I am a girl and I hate babies.?

Question

I hate babies with a passion. And as much as I hate babies there is one thing I hate more - their parents.

I am still a teenager and no one ever takes me seriously. Sometimes I wish I was never born, or I wish I was a guy...it would be easier.. People say I will change my mind, and they call me immature, but at least I don't sit around talking baby talk, like responsible mature adults do, changing pooey undies and whatnot.

Is that all there is to life for women? Having kids? Is that the be all and end all of my existence?? Is that all women are good for? Being wombmen??? UGH...because if it is I might as well commit a murder suicide today.

Babies and pregnancy gross me out, don't say I'll change my mind because I wont ever. They are not cute, I think pregnant women are hidious and I was just wondering...am I the only girl who hates babies?

I think that hatred is a perfect word to describe the way I feel. Hating babies is as normal to me as having babies is for other people. Everything a baby represents sickens me.

I have known ever since I could remember that I never want to be married settle down and have babies.

Life is futile, existence is futile. The meaninglessness that I wake up and feel every day towards life is something I would never want my own child to ever feel. So I want to spare that child the pain, the hurt and the confusion of life and existence. Because it is not worth it. In the end life is not worth it. Babies grow old, and people die.

I also don't believe in god.

I just don't feel as though I belong in this world. I feel out of place. I'll never find happiness.


"How different the beginning of our life is to the end! The former is made up of deluded hopes, sensual enjoyment, while the latter is pursued by bodily decay and the odour of death."
-Arthur Schopenhauer

Answer 1

I agree with you.

women are mostly seen as baby making machines. do what you want to do. its really sad that the society tells us what we should do with our gender. I'll shave my legs and wear thongs if I like. I'll do what I like to do.

be freeeeeeeeeeee!!!! dont listen to people. you could tie your tubes to prove them that you are serious.

and "dislike" sounds better than "hate". so say that you dislike babies.

Answer 2

Oh trust me honey you're not the only one, I hate kids too.
I am only 17 and people keep telling me "oh you'll change your mind and this and that" but it will never happen trust me.
I've hated kids since I was 4, when my aunt had her baby she asked if I wanted to hold it I just looked at her like she was crazy and said in the rudest voice "um gross no" and got up and walked out of the hospital room.
My friends still tell me to this day "oh you will have a kid trust me" yea right no thanks and I can't have kids anyway I'm a lesbian soooo there's another excuse to why I "can't" have any :)

Answer 3

what is up with people these days I love babies and I am a teen

Answer 4

Why is it that you hate babies and their parents? I just wonder what the root of all of this is. Is it because you feel like they are time-consuming? annoying? noisy? Perhaps it may help to evaluate the source of your hate.

To answer your question, I don't think all women have to like babies or even have a maternal instinct. I also think that you opinions change through time and you encounter more life experiences and people you love.

There is a lot to being a woman, much more than just having kids. If you just look around at all of the strong women in the world, you should see that there are so many options for us. We are so blessed in this day in age to have the power of choice and free will.

Have you ever thought about the fact that your thoughts of "murder suicide" would also contribute to the stereotype that women react to problems in life with drama, hysteria, and irrationality? You alone should be in control of who you are and what you wish to achieve. To give that to anyone else would make you less of a person--man or woman.

Answer 5

Slow down a little, open your eyes, and take a look at the world. There are a lot of women anymore who make the decision to not have children. You too can make that choice, it wasn't always that way but definitely is now, so it will be relatively easy for you to live your life without children. My daughter is making that choice and is very comfortable with it. There is much more in life available to women who are willing to work and achieve. Look at any profession, look at business, and look at government/politics. Women are involved in all of these areas, and women are in leadership positions as well. So opportunities for women are endless all you have to do is set your goals, stay in school, study hard, and work hard and you will be rewarded. The doors are open , some of them need to be pushed open, but when you walk through the door you will find opportunity after opportunity.

Answer 6

When I was a teenager, I swore I never wanted children. 20 years later, I still don't. I knew I would never change my mind.

Don't wish you were a man. Men have it a lot harder than women. Ever heard of male bravado? That's a lot of display *lol*!

Of course people say, "Oh, you'll change your mind some day." Most people want children and assume you will too. Especially in a pronatalist society like the US. Just smile politely and humor them.

No, having children is not all there is to life for women. You are under NO obbligation to have children. Having children is a CHOICE. If you don't want them, there are many different forms of birth control to use to insure you don't have them.

Having kids is not the be all and end all of my existence. Adn don't let anyone tell you otherwise. If someone justifies their purpose or existence by procreating, that's THEIR WAY of purpose, NOT YOURS.

Answer 7

Don't listen to any of the assholes on here saying that you are sick. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I got into a MASSIVE argument on facebook about how I am never going to have sex and have kids. I included in my original statement that I am sick and tired of people telling me that I am just a teenager, and therefore I will change my mind. Of course, nearly all of the replies included at the end, "you're young, you will change your mind." This infuriated me to no end, and seeing it again on here is just making me angry again.

Babies are gross. I prefer kittens. Even as newborns, kittens are cute. I was an ugly little sh*t when I was born. I looked like a cross between a sumo wrestler and Buddy Hacket. Kittens are great because they meow, not cry/scream. Very early on, kittens become self sufficient. They don't smell like sh*t, like babies do. They can walk around very early. Therefore they are capable of finding their own food.

Although I would not say that I *hate* babies, I highly dislike them, especially male babies.

Never let anybody tell you what to do. Don't follow the crowd. If you are not having sex, don't start anytime soon. If you are having sex, be sure to use birth control.

And guess what, I'm not going to be an a**hole and give you a sappy line like, "oh, honey, you'll change your mind", because I don't think that you will change your mind, and I know how hurtful it can be when people who don't even know you are so arrogant that they think they can tell you your future.

Good luck :)

Answer 8

I think (as much as you will hate to read this) that it has a lot to do with your age. There are a lot of women who choose to never have a kid within their lifetimes, simply because it's not the life for them. If that's what you think women live for, then you have obviously not found a passion,hobby or true love to live for. You live life as best you can and once you find something that makes everything worthwhile, you'll see. I've had my heart broken hard (I am 18years old now) Anyways, aside from that, maybe this extreme hatred towards pregnant women and their babies is something to do with a past experience?

Answer 9

I knew I did not want to have children back in my late twenties. I just knew it was not for me. This doesn't mean I hate babies. I think they are so cute. Babies are however depended on you the Mother to take care of them. I think there isn't anything wrong with what you feel however, hate is a very strong word.

These days a woman can choose to live as she wishes. She has a choice to make a life of her own. That includes you. Give it time and you can decide what you want in your life.

Answer 10

Well there are many women who don't feel comfortable around children and have no plans of having there own. I think its fine, its personal preference. There is much more to life than having children. However, I don't think people think you are immature an not take you seriously because of this belief, but because of the way you present it. You are extremely hateful, disrespectful and have a hostile attitude toward the issue. There is no reason to be defensive so get the tangle out of your tinsel.

Answer 11

I do not "hate" babies, but I mostly find them intolerable but only because of who their parents are. It seems our society has adopted an attitude that allows babies and ill behaved toddlers to ruin the atmosphere of just about every public place. I do not feel joy for anyone who is pregnant mostly because they turn into those parents who allow the child to raise hell and control every day life. You do not have to have children, and it is not the purpose of life. You are on this earth to enjoy your life, soak up your surroundings, be happy. The earth has more than enough humans to sustain an existence, and does not need every single woman to become pregnant. This should serve to shame all those parents who are out there raising brats, and think their baby is so cute. Newsflash, and ill behaved child is far from cute, and you are giving everyone a false impression of parenthood and what it means to have a baby.