I am still very much in love with him, but he is changing drastically for the worse. He has become arrogant and full of himself, with no regards for my feelings. He comes and goes in and out of the house at any time of the day, and doesn't say a word. I am very attractive with a nice personality, and educated, yet he blames me for his personal flaws.
2007-12-29 10:19:27 · 15 answers · asked by anoname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he is having a midlife crisis.
You both need to go to counseling.
2007-12-29 10:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tigger 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So stop looking at him, at least for the time being. Get all "purtied up" and leave the house whenever you feel like it. You can go to the grocery store, your parents, it really doesn't matter, just give him a taste of his own medicine and see how that goes down him. When you get married, you have to develop a pretty thick skin sooner or later. Now's the time to stop being his doormat and become the Keeper of the House Keys. Of course, all of this is going to pique his curiosity and he'll want to know where you're going, who you talked to and he'll probably accuse you of having an affair. It's amazing how men begin to commicate when they feel threatened by another man or something unknown to them. You are free to ask him questions as well. Act somewhat distant to him (that should be easy), seem distracted, wear sexy underwear (I recommend G-strings & push-up bras in red, etc.), go to the beauty shop and change your hair color and style and walk around with a Mona Lisa smile ;-)
2007-12-29 18:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's any consolation, you're not alone. I too am being treated badly in my relationship and can't really work out the true reasons why. I came on here looking for answers...... I think your problems sound particularly harsh though. My man still has some consideration for me. I would suggest to him that he seek counselling but how you do that without being patronizing, i don't know. It would seem that as much as you love your husband, perhaps he does not love you?
2007-12-29 18:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by kosmickat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 10 years, and that sounds like the beginning of a downhill relationship. Both of you should go to counseling (together) before it gets any worse between the two of you. You don't want to just let it go, you sound like a wonderful person, and if you want things to work out and last between the two of you, you should both get some help. Good luck.
2007-12-29 18:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by hippiechick 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When he shows you no respect, when he refuses to acknowledge that you are even there, you have to ask yourself what are you hanging on to?
If he is living his life like he is single, and you are the only one "married" how do you expect to keep it going?
If he refuses to accept his own flaws and instead projects them onto you, how can you make it better?
You need to find out what brought on this. It could be another woman, it could be drugs, or gambling, or the people he chooses to hang out with. But whatever it is you shouldn't have to put up with it. Stand up for yourself now, tell him this behavoir is NOT acceptable and you will tell him to leave if he doesn't improve. If you have no respect for yourself, how can you expect him to have some for you? If he chooses not to, you have your answer - its over.
2007-12-29 18:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiss him. Hug him. My husband did a one eighty like that and i realized it was my fault. I was not nice, respectful or caring towards him and I didn't see it. It took a book to make me see what I was doing. As soon as I started respecting him and treating him like the person I loved he changed and it wasn't overnight. If you still love him give it your all to win him back.
2007-12-29 21:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by taken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is insecure and maybe even cheating. He doesn't respect you like a husband that loves you should. You may want to watch closely on where he goes and his computer history. That is very strange he would just change like that all of a sudden.
2007-12-29 18:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You could always try counseling. That would be worth a shot to save your relationship if he is still in liove with you. I hope that you have better luck than I did.
2007-12-29 18:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by julie_loves_music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love him to infinity, but marriage is not based only on love. Mutual respect is just as important.
Sounds like he needs a talk about accountability. If he is not able to accept responsibility for his own actions, it sounds like he is not mature enough for marriage. Talk to him, and don't let him turn HIS actions back on YOU. If he says something like "You're constant nagging makes me frustrated and that's why I ..." tell him, "If you feel like I am nagging you, please let me know, but I can not let you disrespect me."
2007-12-29 18:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have already tried to talking to him and he is not changing, here's a suggestion.............give him a taste of his own medicine! See if he can take it let he gives it!! Of course, unless there are kids involved. Don't do it in front of them. If you have everything going for you, MOVE ON without of him. I know this is easier said than do, but you have to think of YOU first!!! You will find someone who appreciates you. Good Luck! : )
2007-12-29 18:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by tink's wife 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋