the answers community says.. it's bad for my marriage...
now.. i hint, i tell - he gets defensive and annoyed. and says i'm small minded jealous, this that.
so what's the best way. how would u react if ur a guy, what's the best way to tell you that I don't like it and I don't want it....
Thanks, God bless.
2007-12-29 00:15:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, this is very scary, & you have every right to be concerned, but to be honest, theirs not much you can do, as a persons gonna do what their gonna do, & the more you try to speak to him about this, the more uglier it shall get, so your gonna need to try a different approach, as talking to him isnt the answer. So I say, if it really bothers you & you dont want him doing this, then its time to fight for what you believe in. So I think bringing in a 3rd party is your answer, a third party is someone outside of your marriage, such as a therapist, I know he might be the kinda guy who refuses to go seek help, but he will go, you just gotta demand it, & keep in mind, you need to give yourself more credit here, you are very capable of gaining control in this marriage & getting what you want, but you need to take charge & not ask, but do.
2007-12-29 00:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that is all he is doing it is a miracle and you shouldn't worry about it. You want to know the truth? You don't believe me? You don't have to believe me, check his cell phone records including his work cell phone. Check all his email addresses including work not just the email address he uses with you. After you do that internet femal friends with be the least of your worries!!! Here are the facts of life you obviously haven't learned yet:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-29 01:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did that when he started an affair. What I did was..I started to have my own close internet male friends. He got jealous and I reply, "Thank God you feel how I feel." Then I told him if he stops, I stop. He stopped but did it the other way..short messaging on mobile phone. I did it too, he got jealous..and got really angry. He stopped doing all those nonsense since then. I told him if I ever caught him red handed again, DIVORCE is the answer.
2007-12-29 00:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by tiara 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he's chatting with those female friends, sit beside him and ask sweetly if you could join the conversation... Tell you're not jealous just wanting to know how things are and hint that if you like it, you might even want to have internet male friends...
2007-12-29 00:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I particularly have some pals who I exchange emails with usually. i've got by no skill met any of them in person yet might prefer to fulfill all of them. i'm making new pals for all time so at some point, i will meet one in each of them. i comprehend the female of my targets is obtainable someplace. Jack .
2016-10-09 08:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with him having close female friends and no it is not bad for yourf marriage only your mental state is playing games with your mind. Love him through thick and thin im sure he love you like that
2007-12-29 00:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kim from Sydney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest, that if you can, get involved with the internet chat room he is in, and have fun with it... or get a hold of his password, and change his display to something that would hint he is married and/or taken.
:) I wish you all the best...
xoxo Much Love,
Georgia A.K.A cyber nerd x
2007-12-29 00:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by billiejoeishot211 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what he's up to with them I guess. If they're just friends who like to message back and forth, I wouldn't see a problem with it. If it's flirting or cybering though, I'd tell him to knock it off or move out and marry his right hand.
2007-12-29 00:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd say to him that if he keeps going then i'm filing for divorce. He seems obsessed with these other girls and finds them more interesting than u, its either he's tired of u or ur not paying enough attention.....disconnect the internet.
2007-12-29 00:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you feel and ask him to imagine if you had internet male friends and you talked to them all the time, but make sure it isnt anything but harmless conversation first
2007-12-29 00:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋