I am really disturbed by a poster that replied to another question, opinions please?

Question

Someone (you know who you are) inplyed (sp?) that being a house wife is a lowly job! I am a stay at home mom who spends her day making life just about perfect for her husband and children. I am as happy as can be with my life. My husband works very hard to support us and I work very hard to make sure he knows that we appreciate what he does. Why do so many woman resent the idea of women like me? Dose it make you better because you have a career? I am sure I will get alot of snotty responses but I want to know what the problem is???

Rio, you can not judge my activities on what I write on here. If I made a list for you it would go on for days.

Answer 1

It's very unfortunate that some value a child being raised by a nanny more than being raised by a mother. A couple splitting up the responsibilities, the husband bringing home the money and wife providing a stable and warm home, as unequal. And value a woman reporting as an office secretary over a woman managing her own home.

While I'm a career woman, I shake my head every time I see the "modern," microwave dinner instead of the home cooked meal lifestyle forced on people. And how housewives continue to get bashed, degraded and demeaned by women who claim to fight for the right for a woman to choose.

The interesting part is, they try to hide their prejudice. So you only catch it when they "slip" but if you put up a question like this, you will get support from all. LOL

Ms Rio: What makes you think a woman who has the skills and patience to cook meals, bake pies and take care of her own children is any less worthy or skilled than a woman who takes care of other people's children at a daycare, or answers calls at a company????

EDIT:

Sex Fairy: I have kids? When did I get pregnant and who exactly is the lucky daddy? LOL And it doesn't really take much to figure out the responsibilities that come with parenting, whether you are a parent or not.

Answer 2

I think being a mother and housewife is a wonderfull thing if that is what you want. I think it is a preferable social arrangement - you create a home and a stable enviroment of love for your children to develope to their full potential - what executive throat cutting job does that. A lot of societies problems in the last 30 years have come from women not being able to fulfill this role as well as they have in the past due to working full time. In a way all this sacrifice to work has been for nothing because it has driven the price of housing upward so that much of the extra money earned goes into that (for the same house), and their children can no longer afford to buy. The old arrangement of wife at home was not always perfect, some women felt isolated and unfullfilled, but at least the kids had mum and dad at home, now, things are worse. There must be a better solution to this problem than what we tend to do now, but I think you are doing a good and wonderful thing.

Answer 3

I'm in the same boat you are. I am a stay at home mother and wife. I know how hard it is. I believe people think that since we are at home all the time we are sitting on our butts, telling our kids to shut up while we watch our soaps. This is, of course, far from the truth. The fact is no one knows what it takes to run a household successfully except for those that do it. It is just the same with any career. We do not fully know what it takes to do the job our husbands do or what our neighbors have to put up with. In an ideal world, everyone would respect each other for doing successful jobs. However, this is not an ideal world so ignore those against you. If you are doing a good job in making your house a home, then don't let people who are bitter about something in their personal life bring you down about who you are and the importance of your job.

Answer 4

I grew up during a time when most mothers stayed at home. I remember things being very different than what many people believe. For example, being a stay-at-home mother usually meant the father had to work long hours at his job because the family relied on his income. As a result, he was grouchy and tired when he came home and many mothers would send their children outside to play or to their rooms until he was able to get a few drinks in him and relax. Now, something like that is virutally unheard of. I also don't remember any mothers volunteering to help out sports teams or at school. When I was in elementary school, the teachers had young assistants to help out with the children. I never saw any mothers there. It kind of bothers me when people have such idealized notions of what went on in the past and try to promote that when they're telling other people how to live their lives.

Answer 5

I for one have a lot of respect for stay at home Moms, especially the ones that do the things like keeping the house clean, chasing after the kids, having a meal on the table when the husband comes home!! It is wonderful that your children are able to be raised by their mother and not an outsider!! Keep doing what makes you happy and what is right for you, not what others think you should do!!

Answer 6

I think that being a housewife and mother is one of the hardest and most important jobs anybody on Earth can have. Be proud of your acomplishments. I have known of many women whom I have worked with who said that they could not make themselves stay at home to raise their beautiful babies.They hated staying home! Some people I guess are not mother/housewife material. I stayed home with my children until they were in school. I then worked for very little money in the local schools so that I too would have all the time off my children had. I have always thought, "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them yourself?" The last of my children both of whom are 17 now are almost ready to fly the coop and head off for college and the begining of emancipated life. They are both comfortable in the world and will adapt well to any situation that they confront. I believe that they are better off than those children whos parents did not have the opportunities to raise their own children full time. My husband REALLY liked me to care for him, our children and the house when I wasn't working outside the home. Things are now changing for my family in a pretty drastic way though... I have raised my children and am now attending college full time. I am going to do something else that is great with the next 40 years or so of my life. Life is precious and I don't want to waste it! (Smile) Stay at home moms are wonderful people... they are raising the next generation of intelligent, thoughtful and caring adults!

Answer 7

Because they are exremely ignorant. In my view TRUE equality in society is that a surgeon gets the same respect as a houseperson. It takes a strong and self-secure woman to put most of her time and effort into raising her children and being the support heart of the family. It's a full time job, and especialy in a society when women are encouraged to have a career and 'better themselves' it takes a couragous woman to stand up and say 'this is what I want to do'. Women that stay at home should be admired.

Answer 8

I didn't see the original post, but I urge you to remember that what others think is irrelevant. I have a career AND I am a homemaker, and I want to make my husband's life and home as peaceful and enriching as possible. I never had children, and his son is grown, so our daily challenges are diferent.

Your life is blessed, because you are fulfilled by what you do. That's all that matters. Other women don't resent you, or want to change you. We just want you to be aware of the fact that life can turn on a dime. Children grow up and move away, spouses die or become disabled, situations change. None of us should put all of her eggs in one basket.

You go, girl.

Answer 9

I think a mother's job is the most difficult one in the world. Just because I don't have or want kids though, I'm not going to push my way of thinking on you. As long as you're happy, who cares? life is short. Be who you want to be.

EDIT - Let me just try to say this. I didn't see the post, but I think I understand where Rio is coming from. On the other hand, Lioness, you have kids, she doesn't. Even if she imagines that it's hard to raise them, Rio (and I) will never know exactly how hard it is until we go through it. It's just one of those things. What I'm trying to say is don't fight. Rio is 18 and she's a smart young lady. However that cannot substitute for the life experience.

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I just saw them on your 360. I figured they must be yours. Sorry. Still, you understand what I mean about age and experience I think.

Tera thought the same... LOL. We both asked you the same question, I just noticed.

Answer 10

Why on earth would a "mother" EVER feel bad for staying home with her children???

Its not even in me to feel bad for spending as much time as I can with mine. Nor will I or should I feel bad for it. Who cares who doesn't like it!

If a mother can stay at home with her children why wouldn't she?? Why should the children be shipped off while she works if its not needed? What's more important, the kids or the bank?

I've done both. I've worked seasonally and at a place with my kids. I can tell you right now my kids hated when I worked and much more preferred it when I didn't.

If there is something wrong with that then I'm guessing there was with all our female ancestors before us to then! Please!

I say if you want to stay home do it. If you want to work then do that too, but don't sit and run others down to justify your decisions!