If a married woman divorces and ends up with her lover who is an alcoholic & has nothing financially to offer her really be happy with him even though she feels she is in love with him. If her lover was filling voids in her marriage such as love & affection so she feels like she wants to be with him in the future but, is blind to the whole picture because she has never had the opportunity to be in a "living with him "situation really make that relationship work out in the end. Is it possible for her to see the light before divorcing if her lover continues to shower her with attention & affection because this is really all he has to offer? Has anyone out there ever been in this situation-divorced your husband to be with lover & then realized you made a big mistake once reality sets in. Also, can the lover ever really trust the woman who was cheating on her husband & feel he has to be on his toes from then on in for fear that she will leave him, also.
2007-12-29 03:12:18 · 13 answers · asked by Mary B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO she won't she will wakeup every day and say to herself what the F did I do I had the perfect life and screwed it all up.
Now I'm stuck in this relationship to a complete loser who is financially messed up and has drinking problem.
She will reflect everyday how much of an idiot she was to give up the guy that did everything for them. She will also have the reality check daily that will her new mate ever trust her completely considering the way they met.
This is just one messed up person and her life will be an endless rerun who would be happy with that?.
2007-12-29 03:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness is different for everyone, Some women can be happy with a man who has nothing to offer them.. To each their own and if my spouse was cheating on me with a drunk... theres no way i would want them back once they realised they made a mistake... People have to make their own choices and what makes her happy might not make you happy, as far as the lover goes... yea he can probably trust her it would depend on the depth of their relationship... These are all questions that have different answers for everyone...And i have been in this situtation i had an emotional affair on my Ex and I am now with the man i left him for, and have been with him married, for a few years now and our relationship is strong and beautiful. And My ex wasnt the right person for me thats why i left him for someone else...
2007-12-29 11:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the man turns out to be perfect, she would always feel some guilt about cheating any relationship that starts on such grounds is not advisable. It is better to just seperate or divorce if you are not happy than to go behind your man's back and do stuff .
I agree with Stephen this woman needs to time out and work on herself.cheers
2007-12-29 11:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word in your first sentence is "married". Take an honest look at all the married couples you know!!! Are any of them still truly in love!?!??! The circumstances you are in do not matter one bit!!!! Marriage even destroys soul mates!!!! If you ever do get divorced and you fall in love again NEVER GET MARRIED or you will destroy that too!!!!
2007-12-29 11:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman needs some counseling, to find out why she acts contrary to her best interests. She is subconciously sabotaging her own happiness, and will NEVER be happy until she stops that behavior.
2007-12-29 11:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the "cheating" woman has ISSUES.
Happiness comes from within, and it is expressed through-out life's experiences. Happiness does not come from a fufillment found in "cheating".
Are you the "cheater" (I think you already have found the answer)? ... now, your confirmation is given.
Get and be healthy.
2007-12-29 11:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by bucit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she wont be, this guy was a way out of her marriage. After a while she will move on, and maybe have some regrets. But underneath, there was more to it then just this guy.
2007-12-29 11:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you have your freedom from a marriage that didn't fire your rockets, you should take advantage of your time being single and look for a potential mate who isn't a loser!
2007-12-29 11:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur stupid u have a man that loves u and instead of talking with him about what u need u go to some1 else who is nothing??? well lets see
2007-12-29 11:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by DAVE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that love and affection that she was lacking is going to temparily blind her.
2007-12-29 11:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by ~SweeT~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋