!!!! and i just wanna pull her vocal cords out lol! CONGRATS on the little baby boy!
2007-12-29 12:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by christina d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand just how you feel....don't let other people make you feel guilty for feeling this way. When I found out that my son was a son, I was pretty upset to. Of course, that feeling went away when he was born. Here's something that you should consider: Although your best friend's kid can't be his "best friend" or whatever, he is going to have a brother. A brother/brother sibling bond is very important, and is something really special. You should be glad that your son will be able to enjoy that.
2007-12-29 12:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just what yo said at the end of your sentence. Some people can't have kids. My husband and I have been trying for 4 years now and still no baby. Just thank God that you can have kids and have boys and thank God for that baby. We will never experience that joy.
2007-12-29 13:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, i have 5 girls, and i am pregnant with 2 boys. everybody i know has girls too. boys are a lot less expensive, and dont have all the drama. you could always try a play group when he gets older. that way he can have friends and you could make some that have boys in the process! good luck and congrads!
2007-12-29 12:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by Cass erole♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe have a day out shopping looking at little boy clothes , get the bedroom ready for him coming or your hospital bag with all his blue clothes and things in! and remember he will have loads of friends when he grows up whether they are girls or boys! and just enjoy the pregnancy whilst it last!
2007-12-29 12:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by xxlilmisscxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys are alot easier than girls..they dotn cause so much drama in their teen years and are usual more close to their mothers than a daughter is.
2007-12-29 12:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yay
2007-12-29 12:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by brit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋