Did you ever lost someone close to you by death?

Question

if so, how did you cope?

Answer 1

I was 29 when I lost my 48 year old mother to emphysema.
I spent the last four years of her life caring for her every need, including, but not limited to bathing her, and administering IV medications.
I'm still not sure how it is that I get through. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of June 26, 2003. Every time I look at my son, I feel like I'm an orphan. At 33, I don't need the mothering that my 8 year old needs, but I do still need her.
I feel her near me though, sometimes. I know she's here somewhere, trying to help me when I think I'm not doing what I should be, and I question my actions. Maybe I have coped by integrating her into myself, so it doesn't feel like she's completely and irretrievably gone.
Blessed Be
~Dawna~

Answer 2

Yes, I don't think that you can ever cope or live with it, you will still miss that person and always feel the void that they have left behind, but the thing is that life will help you get busy and move on even with the lose effect still part of your life. It is just a matter of time, believe me, time does heal everything.

Answer 3

Yes i have. I lost two close friends in high school. Coping with it in many ways. I wrote about them, i cried and talked to other people going through the same thing. Also remembered them for everything nice things or good things they had done.

Answer 4

yes I have lost many over the years, grandparents parents and recently a very close friend. I thoought by now I would be used to the process of grief but though I recognise the stages I find it very hard still. Time does heal of course. For me I find some time spent with those who knew the person help a little, we can share good timesd and have a laugh.
I also found that it is ok to be angry with the one we have lost.Life does go on it is true, I still make time for my mum and still talk to her often although she died long ago. Some times it`s nice to think she is near and I believe she oftern is...

Answer 5

I sure did, in 2001 a baby boy and a baby girl both grand children ,it was the worst time of my life and I don't think I will ever recover from it.
I cried for weeks an weeks but pretended I was OK for my son and wife.
The one thing that helps me now is I will join them a lot sooner than I ever imagined "I have a fatal disease"
They were not twins one was March the other was in November

Answer 6

yes, i have lost many family members and friends over the years. the worst was my father because we were soo close..
you cope with it by taking things one day at a time,keeping yourself buisy and crying a lot..
everyone that looses a loved one or friend has to go through the grieving process. this could take weeks or months to work through,but if you dont let yourself go through it then you can never completely heal

Answer 7

Yes. I coped with the help of family and friends.

Answer 8

My best friend died 11 years ago this coming new years eve. It was very difficult because we were arguing over a boy and I didn't go to the party because of it. She died that night at the party. I have found that time does heal. Now that I am grown, I know that she wouldn't want me to take that with me through life, I let that go. Now I just remember her fondly. She was a ballerina. Anytime I see the nutcracker, I just smile and tell her I love her.

Answer 9

I just lost my great-grandmother the day after Christmas. Her health had deteriorated in the weeks preceding Christmas, so we could see it coming, which is both painful and a blessing. I just wish she didn't have to have such bad quality of life near the end. As much as you try to think "they're in a better place," you wonder why it can't be some place where you could still see them.

Answer 10

Yes. You cope by knowing there are others worse off than you and that others in the family need you.