Does your happiness regarding your lies overshadow the happiness they would feel if you didn't lie. This is if you do?
2007-12-29 01:17:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I believe honestly is the best policy as well. I have told white lies just like anyone else but no, I am not lying everyday, this was a question. Thanks
2007-12-29 05:58:12 · update #1
I don't see any percentage in lying. What's the point? The truth always has a way of coming out in the end anyway, so why not just stick to it?
Happiness about lying?
How happy do you feel when you're suddenly called out on the carpet after a lie has been discovered?
2007-12-29 01:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the only time I'm lying to my sweet heart is when she asks me if she's too fat! She isn't by the way, she's lost it long time ago, and I don't have to fib or lie about that no more. (sometimes like it or not a man has to be diplomatic about these things and a lie is the only recourse in diplomacy, unless you have no fear of the couch at night time)
The other times are when I want to surprise her, on her birthday or for a present at Christmas. I remember once about ten years ago I told her the biggest lie I ever told her, and at the end of the day she walked into a surprise birthday party completely unaware of what I'd set up for her. Boy was she ever surprised.
But no, I don't lie to her. I've really nothing to lie about. It has never served a purpose for me and I doubt it ever will.
2007-12-29 09:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most cases you shouldn't have to lie at all, there is most always a way to tell the truth if you give it some intelligent thought. if you are lieing to keep from hurting someones feelings then you have to make that decision on your own..it's not a good thing to hurt ones feelings, but again its not good to lie if you did it to not hurt then you should have no problem living with the lie no one could blame you, but if you lie to save your own skin then it's a whole different ball game. If you did not live up to someones expectations and you said you did, tell them the truth , they will respect you for it and be happy because you told the truth, it's never to late...they love you! thats what loves about.
2007-12-29 11:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Terriblterry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lying to someone you love can well be the choice of a lesser evil... that is when telling the truth is expected to do more damage to the loved one than living with a lie. However, the Hell breaks lose when the lie gets discovered. I suppose one just keeps hoping the lie wont be discovered.... as I said, it is just the lesser of the two evils.
2007-12-29 09:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you lying? Is it to spare the feelings of the one you love? Is it to protect them in some way? If so, you may lie without regretting it too much. Otherwise, honesty is the best policy.
2007-12-29 09:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will be devastated if you tell them the absolute, unadorned truth about themselves and their relationships. In the end, another person cannot know everything, and the idea of "lying" or even "telling the truth" is but a twist upon "judgment" and depends heavily on point of view. Some people require lies in order to keep from being forced to face things they will refuse to face if they are stated baldly. This usually results in fighting and name-calling and general bad feeling. If you know a person cannot handle the truth, you can either keep silent or, if pressed, tell a lie that will not (in their own fragile mind) force them to retaliate and hurl blame and vitriol onto your head. If you are willing to weather the vitriol, go for it, but most times it is safer and kinder to allow people to live in their illusions until they decide they are ready to face reality. I wouldn't force my version of reality on someone who wasn't ready for it.
2007-12-29 09:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. would the lying save their feelings, or yours? You probably know whether the lying was right or wrong. A little white lie may not be so bad, if it's the kind like "Does this dress make me look fat?" (and it does, but you say no.)
I think you probably already know the answer to this question. And if in doubt, look it up in the Bible. (Hint: its a commandment; thou shall not bear false witness to any man)
2007-12-29 09:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a lie, or truth.. so how either one makes you feel is really a power trip in your own head.. If you feel you speak truths, and it makes you feel some way then fine, if you speak lies, and it makes you feel some way, then fine too..
Its all in your head!
2007-12-29 10:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by ~{The Contessa}~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 47 years and I probably told some little white lies I call them to make the wife feel good ( you like her outfit or her makeup). Personally I feel one does not powder or paint to look good. One should not tell lies to a loved one that could be harmful or denigrate the person.
2007-12-29 09:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i lie to to my children about is my financial matters. i dont believe they should know exactly where we're standing.. it may traumatize them, or on the other hand, give them over confidence..i just tell them, everything is going to be alright..
2007-12-29 09:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why lie in the first place? Doesn't it shatter the fragile trust that was built between the two of you to begin with. Once you lose trust, forget it.
but to answer your ques, I would think, you would be unhappy about your guilt, thus making you miserable, and they would sense you are miserable and then they would be upset , too.
2007-12-29 09:24:37 · answer #11 · answered by gift shopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋