i cant stand it any more...im 13 anorexic with bulimic tendencies and a few weeks ago i told my friends (i swear, the biggest mistake of my life) we have grown appart alot! i dont even think i like them anymore..they just take it as a joke and one of them says she wants to be anorexic!nd they think i like it and i want to be anorexic! and it hurts when they say things like you cut yourself for attention...what should i do about them...and talking to them wont help xx??
2007-12-29 00:23:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
bev t again we meet from across the universe,please,please do me a favour and go and see your local GP or go to an emergency room.they have people who can help you with your problem.don't be embarrassed,it it not uncommon for young girls to suffer the way you are suffering today.they can start you on pills .but the sooner you get these the better,as they can take a couple of weeks to get into the system and start working.please contact me on my email and let me know what is happening.i really do care and want you to start looking after yourself.you have a long and wonderful life ahead of you.try to have a happy new near.please take care..David
2007-12-29 12:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you don't want to hear the usual crap about growing up, fine.
You need to like yourself first before anyone else can like you. When you look in the mirror, who do you see? You should see beauty. If you don't, stand there until you do!
Each of us has been given something unique that seperates us from everyone else, find your gift.
As far as cutting yourself for attention, they're right. You're looking for help and want someone to know you're around and hurting. Good in theory, but try another tactic please!
Find someone, anyone who you feel comfortable with and TALK TALK TALK TALK.
Cry, yell, scream, rant, rave, let it out. Let it ALL out.
Expression of your feelings will free you alot. Think of it as a cleansing. As soon as the words come out of your mouth and you hear yourself, the healing can begin. There's alot going on in the mind of yours, write it down. Find out what stresses you to the point of vomit. It's more than thinking your overweight, it's low self esteem. Believe in yourself. Maybe you won't ever be a beauty queen, but you just might find the cure for cancer. God made you for a reason - don't know what that is or if you'll ever get the chance to fulfill that reason, but live as if you are gifted, because you are.
2007-12-29 00:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ann S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up Bev T. Get help from your parents and a doctor. You're still young so there is still a chance. If your friends make you feel bad and they dont help you become a better person then they're not good friends. Maybe you should dis them Being anorexic is all in the head... you need serious help. You cut yourself? Gosh dont do that... Talk to an adult. and take care
2007-12-29 00:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by primandproper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm sorry about what has happened with your friends, but it sounds like they can't really understand. Although you are the same age it sounds as if you have had a lot more life than them and they are just a bit too young to understand what is going on in you're head.
It's hard not being able to talk to your friends, but there are other people you can talk to who will understand what is going on with you and help you to start sorting through some stuff. Do you realise what a great step it is to realise that you need to talk to someone?
If you're not comfortable talking to you parents or a teacher or your doctor, try these guys. You can email them or call them and they really do understand.
Best of luck.
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2007-12-29 00:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jooles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing I would do is to seek professional help .
I don't think it is a good idea to discuss this problem with anyone who is not sympathetic. of those who would be the most sympathetic may be you parents. often times they are more understanding than you think.
I am a sixty six year old man who for most of my life was over weight.I tried rverything I knew to lose weight ,after many years I was sucessful now I an concidered by everyone to be erall muscular but to me I am stil that fat kid that everyone teased,go figgure.
life is so short, I know that to you it may be hard to imagin but it seems like yesterday that I was thirteen.
whatever it is that overwhelms you will pass.When you look back on it in a few years you may wonder why it seemed so hard to deal with.
I would say to you in closing, hang on don't give up, find friends that are sympethic and talk to your school counsoler.good luck and may the spirit of peace be upon you.
2007-12-29 00:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by littleblackeagle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love and like yourself first before anyone else will
You need to get some professional and medical help - there really is alot that can be done with your anorexia. Have faith there.
If talking to them wont help then DONT talk to them at all.
As far as friends, you are correct on what they really are and finding new ones. They are not worth you wasting your time.
Also find something that you like to do and focus on that activity and that will be a good way to find friends.
2007-12-29 00:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you were just joking to see what they would say. They would probobly believe anything you say. If they don't believe you, then talk to them and let them know how much you trust them and that it hurts you when they make fun of you.
Please talk to your parents about this matter. You need help and you can't solve it yourself with out help. You don't have to live like this. If you have to, I'm sure your parents can help you find a solution. Please talk to your parents. I will pray for you. As for your friends, they are immature for making jokes like that. Just ignore them and move on. Don't mention anthing about it to them or any one in school. Don't give it the attention. Just go on your normal way at school.
2007-12-29 00:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people are making a joke of your situation they are not your friends
Get control of your life sounds like you need help make yourself eat stop hurting yourself show the world just who you can be I believe in you show them all you will be someone someday then look at all those that hurt you and smile.
2007-12-29 01:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by datsleather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom or a counselor it sounds like you are reaching out for help but no one is listening. This is a dangerous thing and I think you are very brave for even telling another soul. Overlook your friends they don't understand what you are dealing with, go straight to someone who can help you and get you treatment. You can do it!
2007-12-29 00:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by ~* Amber *~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget them. You need to find love and respect for yourself. If you learn to do that, you will find friends that love and support you. You are too young to see it now but I will tell you... You are beautiful. You are smart. You are funny. You are loved. You are a good person. Don't let others and their ignorance cause you any grief. Good luck. LOVE YOURSELF. RESPECT YOURSELF. I wish someone would have told me that when I was 13. I hope it helps you.
2007-12-29 00:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋