A couple months ago me and my 27year old cousin were at a party.We were talking when we kissed.We were both drunk at the time.I went back to his place because i didn't have a ride home and my parents trust him alot.Now i've had a crush on him since i was eight.He layed me on his couch and i fell asleep.Next thing i know were both naked on his bed have sex.Just today i found out i was three months pregnat.If my parents find out what happend between me and my cousin or that i am pregnat they'll kick me out and call the cops on my cousin.He left town to visit mexico last week and won't be back for another two months.He dosen't know i'm pregnat but he appoligized for that night.What do i do?!How do i tell my parents?Please help!
2007-12-29 04:11:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
For people who are asking my age i'm 19 turning 20 in april.
2007-12-29 04:26:26 · update #1
As far as I understand it your cousin is not a direct BLOOD relative, so not illegal, in fact I believe most countries allow mariage to a cousin.
You NEED to tell your parents though . . . .
Also if this occurred "a couple of months ago" how can you be 3 months pregnant ? Did you get pregnant before you had sex ?
Also . . .
Hmmmm, You've JUST found out you are 3 mnths pregnant
10 mins later you are "starting to show"
and now the father's marrying someone else.
You've had once heck of an exciting day . . .
2007-12-29 04:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by stu_the_kilted_scot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention how old you are. Perhaps you could keep the baby but not name the father? You could still have a termination, but you are leaving it rather late to do so. Marriage between cousins is legal in the UK as the risk of genetic problems due to interbreeding is slim. A valid point is also raised above - did you consent to sex with him? If you didn't, there are serious consequences, but if you did, drunk or not, then he has done no wrong. You need to seriously think about this, and maybe have a chat with your Dr and/or a counsellor. You also need to contact your cousin and tell him that he is the father of your baby - at 27 he is a grown man and needs to take some responsibility for his actions.
2007-12-29 04:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Xai 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Decide if you want the child or not. I don't believe in abortion, but its your baby. Adoption is also an option. If you decide to keep it, welcome to true single parenthood. In your place I'd NEVER tell who was the daddy. The most I'd ever say is it was a bad 1 night stand and its best if the father isn't in the picture. Can you carry such a secret to your grave? Not only that, but there could be medical issues because you two are closely related. I honestly think adoption would be the best. That way you'll never feel pressured to tell. One day the child will ask who daddy is....
2007-12-29 04:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't tell. it is considered a major infraction. You would have done much better NOT to have gone directly to the HR director in this case. I think the other 2 people would have supported you - but you, personally, dragged the director into the incident. Tell your clinical lead that you were so nervous that you did that. Why didn't you tell your clinical lead about the anxiety attacks, etc? adding more details to the story later on ( whether they are true or false) is usually a bad idea.
2016-05-27 18:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide 1st whether or not you plan to keep your child, but by the sounds of it you are. I would tell your cousin 1st and make the decision together. Since you are family he should know better then anyone how your family will react. You are not obligated to tell your parents but I think they will eventually figure it out if you do decide to go along with this...if not I wouldn't tell them or anyone else in your family except the babies father... That is just my opinion. Good luck!
2007-12-29 04:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all no pregnancy is accidental. If you are sexually active then you know the consequences. Both of you are nasty for even having feelings for one another like that. And don't blame it on the alcohol. Nothing you can do but tell them the truth about what happened and he needs to take responsibilty and confess instead of running from the problem.
2007-12-29 04:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Child of God 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not a fan of abortion exspecially when stupid people use it instead of condoms of birth control like u shoudl of. If u two are cousins thats probably gonna cause the baby to have some serious birth defects and problems so maybe u might wanna consider it.
2007-12-29 04:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont know how old you are, but you should know better then to sleep with your own blood!!! My goodness my 5 yr old knows you dont have crushes on your cousins!!! And shame on your 27 yr old cousin!!!! Bet your parents will trust him a lot now...huh!!! Good luck....I'll be watching for you on Springer!
2007-12-29 04:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by jammer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? Secondly....I'd totally give the baby up for adoption! How do you think the child's life will be knowing that his/her parents are cousins? He/she will get picked on tremendously by his/her peers!
Adoption NOT abortion!
2007-12-29 04:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by momma_2_an_angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW what is wrong with you. I hope your parents do kick you out and ur cousin goes to jail because you are so stupid to sleep with your own cousin. hahahaha this cracks me up.
2007-12-29 04:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by samborowsky 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋