I hate making people unomfortable please help me!?

Question

okay so i was in the cinema today and i was sitting next to a person i didnt no and i felt as if was making them uncomfortable. I mean i was just sitting looking at the screen but its as if they felt i was looking at them, so they turned away, i think i have really bad peiphal vision (its outside of the eye) its just every move someone does it just trigers something inside my head. I mean i was in a n exam the other day and two people were sittin either side of me and i just felt they were uncomfortable because of me. I think i might have some sort of paranoia, and i no i shud relax, i just dont no y im so agitated by this. It might be the fact that im letting people down, just help me guys is there anything i can do? and do you ever feel uncomfortabl next to someone or in resturant? please please help i dont want to go mental!

Answer 1

i have a similiar problem i have a tendency to look as if i am looking up or off to the side when i talk to people. I think i am looking directly at them but in school i was picked on for doing this. The way i helped my self was to concentrate very hard on the person i was talking to so that i was looking at them and not to the side or up in the air. Don't be so hard on your self it will get better just keep your head up.

Answer 2

Dont worry about going mental. Your already mental. I mean, your in a movie theatre and your mentally not with the movie your with some narcissistic paranoia of some sort. Why pay to see a movie when it is some fantasy driving you into distractions that have you walking around in public not fully concious of the surroundings except to use them for this fun game you play with yourself. I think what I would do if I need to irradicate this behavior is try to become aware of it from the beginning to the end and then work on determining changes in the program that clearly succeed in this. The only way I can percieve of this is to bring to a concious level each and every time I do this and stop each and every time. The practice of this eventually leads to more experience and better effects. It takes no less an effort than would an alcoholic in AA. Where do you start? Anywhere anytime like right now.