2007-12-29 10:48:48 · 20 answers · asked by thepaladin38 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not a male, but my friend cheated on her husband many times while he was overseas and ended up pregnant by one of the guys she was messing with. Of course, she never mention to her husband about the pregnancy. She went on and had the baby, and when her husband returned from overseas, he asked her "who's the cute kid"? She broke down and told him the truth. He told her that it was OK and that he like the baby. He remained with her for a few years until her conscience started bothering her. His kindness to her and the baby, cause her to have a nervous breakbown. He had to end up raising the child. His philosophy were "men cheat all the time (having babies on the side) and is forgiven. He cheated while he was overseas, so why knock a woman if she does the same (but she was left holding the bag). She can be forgiven also. Anyone can make a mistake. But don't make the same mistake the second time. So you can let your conscience guide you or your heart.
2007-12-29 15:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Show Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, but if my husband cheated on me and got another woman pregnant I would leave and get a divorce. There is no excuse for cheating. IF you love someone, you do not cheat on them. If the woman gets pregnant, that means protection was not used, and they could bring something home besides a baby.
The thing that you are going to have to protect yourself from, if you leave or get a divorce, is being forced to pay child support for another man's child. You may have to have DNA tests done to prove you are not the father. I think that in a lot of states, the husband is automatically considered to be the father and ordered to pay support. You need to talk to a lawyer to find out what you need to do to protect yourself.
2007-12-29 11:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by grahod 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman but if I were a man and my wife did this I would leave. Not so much because she cheated (because that can be worked through), but because she now has another child by another man. I wouldn't want to have any part of that but that's just me.
2007-12-29 10:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but I really think its up to you wether you want to stay or go. She was wrong for cheating on you, so if you do decide to leave her, then she reaps what she sows. You have nothing to feel guilty about if you leave her by herself with that baby cause it's not your problem.If you stay, then she might get too comfortable with you raising that baby when it's not even yours. So I think you should really do what you feel is best for YOU and spare yourself anymore pain because she obviously doesnt care about you.Caring for other people is a good thing, but sometimes you gotta think about your own feelings too. Hope I helped. Take care.
2007-12-29 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck to the NO, I would split faster than Flash Gordon! I could handle/get over the cheating aspect but not having some other mans kid around to remind me or her infidelity for the next 20 years!! This isn't like having a step child, It would be too awkward and I would be too bitter!!
2007-12-29 11:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because I believe that we could work through the issue of cheating, and also if she was pregnant with someone else's child.
Because even though the child wouldn't be my child, I would love that child just like it were one of my own. Because the child didn't do anything wrong to be treated like garbage.
2007-12-29 11:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she cheated on you and now you have to bare the responsibility?
Plus if you stay and accept the child as your son/daughter if you ever divorced you HAVE to pay child support even if it was not your child. Are you ready for that responsibility? Plus you will always have trust issues.
2007-12-29 19:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much I really love this person. I mean even if you decide to forgive her you'll never forget. Not only did she go out of your marriage but she didn't even have the decency to protect herself or you. Good luck and best wishes on whatever you decide.
2007-12-29 11:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by tc22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really don't know what I would do or how would I react. I think I would feel extremely awfully hurt deep inside of me.
2007-12-29 10:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be a deal breaker for me. I wouldn't be able to stay at all.
2007-12-29 12:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋