stop riding for the love of your life ?

Question

what if your girl/women asked you to stop riding cause she thinks you will get hurt ?

1. do you stop
2 do you continue riding knowing she's worried every time you go riding.

Answer 1

I do freestyle motocross and i race supermoto and my wife worries about me all the time.but, she has also seen what it does to me when i don't ride, It's my therapy.

Answer 2

Funny,
This happened 11 years ago when I first started dating her. She had a good friend in high school that was killed while riding a bike. So for the first summer we dated I stopped riding with the intention to pick it up the next year.
We talked about it and she knew that I really loved riding with my dad and that I missed it. She "allowed" me to start riding the following year. (Without harassing me)
About 3 years later (Married Now) I wanted to buy a new bike, I went down to my local Honda shop, looked around found a bike I liked (VTX 1300C) I asked my wife who has never ridden to come down and take a look at it to get her opinion. After having it for a few months I coxed her into a slow ride around our neighborhood. She nervously agreed and the rest is history.
To make a long story short, We just got back from a 5,000 mile trip out west. She loves the bike and the wind in her hair. We have put over 23,000 miles on that bike together and next summer she is going to take a riders safety course and she is going to look at a bike of her own.

Moral*** Don't be to quick to judge, Yes its a little dangerous but so is crossing the street.


Live to Ride, Ride to Live
It's not the Destination, It's the Journey

Answer 3

If you were riding before you met your girl/ woman ans she knew you were riding when you started going with each other, then she would have to have understood and accepted that in the beginning.
If you have been going out or married for awhile and all of a sudden you decide to go out and buy a motorcycle for the first time, then that is something you may have to discuss and figure your woman's feelings on?
Maybe just take an advanced rider course and always wear a helmet and other PPE to make your woman more comfortable with you being on a motorcycle.

Answer 4

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Some people who are against riding motorcycles tend to make demands without being fully informed on the subject.



I have been riding for 27 years.
I am aware that every single time I get on my scoot that I might not make it home again.
I ride anyway because I love do do so.

Knowing someone is worried about me makes me ride just that much more carefully.

Riding a scoot is all about trust. I trust that the cagers around me are following the same rules I am and that they are observant enough to notice me on the road.
The cagers trust me to do the same and not cause any accidents.
I trust my loved one to understand that this is a necessary thing for me to do because of my love for it and my dependence on it to maintain my sanity.
Therefore, my loved one also should trust me to know that I am an experienced rider and that I DO know what I'm doing and that I will do everything in my power to return safelt every time.

Answer 5

I don't believe that if a person says they love you and know you they would expect or ask you to give up their sport. And if you would consider doing so then the sport is not the most important thing to you.
I look at this question from a different perspective as I am a mother of 2 boys who ride and the youngest does Motocross and Supercross to a high level. I have watched him break both his arms his leg, his arm again, his collarbone , his foot and dislocate his whole leg and that one was a doosy. I would love for him to give the sport up as the stress my husband and I feel with him doing it is very great and it isn't a sport we chose for him but he just ended up in it. He is completely passionate about the sport and to take it away from him would be a crime. His teachers say 'why do your parents let you do this' when he turns up at school with another injury. They just don't get it. Taking the sport away from him would be like stopping him breath.
If one day a girl suggests he stop doing it I would drop down dead if he did so to please her.
I would suggest this person finds a girl who will be happy to follow the sport with or without the stress.

Answer 6

This doesn't exactly answer the intent of your question; but, when my youngest brother was run over and killed while on his motorcycle, my mother asked me to stop. I did for a fair amount of time. When I couldn't hold out any longer, I asked her if she would be alright if I started again (I was married with children, but I liked my mom a lot and would not do anything to distress her if I could avoid it).

My wife knows my passion for the my ride and would not ask me to stop, if she did, we would have to have a very serious discussion about the quality of our life together if I could not ride.

The answer to your question, I don't know.

Answer 7

Were you riding b/4 the relationship? Are you passionate about riding? If yes to both keep riding. If her position is "me or the machine" lose her.

Answer 8

Ride to Live, Live to Ride.
I kept on riding. If she gets fed up with it then she can leave. I let my first wife talk me into stopping riding---biggest mistake I made, ended up divorced any way and no bike. If she loves you she'll not even bring it up. If she tries to stop you then get rid of her because it's a symptom of her wanting to control you and everything you do!

Answer 9

I've been riding 34 years now and will never stop riding, but also have never been asked to stop riding which i never would.

Answer 10

Put her on the back and continue riding.

Answer 11

man! thats a tough question. I can see where your love is coming from... but if you love riding, you shouldn't give it up.

You have to remember to have fun in life, and if riding is one of the things that make you happy.. try and explain that to her instead of just giving it up. if she still doesn't understand.. try riding less?