work .......shame?

Question

i married young and had 2 children .I help now my sis with something .
But at my 30 i don't have interesting work experience and i feel shame ,HUGE shame .I want to to have a regular job and go back to the University for a M.BA
Still ...how can i explain my situation to others >?The stupid decision not to work and be dedicated to family members.

Answer 1

I must be missing something here - if you want to go back to college, go to college. If you want to work, find an entry-level job.

Answer 2

My mother-in-law had 5 sons and stayed home throughout her 20's and 30's. During the time she was raising two of her youngest boys she earned her M.A. in psychology and then went on to earn her Ph.D. when she was close to 40 years old. Interestingly enough her thesis was about women re-entering the job market after a long absence. I myself did not earn my B.S. degree until I was 32.

30 is still young. Never be ashamed that you chose to spend your time helping your family members. What you can do now is take a few college courses at a junior college to get you started. If the schedule is too inconvenient you can even try an online course. Some school's even specialize in online degrees.

When I first started university I worked at the school bookstore and for many of my co-workers it was their first job. If you decide to go to school you could probably get a job at the bookstore or library/learning center.

Don't be ashamed if your first job is less than desireable. We all have to start somewhere. There is a girl who works in our IT department at the help desk. Prior to that she worked at an ice cream parlor scooping ice cream. She's 28, but now she is taking junior college courses and working towards earning an Associates degree in network security.

What you need is a sense of purpose and some success to make you feel proud. Take a college course and work hard to earn an A. Choose something useful such as a course in basic computer or business english. Even a basic accounting class.

Better yet, if you have an interest in education - especially early childhood education - you may already have a HUGE headstart if you have experience taking care of children. That is excellent experience that you should never downplay. If you stayed to take care of other people it also means that you have a sense of responsibility and empathy, which are excellent qualities for a job in the healthcare industry. Just think about what you like to do and do it. Start small and keep going. You will reach your goal.

You can do it!!

Answer 3

It certainly wasn't a stupid decision, you sacrificed your life so far to bring up your children in a loving environment and be a support network for your family which is one of the hardest and most valuable things to do.

Just because a woman stays at home and doesn't have a career doesn't mean she is stupid or unequal.

You should feel absolutley NO shame, anyone could go to college and get an office job but it takes a strong woman to be selfless and look after her family. You should really think about boosting your self esteem. The whole point of feminism is to make the world realise that EVERYONE is equal and valuable whether they are a surgeon or a stay at home mother, that is true equality.

If you want to now have a career then you can go to college/uni and get qualifications but you should feel no shame but pride to say you have been selfless and been a good mother for all these years of your life.

Answer 4

There is no shame in being a good mother......
There are not enough young women who care today.
Being a good parent is a huge responsibility and it IS a job!

Now that you're 30, which is one of many turning points in life, you feel you haven't accomplished anything....it's natural to feel that way at that age, but you have so much time to do all the things your heart desires.....you're only 30! How long


will it be before your children are in high school? Maybe then you can go back to school and finish your education.

Don't beat yourself up. Be proud of the fact that you have helped to raise children who will be an asset to this old troubled world....they may contribute great things to it.

Take care, and have a great day!

Answer 5

No need to explain your decision to others. You made the decision you did when you did with the information you had at that time. Now you have different goals in your life and have decided to pursue them. Go forward with zeal! Nothing you can do will change the past but the future is what you will make it.

Also you have 2 wonderful children, would you change that?

Answer 6

There isn't much to explain. Just tell them that you were a stay-at-home mom for a while, and you didn't find it fulfilling enough. My mom went back to school for her BEd after my brother started kindergarten, and she thinks it was one of the best decisions of her life. There are programs that allow you to get an MBA in a flexible amount of time. Go for it.

Answer 7

A lot of women choose to stay home with their children and then return to school and the work force. It is really more common than you think. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You are investing in a better job dammit! you should be proud of your decision. Sure, perhaps the following 4 years may be difficult, but then your job will be more profitable.

Answer 9

I think it's great that you want to earn your MBA and I don't think you should be ashamed that you stayed home and raised your children.