confrontation?

Question

My husbands sis and husbands bro's wife have started picking on me again. Both have a history of making me look like the enemy, my husband's brothers wife is a real drama queen, she just starts crying and expects sympathy from everyone. I dont know why they do it, but for some reason they find any excuse to start conflict with me, it could even be something as petty as "you said a size 10 won't fit, so you think I'm that large!", or my husband's sis would go out of her ways to make me feel jealous, which I find really childish. Either way what I've noticed is that once a problem does start it ends up with everyone e.g my husbands brothers acting distant from me for a while which is what my sister in laws desire, I feel they want everyone in the family to think bad of me. I am a phd student and also a television model, my work has suffered as a result. My husbands brothers wife is a housewife so she has got all the time in the world to gossip.

they even had the nerve to call me for xmas dinner, my husband went but I didnt. I later received a text that night saying "hey listen! I know you said you had a stomach ache but you could have come, you obviously dont know what the meaning of family is etc.". I dont want to be around these type of people anymore so I felt not going was the best approach

I was thinking of emailing them and telling them exactly what I think of them, I'd rather email coz if I telephone then I might end of really angry!.

Answer 1

perhaps they envy your potential success.all sound a bit
prod-antic to me a trait of fern associated with groups of successful people. you know nature doesn't allow people to stand still and become accustomed to a good thing and lie on their laurels. trouble will always start when there's nothing else to do, it just nature ensuring that we continue to advance. why not tell the peasants not to rise above there social status and use word words like your being very prod-antic today. and does your husband really love you because if he does and he thinks your in the right he would stick up for you. if not give an ultimatum

Answer 2

So, basically, your in-laws suck. Welcome to the world some of us call "I f'd up and married into the wrong family". You can't change them, niether can your husband, who sounds like a wussy anyway. Why isn't he standing up for. I only say that because you make no mention of him except that he went to Xmas dinner w/o you. He doesn't sound very supportive. I mean, come on, you're asking perfect strangers about this when you ought to be having a chit-chat w/ hubby! And, is it important or necessary for you to around these nasty people. What? do you all live in a one room house. Let it go. And TELL your husband to grow some b***s. Children first, wife second, family third, friends fourth, work last.

Answer 3

Depends on where libra falls on your birth chart. If your sun in libra then your energy would be weak, Aries is exalted in sun and libra fall in sun because of their nature who needs to seek permission and rely on people so much in their life. It can be a sweet thing but thats not the prime effect of Sun. So i believe libra in sun are firm believer of avoiding confrontations at all cost. I'm talking about the confrontation, ones require physical strength. Mercury in libra might have this traits as well because they often feel like they are way more smarter to prove you that your wrong, so why waste the time. You do have to realize that 70% of libra are attached to law firms so you can't say they avoid confrontations all the time, maybe when it comes to them and they know that they are right and if the person who libra have to confront is total idiot why waste ur time ?

Answer 4

Right there with you. I didn't go to xmas because they all say they love and support my husband and I but then turn around and tell flat out LIES! I have told the entire family I will no longer be a part of their games. My husband has to take our children over there occasionally but I will not go again. I need to surround myself with love and support and they don't do that. Funny thing is, my husband and I get along better when I put his mother and sister in law in their place.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like it's all a matter of seeking attention!
You being a "TV model" and all..thier just jealous that YOU'RE the one getting all the attention girl...
Don't let them get to you...in-laws are always critics &
seem to cause problems for most couples...Don't let that be the cause of your relationship with your husband!
It's a childish behavior that they insult or put your down when all they seek are your faults & weeknesses.Sounds like you have many good qualities,keep those up front!

Answer 6

ohh you stand your ground girl
these immature ppl will eat you alive if you give them an open door
they are going to pick and pick
the more you don't respond will send them into a frenzy
keep your distance and live life with your husband without them
and tell him why
it is not you who r wrong
and no one should pacify the spoiled brat routine
my Christmas was almost ruined by both my mother in law and my own mother doing the same thing
let them stew
its good entertainment
but don't ever respond

Answer 7

PhD student but don't know the difference between ie and eg or the plural of sister-in-law? And don't even think of the apostrophes! O tempora! O mores!

Answer 8

You should do what feels comfortable for you. These people obviously have some issues so why let their unhealthy behavior make you feel bad. Don't let them effect what you do and enjoy.

Answer 9

i wouldnt of went either its true you cant pick your familly but you dont have to hang around with them to be made to feel bad
i have people in my familly like that too drama queens i get picked on to the way i deal with it is get drunk at all familly get togethers lol now i get picked on for being the drunk who cares atleast i have fun hehehe u can email me if you like [e-mail]

Answer 10

couldn't you put this in your first question? haha

don't think they are going away from you , you may be going away from them, go to them , don't isolate yourself