if you could have just one more day........?

Question

with someone who has died , how would you spend the day ?

oh barb i didn't mean to upset you x ............ i would have to say i would spend mine on a secluded beach , peaceful with just the sound of the waves and the odd seagull flying above us ,i wouldn't have to say much just sit and hold them and say goodbye because i didn't have the chance too and thats whats so sad .......

freethinker-- that sounds really lovely i can picture it now and as you say it wouldn't matter what season it was , you probs wouldn't even notice xxx

Answer 1

At home with her and every single member of family we would have several chocolate fountains on the go she loved chocolate, hug, kiss and never let her go.
Music full blast lots of junk food and party Bex it would be what she would have wanted her close family all happy together.

Bex thank you for sharing that and I believe like others they are never far from us anyway. A good but so hard a question Bex. x

Answer 2

My dad had completed his life here and was suffering so badly, I would not have wanted to keep him here in pain any longer - his body had had enough.

Someone I wish I could go back in time to meet would have been my great grandmother, mum's nan who had died before she was born. Her dad was their youngest son, the last of 12 or 13 children. I would like to know how on earth she coped with the fact that the first 6 died in infancy- 2 actually dying on the same day from scarlatina -did she spoil the last 5 and was she constantly worrying over their health -so many questions remained unanswered

Answer 3

Well Bex i didn't get to spend any days with my sister because she lived in Australia and I hadn't seen her for 20 odd years so I didn't even get the chance to say goodbye - she was gone just like that a year after I spoke to her on the phone. So one day with her anywhere would be wonderful so that I could tell her that I love her and say my goodbyes even though I know she is still with me now. xx

Answer 4

I think I know who I would want to spend it with....my Grandad Ken (my father's guardian, whom I have mentioned it other answers) is the obvious person who springs to mind. I am not quite sure how we would spend the day, though.....I am thinking we might take in a fishing trip (he was a keen fisherman, but he only took me fishing once) - and I would love to spend some time listening to him playing the piano as well....maybe he could persuade me to play something for him, too....I think there were maybe only one or two occasions when I did that for him while he was alive. He was a wonderful man....and I do still think of him often. I would make sure to end the day by telling him how much I loved him and our times together.

Answer 5

I'd have a day not long before she died I was at work and she came in on her own and was looking alot better than I had seen her in a good while and we went for lunch and we came back to my home, but I wouldn't change anything in that day we said our goodbyes then not knowingly but when I look back we did and I told her how blessed I felt because she knew she was not long for this earth but had chosen to spend a day with me that I would cherish forever and she cried and she told me how much I meant to her, I would just love to repeat it to be with her, smell, touch, kiss and hold her and never let her go. Bex you are really to much I'm crying now lol tell me yours now I want you to share it with us we'd love to know your precious day!


Edit Thanks Bex you can still say goodbye they are very much listening (I do understand though) love Bxxx

Answer 6

Walking in the park - and I'd buy him an ice cream like he used to buy me one (out of his own money which he earned doing a paper round and a Saturday job later too).
The we'd come home for Marmite soldiers (his favourite) dipped into boiled eggs and then we'd say goodnight ...but I wouldn't want to do that if it was just for one day...

Answer 7

I'd walk with my Mom through Northport Park (Long Island) go on the dock and go fishing off the dock. Of course it would have to be Spring, Summer or Fall. We'd have a great time!

Answer 8

Doing all the things that made them feel happy and loved,
I'd also get a chance to say a goodbye that fits their passing.

Thank you :)

Answer 9

~~~ I'll always be glad that he got his last wish ,and I wouldn't have it any other way. Cliff had been in the hospital for awhile,and he just wanted to come home and be with me and his beloved cats. He missed them ,and they missed him too. Cliff's heart was beyond repair ,so they let him come home. He almost cried when his kitties swarmed him. I did. We took it easy & he wanted to talk about it,but I was in denial & refused to talk. If I would have....I would have begged to go too. The next morning I woke up and my husband was gone. One of his cats was snuggled up to him. Sometimes ,I think he's still here. ~~~

Answer 10

I would make that day a day to remenber with love and joy.
I would try to make that day of passing as memorable as I could for everyone concerned
Especially the loved one that is moving on
Blessed Be
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