If you wanted to send someone a sympathy card cause a friends dad died, would you? My mom said no to giving me

Question

Ma said no cause they have not talked to these people in many years like 10 years so she said no to ginving me an address ... I wanted to reconnect with an old friend and send them a card and rebuild a friendship. Is taht so bad. Is my Ma wrong? I think so.

Answer 1

I would send a card...

Answer 2

Sometime families don't see or contact each other for years. So go ahead and send a card. give them a piece of your heart and remind them of the words in John 5:28-29. There is hope for seeing loved ones again. Be sincere and you just might reconnect again. Best wishes.

Answer 3

I think death trumps all trivial quarrels. If you want to send a sympathy card to your friend, then go ahead. Sign your name only so your mom can't say that you represented your family. If you wish to find the address of your friend, use People Search on Yahoo. Or maybe you could ask the person who informed you of the death to pass your message along.
I think you have a very commendable compassionate character for wanting to express your sympathy despite your mother's opposition.

Answer 4

My mom just died in October and meant alot to me to get cards.

You can look them up on the internet or call someone else who may have the address and send a card.

I think that is a nice thing regardless of why you have not spoken in all those years.

Answer 5

I'm sure it is a difficult time for your friend and their family. Loosing someone that you love is terrible. Maybe something in your Mom's past ended the friendship under bad circumstances. I understand the feelings to want to offer your sympathy, but you also have to keep peace with your family. Maybe you can try discussing it in a reasonable manner with your Mom. But keep in mind that you need to honor your Mom's feelings and wishes too. Maybe she feels that you are too young to have to deal with this situation at this point in time. Best of luck!

Answer 6

I just sent a sympathy card online. I typed in the city, got the name of a local newspaper and clicked obituaries. The rest is self explanatory. Good luck! (Your mom should put aside past differences when someone dies)

Answer 7

My husbands father died many years ago after the fact a man who they both knew was at a store or something and my husband asked why he did not go to the funeral the man said I did not go see him much in life why would I want to see him in death. This gained my husbands respect it made sense to him.
You do what you feel but I see your Mothers point can you.

Answer 8

I think it would be appropriate to send a card. I think ur mother is wrong on this one, try to talk to her.... see if u can get the address from someone else.

Answer 9

I think you should send a card, just because you havent talked to them in years doesnt matter. It would be different if you didnt know them. I say you go for it, you never know what might come out of it.

Answer 10

GO FOR IT! And congratulations of being mature and decent enough to value friendship and expressions of sympathy more than past slights. You rock!!!

PS I would not hold it against your mother. She is where she is in the process of living, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 11

I think you have the spirit of forgiveness and reconcilliation in you and that is a truly lovely characteristic. You don't need your Mother's permission to get in touch and do the right thing. I admire you for your kind heart. God bless you in your mending of bridges.

Happy New Year.

Lisa