Our downstairs guest bathroom has been an unusable work in progress for two and a half years,now. We all get so busy with work, but my husband continues to swear he'll finish it up over the weekend. He's been saying that forever, but not even the plumbing still has been installed!!
This week, I had a friend over, but had to make her go upstairs to use our private bathroom. I finally broke down and called a plumber, at least to fix the pipes.
My husband is furious! He says he's the only man he wants laying the pipe for me, and this morning, he's still sulking! I think I offended his pride. How do I explain to him that I don't doubt his pipe-laying prowess, I just need someone who can get the job done quickly?
2007-12-29 01:19:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Do It Yourself (DIY)
With no real ofense meant, I suspect you worded the immediate Q specifically to get the attention of answerers.
In fact the entire Q references things other than what might normally be thought of in a TRADES sense.
That said however, IF your Q relates to actual plumbing, time frame, skills level, etc. then you probably did offend your mate.
I suspect not many want to hear "Size matters". "You're not fast enough" (though I can't imagine that) "No worriies mate, I'll find someone else who can."
The "stronger more secure" man might accept that he lacks certain skills or abilities, in the REAL context of SEWAGE plumbing, and agree to have it "handled" by a Pro.
I imagine you'll get it all worked out, and might get a discount from the normal Plumbers fee of $60 plus per hour?
I do wish the "Three" of you all success.
Steven Wolf
2007-12-29 01:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by DIY Doc 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I think it is best you talk it over with him. Ask him what he is mad about. Best of all tell him exactly that the other man just fix the pipe and nothing else. Ask him if he doubts you. Sometimes man can be very unreasonable and I think you should put your feet down for a small matter like this. My husband used to be a bully too. Relationships are based on trust and understanding for it to be lasting. Maybe you should give him a hug first before getting tough with him.
2007-12-29 01:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by vinita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband simply needs to realize how things work. You have given him plenty of opportunity to lay the pipe himself, yet he still didn't do it. You found a man who would. And not only did you find a man who would do it, you found a man who would do it quickly, yet get the job done right. He cannot expect you to do nothing while he takes forever to lay some pipe. What do you get out of that? Most likely a big mess to clean up and an exhausted, snoring husband when its all said and done. You did the right thing.
2007-12-29 02:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
right here is the way you do it and get what you want. First tell him which you're putting aside $a hundred in line with month to get the activity completed. If he does the activity, he gets the money to play or take "you" out for a night. After 3 months you're transforming into $3 hundred and if he hasn't completed it, you will use the $3 hundred to hire out the activity. You win in each case. one million. you get the activity completed 2. if he wins, he's taking you out with the $3 hundred extremely of spending it on laying pipe. 3. in all probability the activity won't value as lots if he does it so he won't spend the money on the activity and he won't spend as lots money going out so which you will particularly get the activity completed under budget.
2016-10-09 08:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is Your husband a little insecure about his pipe? Is his pipe big enough to handle the fluid flow? Will his pipes last as long as the professionals?
I think a little encouragement might be a good bond on the pipe issue. Just keep reassuring him that all you need is something quick and easy and not always will he be able to help. Just let him know that you were trying to help him out since he's been so busy lately...
A Girl's got needs, right?
2007-12-29 02:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
oh well, after 2 1/2 yrs.i'd done the same. wish i could afford to have somebody come finish some of the projects i've started, still have some that are 6 yrs. old that ain't done yet. lol. maybe go back upstairs and "lay a little pipe", then tell him to get down there and get er done.
2007-12-29 01:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll need to see a picture of you to be able to determine the best person for laying the pipe for you.
If you want the job done quickly then I'm out, but my buddy's wife says he finishes things in a hurry. I could give you his number.
Can't believe I even answered this one!
2007-12-29 02:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by sparky_622000 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He will never look at that spot the same way again. If he continues to sulk you may have to work solo for a while make sure he sees you that may get his interest up again.
2007-12-29 02:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by triminman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know... my husband would've been upset as well. For him it's more of a money issue when he is quite capable of doing it (even though it takes him forever to finish it). I've had 15 years of projects just like you have described and have learned to just deal with it - however a bathroom is much harder to deal with so I know exactly where you're coming from. I think your husband will be ok once he realizes you have just made his job much easier.
2007-12-29 01:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny~♥ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I had a simular issue...I know the Mrs wanted new carpet, and I waited too long and she ended up buying carpet the same day I did. Needless to say I ended up having to eat the carpet because of the strict no refund policy.
2007-12-29 02:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋