The guy I am seeing wont let me pleasure him sexually. He gives me manual and oral all the time and its amazing but he wont let me return it. I love to give as well as recieve and I cant understand why he would keep stopping me?
Is it likely to be a health problem?
Mental or physical?
It makes me feel like he doesnt want me, even though I know he does.
2007-12-29 02:04:56 · 12 answers · asked by munchkin 7 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Hes definitely experienced, and its not small because Ive felt it.
2007-12-29 02:12:39 · update #1
I dont know that age matters, but since you ask Im 20 and hes 22.
He is most definitely NOT a virgin.
2007-12-29 02:27:48 · update #2
Im not sure what it is in his case, but a guy I was into was acting the same way with me. For him I know its because he wants to take things slow. He isnt ready for anyone to return the affections, or to take it to that next level, and he finds it satisfying just being able to please the girl hes with. I just let it go, and wait for the right moment to return the favor, its not that big a deal to me because I respect that he isnt ready for more yet. Hes one of those guys who want things to happen in a planned kind of way. We have to be in the right place, etc. If it really bothers you though you can try talking to him about it, but if it is a health, mental, or physical problem he most likely isnt going to talk about it until he is ready to say something. The only reason I know with my guy is because we have been friends for years before this point, and we both been through a lot relationship wise, we always turned to each other to talk so he was very open with me about his reasons. Good luck with your situation, hope everything works out the way you want it to :)
2007-12-29 15:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's a virgin? Doesn't want to get all hot and lose self control? If he did have a health problem he could still pass it to you by giving you oral. Maybe he just does not like receiving.
2007-12-29 02:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Nessie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out, he may have a venereal disease and don't want to pass it to you, if that's not the case he must be suffering from emotional problems, or maybe he suffers from erectile disfuction.
The only way for you to know is to ask him directly and let him know how you feel, but watch out don't force him till you're sure of what the problem is.
2007-12-29 03:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Paul Preston 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people even males like to wait , I imagine he is getting a great deal of pleasure from being with you , and doing the things he is already doing.
Maybe he is teasing himself and or you a little bit.
2007-12-29 02:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by ADad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention that you asked him, although I assume you did. He is the only one the really knows. Even if he is not small he might think that he is, most guys do. Mainly because all the guys in porn are hung like horses.
2007-12-29 03:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Munchkin you don't say how old you are, he may be afraid of losing control and is not ready for sexual intercourse with you for some reason. It sounds like he is getting plenty of pleasure.....may be he wants to save intercourse for marriage, and may know he would not be able to stop if he even lets you fondle him....
I don't think it is a problem I think he is using his personal control system to prevent being a daddy too soon.
2007-12-29 02:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
could be either mental or physical.
Possibly he was hurt by a past sexual partner
or physically he may have a problem he doesn't want to tell you about (infection, something)
He might be afraid of not liking it enough (I know it's stupid, but I was afraid of that and had to get over that before anything got started.)
2007-12-29 02:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy he doesnt know how lucky he is!! There are so many women(like me) who are not loving the whole giving oral sex thing. It has to be an underlying issue with him not you. try & talk to him about it! good luck!
2007-12-29 02:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by O.G.'s Mommi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's insecure about the size of his penis, just talk to him so you can find out why he wont let you Put A Lil Umph In It
2007-12-29 02:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe he thinks you guys are movin to fast or maybe he likes to control the relationship, or maybe hes afraid of love and attention try to bring it up see what happens
2007-12-29 02:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋