I was a widow making a decent annuity from my deceased husband. I make enough where I do not have to work. I have a small autistic child, and I am happy to be able to be with him full time. My new husband will not get a job because I make a pretty decent amount every month. ALTHOUGH since I have met him (and have another mounth to feed) I have been BROKE. I have asked him to get a job, but he won't. He is so wonderful with my son, I can not imagine he is with me for just my money. I have a small ranch that is more of a hobby than a money maker...I was going to sell it when my last husband died and find a smaller and more reasonable place. My new husband convinced me to stay here and I took my house off the market. So now I still have this huge house, a bunch of livestock and a husband who refuses to work. Am I being an idiot? Should I dump him and go back to my original plan? Or did I marry for richer or poorer...and I should wait it out. uuuggghhh....
2007-12-29 10:36:04 · 30 answers · asked by Pepsi_Frog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dump the free-loader and go back to your original plan; talk to a lawyer before you mention it to your husband.......
2007-12-29 10:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You made enough so you did not have to work, but now you say you are broke. Do not let this man live off you!!! He needs to get a job. He may be wonderful with your son, but what on earth is he doing all day long?? Doesn't he at least, if not to make a ton of money, want to go out and do something? There has to be things he likes to do. With so many costs of living going up, I think you both, or he, should try to get income for as long as you can. You never know what will come up. Your financial security is very important, and you have to not only think about now, but later too. I think if he doesn't wise up and realize there has to be $$ to live, you SHOULD dump him. Sooner or later he will realize he has to work, but if you are allowing his freeloading to happen it will just continue. Good luck to you and I hope things work out in your favor!!
2007-12-29 11:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They all go under the auspices of being legit. However the phoney ads about making thousands of dollars weekly or whatever is a complete waste of your time. Time must be rewarded with money if you have serious need.Don't get jacked around by the phoney radio commercials. Plan, Take stock of your abilities(good babysitter, good nanny,good house cleaner, good cook) These things are always needed.Upgrade later after the right education. Start with Community colleges. Not phoney schools that want a load of money first and give zero training.
2016-05-27 20:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your dead husband did his best to make sure you were taken care of in the event of his death and now you have married a deadbeat and are putting you and your sons future in peril.... So my advice is get rid of him he knew that you had it made that's why he married you because he saw a sucker.... Lets hope he cant touch what is left.... GET RID OF HIM HE WILL NEVER WORK.... Creeps like this use the children to keep their in....... and you are falling for it...
2007-12-29 11:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by diva102288 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his butt and go back to your original plan, he is a free loader and your money won't last forever, since he is doing nothing to add to it.Don't let him use up what your husband let behind for his son, it is not right.
2007-12-29 11:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by onyx1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How To Be A Girl Because I Really Wanna Know How To.?
2016-10-29 05:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job or you will leave before he spends your money and destroys the future for you and your child. If he truly loves you he will do what is right.
2007-12-29 10:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by experienced in life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster ... LOL. Yes, he does sound like he's using you for your money. I'm sorry, but why else wouldn't he want to work? If he was jobless when you married him then that should have been a good sign!
2007-12-29 10:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You married for richer or poorer.. not LAZINESS! Tell his lazy butt to get out of the house and help pay for some bills. If he refuses, kick him out.. you're paying for the house, food and you don't need him there. Find a better, more appreciative hubby.
2007-12-29 11:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get a job and let him watch your son while you're at work.
I know you probably don't want to do that, but you DID marry this guy, and presumably he didn't have a job when you married him. You're sort of stuck; it might cost you more to get rid of him than you think.
2007-12-29 10:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you being and idiot he married you for richer and you married for poorer you need to do whats best for you and i know your momma didn't raise no fool and that's exactly what your being it he don't wanna work kick his a$z out and move on there's better men out there who works and will take good care of you and your child but hey its your life i hope you make a good decision
2007-12-31 07:34:14 · answer #11 · answered by Ms. know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋