I have been living with my exhusband for the last 6 yrs and it has been great.We bought this house together and we share it. He has his room and I have mine. We always tell each other that we love one another, but the sex isn't there. And that is a choice we made together. We get along great. My kids who are in their 20's don't ever want us to marry each other again.lol Our family is very close and them seeing their parents together is something that most kids don't see when their parents divorce.I wouldn't change anything about our situation. If it's not broke,why fix it. Right! So what is your opinion. Only serious anwers please.
2007-12-29 01:13:53 · 31 answers · asked by sassynspunky03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it is certainly possible for me to love my family and not be intimate with them, so it is possible for you to love your ex-husband and not be intimate with him. You should do what you think is best for the both of you and your kids and everyone else's opinions shouldn't matter.
Good luck,
Dana
2007-12-29 01:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dana A 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you two are the best of friend.. you have made divorce work for the both of you...great!!!! If it is working out... then that is all that matters....I'm very happy to see two divorce people have a happy ending... start a happy beginning together.... most married people end up with the same relationship.... just room mates... there is nothing wrong with this... sometimes liking a person is more important than the hot sex thing .... that doesn't last...Good for you two.....I say ... put on the coffee pot and read the paper...
2007-12-29 01:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My partner and I have the very same relationship, but she seems to have no issue with the no sex part, our kids have left home and are now on thier own as well and we still do all the family stuff together, we don't have seperate rooms but that might make it easier if we did like the two of you, all I know is that life is filled with people who are in different types of relationships and familkies these days that are nothing like the time we grew up in, your situation is no different, if your happy and you have no desire to be sexual with each other and it works, then relax and enjoy the friendship, if you feel like something is missing then go out and find it, we all deserve to have the love and passion we want and desire, take care and good luck.
2007-12-29 01:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jazz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know of your limitiation but my heart and my love know no boundries and I can love as many people as I wanted ad infinitum. The problem for me would be time, I can only be with, support, care for and give my devoted time to so many people. Now love is love, so how can a mother love her mother, her children and her husband and possibly siblings but not have enough love for just 2 men or vis versa. Youll undoubtedly say those are different, and mayhaps for you they are but when I strip away all the other emotions love just feels like love to me no matter who its directed at. Now I have an entirely different relationship and compiliation of feeligns for my wife then I do for my sister, mother or close lady freinds. So to answer an indirect question for if I could be devoted as a husband to two woman, well that comes down alot to how much needs those woman have. Some woman dont want or need thier man 24/7, and thus leave him plenty of room for other expressions of his time, and if he chose that time to be emotionally close and supportive to another person, man or woman, I dont see that as any worse then spending teh same time drooling at the T.V. Undoubtedly many will disagree. Though this again all depends on the maturity, honesty and intentions of all involved.
2016-05-27 17:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is still broke! Living together with out the commitment of marriage is dangerous. You don't want to have relations with each other by choice. Is it possible that this would mean you could go elsewhere for attention. Marriage is a commitment not just on paper but the vows to stay together and love only each other. Nobody else! Just you and your partner. Sexual relations do not make a marriage. But the commitment you made when you first got married does. Best wishes and I hope you reevaulte your situation. Get counseling even. Don't give up!
2007-12-29 01:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mike S 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I lived in a relationship exactly like yours. One day, my Wife woke up and looked in the mirror. We found out that we were each craving love and we weren't getting that kind of love in the situation we were in. You should not stay together just to please your adult children and extended family. Remember how fast life goes by. Everyday without the physical love is another day without total happiness. I'm sure you miss intimacy and would like to feel like a woman again. You can love your guy as a good and trusted friend but you are both taking the safe road instead of having a life.
2007-12-29 01:22:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
exactly! if it's not broke don't even try to fix it!!!!!
it's ok to love someone and not be intimate, afterall sex is just a part of love in a relationship. if both of you are happy not to have intimacy/sex, that's perfectly fine. who's the judge? who says you have to? you don't.
you should tell your kids that whatever you do is your business, not theirs, and that they should support you and your husbands happiness and togetherness, and feel elated that your happy. i soooo wish people wouldn't judge as they do because this world would be a much better place to live!
happiness means everything including the world wether you have intimacy or not. i'm glad for you that your happy, don't let others try and bring you down and destroy your happiness.
keep on loving!!!!!
2007-12-29 01:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by CALIFORNIADREAMING 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why isnt the sex there? Are either of you with someone else? Are you just roommates or do you actually spend time together doing things? It may be that you are just comfortable with eachother & the living arrangements? But don't you think you deserve more out of life?
2007-12-29 03:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by kah35 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I live my life that way everyday.... our children are much younger and although you hear all the time "don't stay together for the kids" if it works and everyone is happy, why not? I have been married for 8 yrs now with 4 kids and we do have strong love for one another, he is my best friend, but I don't feel "that" way for him and we both are content as we are for now.... maybe it will backfire later on but with young kids, to us, it's worth trying. Good luck and as long as you are both OK with the situation then live happy!
2007-12-29 01:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Since you are asking this question you must be thinking about it. Sometimes sex doesn't complicate things and you do need it! I am sure I wouldn't be able to live with a man and not be doing it! Come on, have some fun, you deserve it!
2007-12-29 01:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi there.
People love each other without being intimate all the time.
The only issue you will have to address is, that this situation will change and one of you will meet someone else or rediscover a feeling that will alter it all.
So enjoy, but remember it will change again.
Good luck, Steve.
2007-12-29 01:19:49 · answer #11 · answered by Steve J 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋