why do people act like?

Question

they have never seen a breast before. people complian about public breastfeeding yet if there best friend were to change their shirt in front of them they wouldnt show a care in the world. or they pop in a porner without a worry or have their thong popping halfway out their A$$. but when it comes to a baby eating they act as if she is having sex in public. i read in a question that a woman did not want to have to explain to her child what that person was doing- why wouldd you not want to educate your child? or tell tehm the truth about life? i breastfeed in front of my 10 and 4 year old brother, heck in front of my 22 year old brother- they dont even notice anymore because it's normal- they are educated andd my younger brothers never even knew of another way to feed him- why is society today not getting the hint

im disgusted at how ignorant society is today-

deborah- she was probably breastfeeding hims itll because it's helathier than cow's milk and i bet her son didnt turn into a cow when he became a toddler- it has far more benfits than cow's breastmilk

ps deb i really appreciate your comment:)

i know, my son will not take a bottle from me, i work but he will take it from someone else. he eats on demand and that emans anywhere

Marlo- if you are concerned about your boys seeing a woman breastfeeding then they need to gain a little bit more maturity and maybe get them educated on teh subject and teach tem that it's rude to stare. my son is 8 1/2 motnhs and ill tell you i have been having an awful time trying to keepa blanket over my son's head not to mention he is sweating up a storm and cries because im covering him from the world

Marlo- public breastfeeding is not considered indecent exposure and is perfectly leagal even if you do not cover up- it's sad that some women are so ashamed of their body andd have such bad relatioshipd that tey are afraid their husbands are going to see. shoot i breastfed in front of my brother in law without coverinng up, i was goignt o but my sister said. NO! you dont have to cover up his head, i have a mature andd educated family

Answer 1

I remember before I had a child I thought I would stop breastfeeding when baby had teeth or could talk. I also thought that it was perfectly reasonable to cover up when breastfeeding. And then I 1. grew up, 2. learned about breastfeeding, and 3. had a baby.
It's people who are immature and uneducated who act that way. I mean, breasts are lovely and can be sexual. But their primary purpose is to feed babies. That's what they're there for in the first place.
A lot of it is the billion dollar formula companies who spend huge amounts of money trying to convince people that formula even comes close to breastmilk. People actually believe it's the same thing, so they don't understand why you would breastfeed.
Bottom line: it's ignorance, pure and simple.

Answer 2

I support public breastfeeding and getting rid of the stigma of breastfeeding. People who have never had to stoop into a public bathroom and squat on the filthy floor to feed their starving infant only to have him startled by the flushing of a toilet so he screams for five minutes before he decides he can't eat anything anymore and refuses to take the bottle because he can't stand the taste of formula or the plastic artificial nipple... breastfeeding a baby can be difficult enough without the fear of being assaulted or gawked at by prudish and sexually confused individuals... just for trying to nourish your child.

How sickening.

Someone on that thread had said that she'd rather explain that the mother is feeding her child than explain why women are walking around half-naked everywhere... and I think that was a beautiful statement.

MarLo and the like-minded--
Covering your baby... have you done this? I'm sure you must've tried it once or twice... I'm sure I don't need to remind you how 1) warm babies are and 2) how hard it is to keep a blanket over your shoulder while trying to position your baby to latch on while not looking at what you're doing. Blankets over the shoulder, thin or no, are so incredibly inconvenient. And since the baby covers the entire nipple, and especially if the mother is using a nice button down shirt, I don't see how it even qualifies as "seeing a breast". It's not a whole deal more than the cleavage I see walking through the mall.

Answer 3

I think breastfeeding is awsome..I support public breastfeeding...But some people really need to draw the line. I was in the hospital when I was pregnant...My hubby and I were in the waiting room and there was a 3 year old that was eating a bag of Doritos..Then went and tugged on his moms shirt...She didn't care who was watching and just showed EVERYTHING...I know breast is best...I am not trying to be mean..he was drinking out of his sisters mcdonalds cup soon after his mom fed him...Now that I don't get...I am a very proud formula feeding mom..But I don't judge or critisize people...my hubby and I kept to ourselves...I just don't get why she was letting him eat the doritos and letting him drink his sisters soda..and still breastfeeding...I know I will probably get some thumbs down for this..but I would have breastfed...but I was put on meds...so I wasn't able to...But I would have fed my child in public and if anyone had a problem with it..they could look the other way...I would have breastfed him until he weaned himself...


EDIT..I knew someone would give me a thumbs down...I knew it...I know all the pros to breastfeeding a toddler I really do...But when you sit there and let the child eat all this other junk food while you are gossiping...it doesn't make sense


I would have proudly been breastfeeding my son..but due to infections and other crap I had to be put on too many meds for his lil body...and it was either me take the meds and be healthy and able to care for him..or me be unhealthy and breastfeed..so I chose what was best in my situation..I am going to be breastfeeding the next child I have...I have already made up my mind....I will also be pumping for my husband to feed also...I know what the pros of a breastfed child is..I honestly do..


marlo- putting a blanket over the baby is like saying you are hiding something that you are ashamed of..They should be as open as others are about showing clevege...I see more boob at the freaking bus stop down the road than I do from a breastfeeding mom...I wish some people would just grow up and realize that a breastfeeding mom is the best thing for the child...While I know its not going to happen..its worth a shot..

Answer 4

Closure is the key word here. If the husband and wife love eachother, they must understand you can't just move on until u know the corpse is actually dead and gone forever. Knowing that there have been miracles, and talking to the person in bed at the hospital help, also helps give closure to the wife and kids...they will feel that they did all they could and all they wanted to do before the natural end of life. I would have to say that leaving the family secure is sensible, but how comfortable are you really going to be if you have depression and guilt from not being there as much as you could have been until the TOD came???I'd be a mess personally. And money wouldn't matter to me much. Yes it would add to the stree, but when you are depressed, you could give two shits about anything.

Answer 5

Last year I went on my honeymoon in San Diego and we were at the zoo. I was sitting on a bench because i was a bit tired (it's a very big zoo) and a woman from the UK sat down next to me and asked if I minded if she breastfed her little girl. I told her not in the least bit.

I think it's ridiculous that a woman has to ask if it's ok to breastfeed in front of people, especially another woman. You can't see the breasts so it's not a matter of public indecency. It's not a sexual thing so it's not a matter of being sexual in public. So I don't understand the issue at all.

And for the person who said about having to squat in a dirty bathroom to feed their baby I would tell the person who told me to go to the bathroom to feed my daughter to take THEIR plate of food into the bathroom to eat and ask how they like the smell of piss and **** going up their nose while having dinner. Or even to have to shove their head under a blanket while eating dinner and getting all hot while trying to enjoy a meal.

Society needs to grow up.

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Hear hear, Franky!!!!! I see more sex and skin on TV then when a woman is breastfeeding.

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Marlo, like I said, cover your head with a blanket while eating. And if you think your sons haven't seen a naked breast and won't until they are married you are in a bit of denial.

**AND I am the mother to an almost 13 year old and I would not have an issue with a woman breastfeeding in front of him.

Answer 6

You've read my mind. I agree with you 100% and know the question your refer to. The lady wanted to keep her child innocent because explaining to a child that a mother nurses her baby must corrupt that child and send him down a criminal path in life or something. I'll feed when I want whre I want - I am legally entitled to do so and anyone who wants to tell me otherwise in in for some trouble. My 2nd baby is due anytime now and I have already explained to my 3 year old that he will drink from Mommy just like she did and guess what? she doesn't care. She didn't run out and commit a murder or anything or become a bad and naughty child. Should I hide my feeding from her to "protect her innocence"? Is she now tainted that she knows I will nurse her brother? If this woman has a 2nd child, how will she hide breastfeeding from her first to protect their innocence?
How ridiculous that feeding a baby is such a drama to some people simply because they can only associate the breast as a sexual object, and not as a natural thing it was meant for!!!

Answer 7

Dear oh dear!!
How sad is our world!! I breast feed in front of everyone!! I couldn't have cared less!!! I have a 12yo niece who was 10 at the time, and she was never embarrassed about what I was doing.
My younger cousins (ages 7 to 15 & all boys) were a little shy as they hadn't seen anyone do it before, but I explained a little and they were happy to watch. It wasn't creepy for them anymore, once they knew more about it.
People are just ignorant now a days. Just because formula and bottle, pumps were created doesn't mean we have to shy away from the fact our breasts create milk.

Answer 8

I think that part of the shock is just because people are seeing something that they have been taught isn't normal. Think about it. If every breastfeeding mom were to feed her baby in public, how often would a person see it happening? It isn't something that gets seen a lot, so when people do see it, it is kind of shocking. It is kind of like seeing a person peeing in public. Not exactly like, but kind of. It is a natural process, but it just isn't something people are used to seeing. I think the more people were to be exposed to it, the less it would bother them.

The comment about the toddler eating McDonalds food and then nursing is another good point about breastfeeding. No one should dispute the benefits of breastfeeding. Why then, are parents so adamant about breastfeeding so their child gets the best nutrition, and then feed them junk as well? I know that you as a mom are strict about your son's diet, but lots of parents aren't. They should be fighting that nutrition challenge as well. Think about it; people usually don't even think twice about seeing young kids eating fast food and junk food, but they do about breastfeeding. Both areas need advocates for better nutrition.

Answer 9

I breastfeed in front of my children. I see nothing wrong with it but my sister makes her kids leave the room even if I'm covered up (even her girls!) Her kids were breastfed so I really don't understand what the big deal is. I can understand a man that has never had children, is shy or uneducated about breastfeeding but why are women so grossed out by it? Its not like they don't have boobs!

Answer 10

I agree with you. I DONT breast feed.. but i do pump milk for my son.

I'm like you, i pump in front of my mom, and my two sisters (16 and 20) If i could, I'd pump at the grocery store, restaurant, wherever.. but it's not that feasible! Talk about fresh milk!

Society is just to fixed on boobies being sexual symbols. Indeed, they are sometimes.. but Gods reason for boobs were to nourish a child.

Good for those who breast feed in public... yay... but i know if that were me.. and someone gave me a bad look, or a comment... I'd squirt them in the eye... (if i could squirt milk that far!)