why some people are very nasty?

Question

I never understood why many people are so nasty antisocial, an do everything to be mean... why is that?
I learned in life that you can have the world at your finger tips with good manner, compassion and respect.. an old proverb said "You can lead an elephant by pulling him by his hair with good manners", and I believe that
I do have a good job in a private small office a postion of administration and control, I get all the work I want to be done just with good manners and respect for other, i am sure that my employee say nothing but good behind my back, the work is done, and the atmosphere is friendly, most of all I make good money ..
I see many people controlling sarcastic, they are disliked by their surrounding.. life goes on and what goes around comes around, these people lose the love of their close ones
I want to add a personal experience.. (no much room so I will add it as an addendum}

I was married for many many years to a women who was that kind of mean one.. everybody could not understand how different we were.. this marriage ended few years ago.. I stayed single hoping to find a nice one.. I found her, now everybody say you fit so good together.. life is very different now, I found the real happiness
Can anybody explain why is it so difficult, to be nice? .. way people were raised? lack of self confidence? just desire of control? misconsseption that if people ar enice they will be stepped over??? please share your thoughts

Answer 1

People who are mean are unhappy with themselves.

Answer 2

You cannot expect everyone to be friendly. I work as a security officer and I say "have a goodnight" to about 100 people per day. Every employee passes by the security room and I sit at my desk. Personally, there are some unfriendly people who I greet. About 90% of the employees I greet are friendly. You seem worried about what your coworkers think about you whenever your back is turned around. Maybe you try to establish friendships or relationships too easily with other coworkers.

You should focus on successfully completing your work, not what your coworkers think about you whenever you have your back turned.

Answer 3

I wonder that same thing everyday. It's true that you get back what you put out there and you create you're own reality. Every morning when you wake up,you can decide to be happy or not-- to make the best of it or not.

I read an article a while back that talked about how when a person smiles or laughs (even if it's fake) you body releases dopamine(a chemical that makes you feel euphoric).

As my Grandma used to say "You can always catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar!"

Answer 4

The saying comes to mind: "Misery loves company." I think people that are mean are unhappy and don't like to see others happy. . I was raised with the saying:" Do unto others as you would do unto them." I want others to be kind, so I will be kind. That seems to be lost in this "dog eat dog" world of today. But there are nice people around.. I am happy for you that you have found happiness.... Happy New Year to All!!

Answer 5

Ego. Because so many people are focused toward their own ego's and many do not even realize it. When your focus is on ego, you see everyone as being different from you and outside yourself, so who cares about these other people. Also the ego tricks people into false beliefs. Example: They don't like me, so it's ok if I'm mean toward them.

The other approach in life, is to service towards others, to know yourself to be yourself yet one with the whole. When you have this attitude, you see others as being like you and you care about how others feel and try to be good toward them.

Of course there needs to be a balance, you don't want to be a doormat for others but have a healthy respect for yourself and others.

Answer 6

Sounds like you have learned to live the right way. I have met many a person I then learned to avoid. Life goes on and the world is filled with all kinds of personalities we must pick and choose whom we care to be with.

Answer 7

sometimes people are narrow minded, and cannot understand somebody else's point of view.
what is important to them, isn't important to everybody.
some things are personal.

the point i'm making is, 'post another dramatic question', was a nasty thing to say, i just want to get better.

sometimes we don't mean to be nasty, and sometimes it's out of spite.
sometimes everybody needs to stop and think once in a while.
sometimes everybody should bite their tongue.

it's just life, and that's the way life goes.

Answer 8

because as a society we delight in misfortune of others and also like to be the"best" and therefore sabatoge occurs. many people also unhappy with lives , etc and take out on others around - so sad what our society has become - children have no respect for self or other, no morals, parents trying to raise them as a friend and this is the outcome of our society - no respect & worthless

Answer 9

well most of all look at the way that people are. To most of us people are mean and just don't care its what they can and can't get away with. I like to call ti the realty check because you get these people that think they can say anything to anyone they want. Look this is what hap-pend to me I was putting my 4 year old little girl in the car about 3 weeks ago. This girl was next to me and park so close to me I was shutting the door and I turn around and this chick is in my face and says to me did your f***ing little girl just hit my car.
I said to her did it look like my f***ing kid hit you car I was in her face. she got in her car I said if you did not park on top of me then you would not have anything to say and my little girl did not hit her car she drove off with nothing to say. And this is why I call it the reaitly check. some people need this because they dont think your going to say something like that back to them. LOL

Answer 10

Some people's nature tend to lean towards what you described. Nothing short of a cataclysmic paradign shift will change them.

Learn to recognize the signs that characterize them and stay clear of them, above all don't let their negativity change you.

Answer 11

being nice is a product of upbringing and environment.

but it is also a choice. some people just dont choose to be nice. they don't know how or have no idea on the benefits it gets them by being nice. Health wise being pleasant and nice puts you in less risk of heart ailments and high blood pressure.

don't despair people will be people anywhere anytime., being nice, mean or just being makes us human.

it keeps tings interesting doesn' it?