Question for black women?

Question

How many of you are really open to dating white guys? I know almost all will say race doesn't matter, because that is the PC thing to say. However, I've dated a few black chicks that were very concerned about what their family thought and also concerned about being made fun of by their friends. I think it's easy to say race doesn't matter, but it is another thing to date a white person and not care what your family or friends think. So, how many of you are really ok with having a deep relationship with a white guy? How many of you would be proud to introduce a white guy to your black friends and not feel ashamed or embarrassed? How many of you would invite him over to meet the family or show pictures of him to your coworkers, knowing they would be shocked? Can you really picture yourself having a long relationship with a white guy? Marrying a white guy? Having a family with a white guy?

Answer 1

Well, I'm married to a white guy so that answers your question. We've been together for nearly two years and we're very happy. He's the only person that I feel completely at ease with. We tell each other everything. I couldn't ask for a better person to share my life with.

My friends, who are black, have no problem with me being married to a white man and they like him a lot. My family likes him as well. His family is very kind to me, also. I do think that some people have families who aren't as receptive to this sort of thing, but I'd like to think that most families are perfectly fine with it in the 21st century.

I'm very proud of my husband and I'm sure he's proud of me as well.

This isn't to say that race has never crossed our minds. We're very aware that we come from two very different places and have different views about certain political issues, but this only enhances the learning experience. He learns a lot from me about social problems that are more familiar to me and I learn a lot about social problems that are more familiar to him. We're very open about race and we make jokes from time to time about each other's complexions (he's very pale and I'm dark).

I've dated other men who were not black as well. I've never had a dating preference as far as skin-color. I love nerds, though. Computer nerds who wear goofy screen-T's have always been my personal favorite. Lol.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I would. I know it would be easier to date a black man/ bring him home/ relate to him... but at the end of the day, it's all about being with the person I'm most happy with. If he's worth it, then all the sacrifices are worth it too. I've never been the type of person to really care what others think, so I'd get over the fact that others were "shocked" pretty easily. The hardest thing would be seeing eye to eye on a few topics. If you would have asked this question a year and a half ago, I would have said "no" to marrying a white man... because that's a harder route. At first, when my dad married a white woman, my sister and I found it to be a little uncomfortable/strange. I've grown up since then. Bottom line is, if he's my man and I love him, I'd be proud to take him anywhere in the world. I've matured and learned a lot. If I'm with an honest, loving man who happens to be white -- what's to be ashamed about? My happiness comes first.

Answer 3

I have always dated white men exclusively. It's just my personal perference. I find them extremely attractive (the guys I've dated) and the qualities I look for in men are typically found in white men. I also have alot in common with the guys I've dated unlike any other. And I can definitely see myself marrying a white man since these are the guy I'm around most and are very attractive too. My family or friends have never had a problem with it. However I have came across of few white guys that were concerned about what their family may think. Even to the point to make them not want to pursue anything serious. And this is pretty common with white guys. Talk about heart break. But it doesn't really effect me to the point of not wanting to pursue white men anymore. If a guy wants me, he'll be with me no matter what. And most do!

Answer 4

As a White Man of Viking descent I realize I am not supposed to comment on a topic like this, but I really don't care. My wife is Chinese, and I find women of all races and colors to be beautiful. I think the reason why white women and black men date is for the same reasons why I have dated black women and Asian women. They look good. I have dated black women and been very satisfied with the experiences due to the unbelievable hotness of black women. All women are beautiful, and if I was a straight white women, I believe I would find men of all races and colors to be beautiful. Thank God I am a man because I like to be the man, and I have found women of all races like to submit to my masculine nature. It is the natural order of the human species for women to be submissive and men dominant. In my experiences I have found black women to be much more submissive than white women, and white women more submissive than Asian women. Maybe that's why I like black women so much, they make me feel manly. As far as white people being less evolved than blacks, that is just an ignorant racist remark most likely made by a very miserable person. It is true there have been many wonderful civilizations in Africa throughout history, but the same should also be said of Europe, Asia, and the Americas. For anyone to believe one race superior to another is small-minded indeed. Please keep your mind open to people from other cultures and races. The human species has had enough senseless violence and bloodshed because of close-mindedness. If two people love each other than that is that. It may be natural to want all the people of one's race to not date interracially, but that is just not a realistic viewpoint. People are going to date whoever they want, and anyone else's opinion is of no consequence. This issue has nothing to do with uncontrolled immigration by the way. That is just plain stupidity.

Answer 5

Well, I am married to a white guy. Been married almost 5 years. At first it was hard to get over his race. I almost didn't date him because of it. But race, like many others have responded keeps us interested in one other. It is hard relating when one or both parties in the relationship are unwilling to be sensitive to the issues that are related to race. But I am not ashamed of him, and I don't care what people think.

Answer 6

To be simple and blunt: Yes. I dated white men in the past and I had no problem. Yes, your right some people was shocked, didn't initially like the idea at first, they were negative looks and responses from both sides of the spectrum and my family took some time to get use to the idea but after awhile they did. It didn't bother me because I' am not living my life for their approval. If some people don't like the fact that I date a white, Asian, Hispanic, etc. man that is their problem not mines. I' am not limiting myself when it comes to love just because some people can't get over something as trivial as skin and race as long as he is a good and decent guy.

Answer 7

I would have no problem dating a white guy I think some white guys are attractive and I wouldn't care what other s thought about it.

Answer 8

I might consider dating them but it is not likely; a deep relationship I don't know because I don't think I could ever get over his race; I don't think I could be proud to introduce him to my close ones or show pictures of him off; marrying I don't think I can or have children with him

I just don't think that I would ever to be able to really get over his race; every morning I wouldn't be waking up to my "man" but to my "white man"

Answer 9

I would have a family, marry and etc things with a white guy because That's who I perfer in my life. I don't care what my family, co-workers and friends think!

Answer 10

I have been dating a white guy for over a year now. He met my mom and she loves him and his daughter!