.. in tension especially around my neck and lower back and I am becoming irritable over the slightest things (even with myself!).
I have already decided to look into having a massage (for the first time properly) -
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApcqVM2zMrOZuPjoLGNtWZYgBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20071229131116AAvscPq
but other than that and walking/swimming what actvities/foods could anyone recommend to help me to relax.
I have recently lost my brother and don't feel like socialising and going away on holiday at the moment is out of the question.
I am fifty-two year's of age and have had four children (all boys so no wonder I am stressed out!).
I want to be able to relax *mentally* and emotionally more than anything because I think that that is what is causing the physical tension and sleeplessness.
Thank you for any suggestions.
Best wishes,
Joan.
2007-12-29
09:36:47
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Just to add and to be honest - I *have* been drinking too much over the past few days and that is *very* unusual for me but it is under control.
2007-12-29
09:40:06 ·
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Ha ha,"STOP!" - my boys are all huge great hulking young men now but I may try the yoga with my grandsons when I am ready to have them round here again.The middle one in particular needs some relaxation and fun and he is mentally stressed too and that is also the cause of my stress in part but I won't go into that here (my other questions might tell you some of the reasons -
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Anea_MnidfvzEhMl3Zrq9IkgBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20071229060942AAQivlZ
I am not sure about acupuncture - are the needles safe?
2007-12-29
10:07:37 ·
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i don't know why i keep missing your questions Joan , i keep going into your profile , so forgive me if i am a little late , your sleep problems and that fact you feel irritable are all part of grieving , you've had a stressful time of it lately with everything you've had to put up with plus Christmas on top its too much for anyone to cope with , I'd go for that Indian head massage , it will really help you, it may not take the problem away completely but for a small time you will feel different and think more clearly ,The recent events that have happened to you will have taken its toll on you mentally and physically , put yourself first for a change nothing happens over night ,i keep saying it takes time to get back to normal ( whatevers normal ) slow down xx
2007-12-29 10:13:04
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answered by ♥BEX♥ 7
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Here are some ideas for different activities you can do to lower your stress. Just pick a couple that look interesting to you, and try them out. If these ideas help you de-stress, you can include them in your daily or weekly routine. If not, you can try others on the list, or come up with a list of your own. Talk to your parents or another trusted adult about how they de-stress. They might have some good ideas you can try out. 1. Simplify your life. You may feel like you’re not in control of everything that’s expected of you. But really it’s up to you to decide what you can do, and what you cannot do. 2. Yoga, Tai Chi 3. Take a Break. Sometimes your tired brain is just craving a little time off from your busy day. Stop what you’re doing, and find a quiet spot where you can put your feet up. Drink some tea (without caffeine!), or take a bath. Read a book or magazine, or even watch TV, if it’s a non-stressful show. These things sounds so basic, you might think, “why bother?” But when your feet are up, your stress level drops. 4. Meditation and Prayer offer you ways to calm and focus your thoughts and feel more positive. There are many styles of meditation which have grown out of spiritual practices around the world. Meditation includes sitting still in a quiet place, focusing your thoughts on your breath or on a slow chant, and trying to be aware of what is going on in the present moment, instead of stressing about the past or freaking out about the future. With prayer you focus on feeling connected to a higher spiritual power, and on wishes and hopes you may have for yourself or people you care about. Get in touch with your local church, temple, Yoga center, or Buddhist center about a prayer or meditation group. If you’re shy about attending a group, you can check videos out from the library about different meditation and prayer techniques. gl..c
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Try and avoid antidepressant drugs particularly amitryptyline quoted by one reply.This has more side effects than advantages and can be difficult to stop ( see http://www.drugs.com/MTM/amitriptyline.html)
Most authorities recommend increased exercise, eg if you have a dog take it for a long walk or see whether there is are any local yoga groups. Try and share your worries with someone you trust as its easy to get things out of proportion. If you wake in the night a radio can help as it diverts your thoughts from going over things. If you can get a small radio by your bed ,maybe with earphones if you have a partner, and you will probably drop off after a little while. Find a station thats not too demanding!! Short wave is even better.
If your GP is any good see if he/she can suggest anything, they get paid enough!
2007-12-29 10:15:18
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answered by lifesagambol 4
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Dear Joan,
I'm afraid it sounds like you may be suffering from depression. I went through the same thing when I lost my mother. I had no idea that's what I was going through until I posted a similar question to a group of online friends! A visit to my doctor confirmed it.
Massage will definitely help the tension...so will having someone you can talk to to start dealing with the greif of the loss of your brother. Staying active with walking and swimming is excellent and will help. The holidays can be especially hard, but do try to get out and see your family. If the symptoms persist (sleeplessness, irritableness, not wanting to go out), you may want to see your doctor.
I hope you feel better soon.
Take care.
2007-12-29 09:48:13
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answered by pink.vixie 2
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Have you tried Yoga or Pilate's? They will help you relax and stretch out. Otherwise it sounds to me like you could do with a day or weekend at the Spa to treat and pamper yourself and get a massage booked. When I suffered with something similar I had a lot of nice bubble baths and started reading books again, this helped me forget my worries (or at least put them out of my mind for a while) and concentrate on what I was reading. Just do anything that makes you happy, I also took up a hobby that I gave up as a teenager and am really enjoying it again. Good luck and hope you feel better soon!
2007-12-29 09:43:39
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answered by clairey_dee 3
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Joan the only two things I can suggest which are different to others is Tai Chi (although this would mean joining a class of people) which balances the mind, body and spirit, and is especially good for pain. The other is meditation. Meditation has been proved to alleviate stress and tension, clearing away depression if done regularly. Apart from that any exercise is also proven to lift depression and release feel good hormones. Walking is excellent for this. Hope you feel better soon Joan. x
2007-12-29 21:13:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Try yoga, meditation, drinking some calming tea(found at any walmart, kmart, etc), take a bath with some bath salts, soft music, deep breathing. A massage would definitely help. Writing down your feelings would help with your loss of your brother, possibly even talking about it. If it continues more than 2 weeks (sleeplessness and tension), call your doctor. You may need some medication or a specialist.
2007-12-29 09:43:10
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I know you've metioned walking. Im telling you though go to the gym and work it is a great stress releiver. Put some music on and just go with it. Take a nice hot relaxing bath with some lavender, and make sure its quiet in your house. Go have a cup of coffe with one of your friends. Hope all gets better for you.
2007-12-29 09:42:11
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Joan are you going through menapause by any chance as this sounds like some of your problems.
Have your doctor check out your hormone balance.
You have had a lot to put up with Joan and try not to punish yourself to much your body needs time pysical and mental to recover.
Massage is a good idea also swimming and a good old chat to your friends is even better.
2007-12-29 10:00:52
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answered by momof3 7
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Have you tried drinking herbal teas? They are warm and soothing and can help you relax more. You can try green tea/peppermint tea/camomille tea or lemon tea.
You can also try buying raw coconut oil to put on your face, it can be really healing. You can also put cucumbers over your eyes and prepare a nice bath for yourself with rose petals and some of that raw coconut oil. Turn on the cd player to some of your favorite music and just sit back in the tub and relax.
2007-12-29 09:45:35
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