Okay. So, let's say you're 17 or 18, dating--you know, the usual high school puppy love stuff. Your girl moves because she has to. You guys are fine with it at first, but then, she writes to you saying she found someone new. Fast forward, seven years later. You're high school sweetheart and your best friend are engaged and set to marry. Unfortunately, your best friend dies. But before he dies, he makes you promise to get back with her. You're torn between getting back with her and breaking your promise to your best friend because all of the hurt is re-openned again, as you see each other for the first time again in years. What would you do? You still love her, and she obviously still loves you. But the hurt keeps coming back. Would you get back with her and fulfill your promise to your best friend, or would you let your ego get the better of you? What would you do?
2007-12-29 06:16:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hypothetical answer:
I think the best friend knows the guy still loves the girl and vise versa that's why he made him promise to get back to her.
Loving goes hand in hand with forgiving. But if u can't forgive, it's nobody's business but ur own coz it's still ur life.
And no one should give promises that they're not sure that they can keep.
2007-12-29 06:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you would have had no right to make a promise like that because fulfilling it involved factors and variables beyond your control....what if she wasn't remotely interested in seeing you again? Then, despite your best efforts you would have to break your promise. But let's say everything is going along on the okie-doke and you see an opportunity to rekindle romance with this lost love. Are you really going to let the past ( a brief, truncated past at that) sabotage the future? You'll never get anywhere in life running away from potential pain...I'm sure you've felt pain before, I'm sure you'll feel pain again, but ultimately you're going to be alright. This hypothetical dilemma here is a good test of character for assessing the type of person you'll wind up being. Good luck to you.
2007-12-29 06:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't I see this in a chic movie?
First of all, I never would have made the promise. Secondly, if a person is dead, then all commitments to that person are null and void according to the law and no one anywhere is bound to keep them. Thirdly, it would depend upon what the girl wanted. If she no longer carries a burning desire, then even if there was a promise made, she could null and void it by saying no and there wouldn't be a reason for her to fulfill the promise.
Making such a commitment may make the dying person feel better, but anyone seriously then going to fulfill that promise, while being noble, really isn't anything more than that. I mean the Captain in Lonesome Dove promised Gus to take his body back to Texas to bury it, but would Gus have ever known or even really cared if the Captain had just buried him in Montana? The Captain was noble in keeping his word, but he also almost lost his life trying to fulfill his promise. Giving your word to a dead man really serves no purpose other than to make the passing of the dead man go easier and no one is bound to keep that promise especially if it concerns a major life changing event like marriage or placing your life at risk.
2007-12-29 06:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what feels comfortable to you; U should not have made that promise.
2007-12-29 06:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by 2Cute2B4Got 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut up! I have better things to worry about right now than love!
2007-12-29 09:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if some one has the power to hurt you(love) than you will get hurt- again and again and again
2007-12-29 06:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋