trying to better plan my retirement & hear that I can collect some sort of compensation for being married 10 yrs. or more...true/false? don't want to stir the ex or the new wife, is there a way I can find this out? i have pertinent info on the ex, ex:ss#. what advice is out there? thank you!
2007-12-29 03:10:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that you would have had to negotiate getting a part of his pensions at the time of the divorce (what kind of lawyer did you have if this wasn't done?!). Regarding Social Security benefits, as long as you were married for at least ten years, you are allowed to collect benefits based on your ex-husband's earning record. What you get doesn't reduce what he gets, they just use his earnings record to determine the level of benefits. If your own earnings record provides a larger benefit, then you will get the benefit based on your own earnings record. You cannot collect both--only one SSI benefit based on the higher record. Contact your local Social Security Administration office for information and estimates of your benefit. Your ex-husband or his new wife would not be at all involved in your application for benefits even if his earnings record is the one they use, nor do they lose any benefits.
EDIT: Gosh, people are so mean on here. You don't seem like a money-grubbing, selfish, vindictive person to me. I give you credit that you don't want to disturb your ex or his wife about this. 18 years in a marriage is an investment on your part. Even if your contirbutions were more in the keeping house/raising children area than the financial area,you are due compensation for that. I agree with an earlier poster about checking the QDRO. As I said above, if you had a lawyer, I can't believe s/he didn't negotiate a portion of the pension benefits for you. Perhaps s/he did, and you just don't know how to interpret the divorce decree. See if you can get some real legal help on that. Best wishes to you.
2007-12-29 03:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you are married more than ten years. You will get his SSi whether he is married or not. As far as his pension your divorce attorney should have made sure what entitlements you should be to receive. But I most certain that you are entitled to a portions of that is well.
2007-12-29 07:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to a portion of his pension if it was in your divorce settlement and you must file a QDRO Qualified Domestic Relations Order with the pension company , you should probably take all your divorce papers to a lawyer and ask him , most divorced women that I have talked to never followed up on the QDRO and end up with nothing.....
2007-12-29 03:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What makes you think that you deserve anything more than what was in the divorce decree? Sorry to say this, but you sound like a petty, money grubbing ex with a desire to harm the guy since he was able to move on and you are stuck with the financial decisions that you made. Suck it up and move on.
In addition just because you can do something legally, does not in any way make it ethical. Consider a 401K like the rest of us have to do.
2007-12-29 03:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you would be entitled in my opinion so long as it was not included in settlement agreement that he would receive 100%. If nothing is mentioned, you will get portion of Pension. SS is dependent upon your work history.
2007-12-29 03:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by AT 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are already divorced then you lost out. That should have been taken care of in the divorce decree. No chance a court is going to go back and change it now.
2007-12-29 03:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea you should be entitled to some portion of his pensions. If i were you i would call your local court house and find out if they have an Advice council in on certian days, speak with an advice council or find yourself a lawyer.
2007-12-29 03:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your entitled to ssi oneday... YOUR OWN SSI!
If you were,You would have cut that deal at the divorce settlement. You split up and didn't dot your "I"s and cross your "T" 's...deal with it.
2007-12-29 03:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Joox 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you are entitled to nothing once he divorced you he has already payed you off unless your still receiveing alimony but it is doubtful ifyour asking this. Talk to a lawyer but he will probably tell you to move on and get a life leave the ex alone.
Your pissed at him because he found a new wife and your still alone grow-up.
2007-12-29 03:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I can not believe that you did not get a law er to start with , you can do something, it will not be easy, if your name is on the house ,you can make him sell or refinance, pay you half.that's abig if . depend on situation.
2007-12-29 03:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋