Hi there i am pregnant. Thanks for advising. I want to ask u people is giving birth to a baby so scary.?

Question

I am a Human and Child Developmentalist i know about the things very well, but am just afraid as people share very scary experience. is it really scary pls relax me, pls counsell me little bit. I am just afraid. Pls help eventhough i know the truth i am afraid its my first time

Answer 1

I have four daughters (grown now). I had my children through natural childbirth -- not so much as an aspirin. If you are well-informed and relaxed (as much as possible) it won't be so scary.
My first pregnancy, I took a Lamaze class, but my labor progressed so quickly that the stages of breathing were all off-kilter so I don't know if it did much good. Just remember to stay calm and not get all stressed out. You will be fine. Congratualtions!

Answer 2

I have had three children. My longest labor was 2.5 hrs from the water breaking to delivering my son. I also had a 1 hour labor and a 40 minute labor. With each my my labors, the "fear" aspect was largely impart to it being unexpected and also my labors were so fast and sudden. I did not have time to start thinking hmmn amd I in labor, it was like someone just flipped a switch and bam I was about to give birth. I went from having no contractions to have very strong and intense contractions 2 minutes apart. There was no early labor, I was just automatically thrust into the worst part of it. With my first two babies, I was luck enought o get an epidural at the very last possible second, so last second that when they placed the epidural, they said okay sit up...now it's time to push and within minutes my babies were delivered...so while the pushing part did not hurt, the epi did not really save me from any of the pains of labor, which hurt far worse than the pushing. With my last baby Because of how fast my labor was there was no time for an epidural at all and I did not even push him out (he was only 4 lbs and just kinda flew out lol) but the part that was scary was when I was actually delivering him, I could not control it, my body was doing it all on its own. As I said I was not really pushing, I did give a half push to get his body out, as his head had already delivered. There was a slight burning sensation, but that's it. The sense of relief that washed over me when he was out was so strong, so overwhelming, I just felt like a great weight had lifted from me. I didn't even feel achy or anything. The contractions were truly the worst part of labor as far as pain goes, but honestly, the fear was really just because of not knowing. You can have all of us try to describe it to you, but it really is indescribable. There are just no words to detail how it feels ot be ripped in two and wonder wile it happens how you can possibly survive, yet minutes later be so full of joy that you've forgotten your almost peril. It's like being manic depressive, but not.

Answer 3

My labor and deliveries with both of my girls was wonderful!! I loved it...with my first one...I did NOT have an epidural the contractions were pretty bad...which I think that was due to the potocin..as I was induced for high BP..but nothing to bad to handle, the pushing was awesome...releiving in a way....without an epidural you can feel what you are doing and you know how hard you are pushing...With my second child...before they broke my water..I was already 7 cm...(preterm labor for 2mon) I thought I would take it easy and get an epidural... it wasnt bad with the epidural..but pushing took longer cause I couldnt judge how hard I was pushing....I thought they both were a piece of cake...I guess every womans body and pain tolerance is different...but no horror stories here...Its really not that bad at all...and once its over..so is the pain!! Good luck...you will do great!!!

Answer 4

It can be overwhelming. Not to worry though. Each woman has her own unique birthing experience, and all the women in your life will try to tell you the "horror" stories of her pregnant life. Just think of it this way.....You will go through a lot of pain and stress to have your baby, but in the end it's well worth everything when you get to hold your baby for the first time.

Hang in there.

Answer 5

I was scared before I got pregnant too. What really helped me was educating myself. I read the books, Husband Coached Childbirth and Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way. These helped alleviate my fears. I have had four kids natural using the Bradley method. I actually enjoyed my births. Over 90% of those who use the Bradley method do not need pain medication. Please research the Bradley method. Even check the questions on this website where people used the Bradley method. See how it worked for them too.

Answer 6

Focus on the giving birth and not on how scary it is or anything like that. The more you focus on how scary you think it might be, the more stressed you'll get and the more difficult it'll be. Just let it happen! I've had 2 children. I wasn't scared. Everything went well.

Answer 7

with my fisrt i was horified, especially talking to fisrt time mothers after they had given birth, but i wound up with a section, and that was very scary, so i can tell you about if you have to have a c-section, you show up at the hospital and they prep you, which is nerve racking but it takes like 2 hours, (in a controlled setting) then when they take you into surgery you get your spinal or epideral and thats scary as hell! then you lay there eyes wide open while the cut you, then TADA the baby!

Answer 8

My birth experience was not scary. It was great. I was induced so I had back labor that hurt REALLY bad. But I am telling you once you have the baby you don't even remember the pain you had. It will be great. I cant wait to have my #2.

Answer 9

if you read under the topic i just posted VBAC with a midwife, i think i had the worst things to happen possible, but hey I am pregnant again, because it is sooooooo worth it. i would go through the pain again and again, because that doesnt even amount to the love i have for my children. you just talk about the experience but you forget all the physical feelings. good luck to you!!!

Answer 10

I had my daughter July of last year. Everyone scared me with the stories. I had an epidural at 5 cm even though it did not hurt enough to get(precautionary measure). I went to sleep. They woke me up a little later and told me it was time to push. The worst part was the pushing. It didn't hurt, but it was tiring.
*Good Luck*