i cant becos i am strong christian .x. i want 2 wait til after mariage.x. what do i do ?x?x
2007-12-29 02:45:50 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
As someone who is a Christiand (and married) I can tell you that... waiting is the best thing a person can do. I didn't wait till I was married and ended up giving in and sleeping with someone for the first time at 19. I married my husband in August of this year and wish that I would have waited. I have only been with 3 men (including my husband) and wish that I had not shared my body with anyone else but him.
The only thing that I can tell you is... pray and talk with someone that can hold you accountable for your actions. I know that it is hard. Believe me. I was once like you. I so wanted to wait till I was married and then... I gave in.
Hang on and wait and know that your body is a temple and not just anyone should be let it.
Good Luck.
2007-12-29 02:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Operator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You wait. You are just experiencing what all young people experience....hormones. It's the bodies way of saying I'm ready. But in actuality you're not.
It has to be at the right time with the right guy and under the right situation. And that is true committment. So waiting is the right thing to do. it will make you appreciate it more when it does happen.
2007-12-29 03:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Waiting IS the best thing! I'm a non-practicing catholic but I still will wait, I'm not waiting cause I'm catholic I'm waiting for me. If you're asking this question you probably aren't ready because if you we're you'd just go for it.
As for reasons to wait at this age (assuming you're in your teen years) it's probably just hormones. I have a friend that lost her virginity then a month later her bf stopped loving her but guess what? He didn't just leave he stayed for the sex even tho he didn't like her anymore (but didn't tell her), then he moved on to her best friend. Another friend got dumped because her bf wanted to go further when he couldn't even act like a man!
How's that?
2007-12-29 04:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You explain that to him, and wait if that's what you believe in. If you really believe in waiting as strongly as you sound like you do, then, even if you break that vow and have sex, you'll probably end up hating yourself or him because of your broken promise. A lot of people at my old church went through this (I never really wanted to wait anyway, but my friends did), and they either ended up really mad at themselves, or turned completely away from God because they felt too ashamed to ask for forgiveness. So my word of advice is don't, but even if you do, remember that God will forgive you even after the fact, even after you've learned by trying, as long as you really promise to not do it again, and mean it. At least, that's what I was taught back in my church days.
2007-12-29 03:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to have sex is natural, especially with someone you care about very deeply. Wanting to wait until you can properly care for any babies that result is mature and rational, let alone what your religion believes. So your body tells you one thing and your head tells you another. That's why there is will power. And masturbating. And knowing that some things are worth waiting for.
2007-12-29 04:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh well if its soemthign you truly believe in, then you should wait. if your bf doesnt understand that then maybe hes not right for you, becuase that means hes not a strong christian like you (not that being non christian is wrong) but if you are very into your religion and his not as much that only leaves more room for clashes later on. i believe that you should try to make things work as best you can, but if they dont i wish you all the luck
but dont rush into marriage if you arent ready
2007-12-29 02:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then just say no! If he loves you that much then he can wait until your wedding night! It is not that hard to do!
Sex is a wonderful loving act between two married adults!
Sex is for the marriage bed only!
2007-12-29 03:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by Creative Memories 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have sex, but you want to wait.
This isn't working.
Go with your heart. Do you love him that much? Do you think he'll stick around?
It isn't the worst thing ever to have premarital sex. I'm a Christian and so is my best friend, and when weighing the options, it depends on the person.
2007-12-29 05:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you do just that, and don't let anyone pressure you into it. From what you have stated you seem like a nice young lady who has your head on right. Once your virginity is gone you will never get it back KEEP IN MIND.
2007-12-29 10:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny Days 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really wait till after marriage! people everyday make the wrong mistake and do it with there partner and if he cant wait then he is not the right one for you and that's the truth i almost let it go but i changed my mind and it was the best decision i ever made
2007-12-29 03:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by AMoney =) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋